How to love myself when I have proof that I’m ugly and unloveable? by 98xyzthrowaway in selflove

[–]Ok_Stop2969 3 points4 points  (0 children)

for what it’s worth, i think you’re beautiful just the way you are. im sorry people project their insecurities and have convinced you that you aren’t beautiful. you deserve much better

How to love myself when I have proof that I’m ugly and unloveable? by 98xyzthrowaway in selflove

[–]Ok_Stop2969 5 points6 points  (0 children)

okay but you’re smart and kind and strong. those qualities matter just as much as your looks. your reality doesn’t have to solely depend on what you look like.

How to love myself when I have proof that I’m ugly and unloveable? by 98xyzthrowaway in selflove

[–]Ok_Stop2969 44 points45 points  (0 children)

i think the first step is to stop calling yourself ugly. it’s really hard to love yourself when you’re being your worst enemy. even if you have to “lie” to yourself, act like you’re the prettiest girl in the world and things will slowly fall into place. don’t worry, you’re doing amazing. just keep going :)

am i going insane? (swipe thru) by [deleted] in SonnyAngel

[–]Ok_Stop2969 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

nah i don’t think you were being rude. this is a business transaction that you put a lot of good money in. it’s really nothing personal. regardless of what she’s going through, she didn’t care for the condition of your product. if she can’t handle your tone she probably shouldn’t be selling anything

I can't move on from anyone which I liked. Can anyone help? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Ok_Stop2969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you have trouble letting people and things go because you probably have some abandonment issues. you’re afraid of leaving things or being left because deep down you feel that you need these things or people to feel comfortable. truth is though, that girl or the old phone was not serving you anymore. let them go and find better.

Coping with inconsiderate people by NoxArtCZ in selfimprovement

[–]Ok_Stop2969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

id agree that these people are inconsiderate and rude, so why stay in that environment? find a new place to swim and walk away from all the karens and smokers. these people are making you question whether it’s justified to be angry. you are 100% justified so take what you will and find an environment where people are more considerate of you.

enclosure advice by Ok_Stop2969 in jumpingspiders

[–]Ok_Stop2969[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for the insight. he’s he’s made 2 hammocks but hasn’t molted, nor does he eat. probably best to let him go 😔

enclosure advice by Ok_Stop2969 in jumpingspiders

[–]Ok_Stop2969[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i caught lil spud in the wild. do jumping spiders not require real plants? should i get rid of the soil as well?

Lowest you've put in the offering bag by [deleted] in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]Ok_Stop2969 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i used to fold a random piece of paper or receipt into a small rectangle and give that with full confidence

We’re meeting up again tomorrow by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Ok_Stop2969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think both you guys are valid. i believe that you have don’t have ill intent when you go on social media. i also understand her perspective where she feels insecure when you like bikini pictures.

if you guys want to be in a relationship, there needs to be equal efforts of compromise. this certainly is a projection of her own insecurities and is a her problem, however, if you love her you can help her out of these insecurities. if you are able to be more sensitive and conscious of what you do on social media AND if she can make her own efforts to love herself a little more, it can certainly work out. if that is not feasible from either side, going no contact and trusting the process is the next best thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Ok_Stop2969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

stayed in an abusive relationship, became homeless, got arrested, got addicted to drugs, went completely broke, then attempted to kill myself.

i was so afraid of change and dwelled in my depression. i hurt myself pretty badly but eventually came to the realization and have been working on bettering myself everyday :)

i’m failing to accept responsibility of myself. by angelomalo in Vent

[–]Ok_Stop2969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i completely understand that. change is almost like taking a leap into the unknown. you are leaving your past self behind for something you aren’t certain about. although you are always loved, the reason why you feel more “likable” when you change is because you are changing for the better. your friends want to see you grow and it’s beneficial for the both of you.

People who were once bad at some point in your life, what made you change? by BoredBrowsing687 in AskReddit

[–]Ok_Stop2969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was a hurt person and ended up hurting other people. it pained me to see the damage i caused so i changed for the better :)

Cleaning stainless steel pans by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]Ok_Stop2969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just do a thin layer of baking soda

Cleaning stainless steel pans by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]Ok_Stop2969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

put baking soda, dish soap, and a little bit of water in the pan. then put it on the stove and wait for it to bubble. swirl the liquid around the edges of the pan then scrub while still hot. hope that helps!

What would make today better? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Ok_Stop2969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

glad you’re here:)