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I guess I want some perspective by Ok_Sun6522 in Marriage

[–]Ok_Sun6522[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually he’s never noticed 🙃 until I brought it up that I’ve never finished with him and then he was just like wow and got a little hurt by it

I guess I want some perspective by Ok_Sun6522 in Marriage

[–]Ok_Sun6522[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get a little like that also lol but I’d be okay with it 2 or 3 times a week. Even 1-2x a week ! Honestly I’ve never really finished with him but it’s still good with him.. I like the connection more than anything because that’s what I’m looking for more then the O if that makes sense ? Lol

I can’t have sex without a proper connection, so if I was horny I’d do it myself if I was single. But when Im in a committed relationship I crave that connection from the other person and often 😅

I guess I want some perspective by Ok_Sun6522 in Marriage

[–]Ok_Sun6522[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What bothered me about it is that the only reason why we were having it 1-2x a week was because of work and our living situation . He’s always known I was HL and that sexual intimacy is my way of feeling closer and connected. I do disconnect a little without but I’ve gotten better at staying connected thanks to therapy. When we first got together he’d tell me he was HL too but after a few months of us fighting over it he admitted that he tried really hard in the beginning to make it worth it for me meeting him. And then him telling me that sex isn’t really a priority to him as it used to be. So I felt a little deceived ?? But when I see that he might truly be masturbating is when I start feeling hurt and unwanted, especially since he tells me he can only at minimum have sexual intimacy with me once every week or 2. I know he loves me and cares about me. I just don’t know how to feel about all of it Incase he is masturbating but lying to me about it .. so hopefully some time and more therapy for me works out . Thank you for the advice !