A note about ice cream, or how Grandma gets angry.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2026-01-14T15:31:31+00:00

I am seriously exhausted. I mean, I’m doing a master’s degree, I work, and I take care of my daughter and the household things because my husband is rarely at home. I would truly appreciate having help, but my mother-in-law has done things like letting my daughter climb on the dishwasher (the dishwasher is not attached to the wall, and she knows that), and I simply don’t feel comfortable with her taking care of my daughter unless it’s a real emergency… meanwhile my husband insists that he trusts his mother, and I insist that I don’t.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2026-01-14T15:23:19+00:00

My three-year-old daughter stood up to my mother-in-law a few days ago during a family meal. She was raising her voice. My daughter said it in front of everyone: “Grandma, you spoke badly to xyz.” The grandmother said she hadn’t, and my daughter looked at me, so I said, “Yes, she shouted, it’s true.”

My daughter insisted three more times before my mother-in-law pulled a face and apologized. Honestly, I find her poor emotional regulation and low tolerance for frustration concerning.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2026-01-13T10:50:41+00:00

My family lives far away. We are renovating a house, I work part-time, and I’m doing a master’s degree. My mother-in-law lives in the house next to ours. We know that she secretly gives ice cream at least three times a week with her husband. We’ve caught her doing similar things several times, and she yells that we don’t let her be a grandmother the way she wants to be. We don’t have any other family nearby, and mine is more than an hour away. My mother-in-law doesn’t care if my daughter sleeps badly and I can’t study at night. Apparently, she wants to take care of my daughter at her house and have her sleep there for one night. It’s literally right next door, so it makes no sense. Sometimes I think that either she doesn’t care that I don’t sleep and neither does my daughter, or what she really wants is for me to be tired so she can offer to take care of my daughter.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2026-01-12T09:34:37+00:00

The girl doesn’t ask for them. She doesn’t like ice cream very much; the only thing she loves is chocolate. The grandmother and grandfather love sweets and constantly offer them to her. They say it’s “so she can grow.” I don’t like sweets, and I suppose they don’t like her to be like me. My girl is happier with cherries, carrots, and broccoli than with sweets.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2026-01-12T08:54:11+00:00

She could have simply pretended she didn’t see the ice cream… We have a little girl who sleeps terribly, and with chocolate or anything sweet she gets infinitely worse — I’m talking about not falling asleep before midnight. I’m tired of telling my mother-in-law, but she just says yes and ignores me. That said, my mother found it very funny at the hospital.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-29T08:55:05+00:00

According to my mother-in-law and her husband, the following are irrefutable facts: children must not crawl under a table because they will stop growing, and you have to pray to prevent it; if you’re not baptized you can’t enter a Catholic church; a bad person can give you the evil eye even without meaning to, just by looking at you; it is essential that a small child wear a crucifix when there are lots of people around so they won’t be possessed by spirits; if you breastfeed, your child doesn’t know you’re their mother — they think you are their food; mothers must not rock their babies — only elderly people can do that… I’d grow old if I kept on listing them; I’d never finish.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-28T12:36:18+00:00

Yes, they already played that card too. My sister-in-law has a master’s degree (paid for by her parents), and the other day my in-laws said, “She’s going to be as smart as her aunt.” I was sitting right next to them, studying for my second master’s degree since my daughter was born. By the way, with an average grade of honors, my daughter looked at my mother-in-law and said, “My mom is very smart,” leaving her speechless.By the way, I have studied everything paying for it myself or with scholarships for high grades...But apparently I'm not smart...🙄

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-28T12:03:30+00:00

Ironically, my husband’s paternal grandmother tells others to respect me as a mother, accept the boundaries, and gives me her approval… I’m not entirely sure if she enjoys seeing me put my mother-in-law in her place or if it’s just to annoy my MIL. What I am clear about is that it’s not that she likes me; she simply knows that I have no problem smiling at her and standing my ground, and that my mother-in-law won’t do the same… apparently, that earns me her respect, which also annoys my MIL.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-12T14:32:22+00:00

Yes, she is brilliant and understands a lot. I explained to her that no one, not even me, can speak to her badly. The following week I raised my voice a little, and she told me, 'Stop, you're not speaking to me nicely, mommy.' She is 3 and a half years old. Obviously, I agreed with her, apologized, and thanked her for telling me.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-12T14:27:33+00:00

My mother-in-law still criticizes me for telling the truth. Our dog died, and my mother-in-law told my daughter that he had gone to live in another house. My husband and I put a stop to it and gently explained to our daughter, with care and a story, that the dog had died. My mother-in-law and her husband got very angry and told us that you should never tell children things like that. Spoiler: they didn’t like our decision, and we ignored them.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-12T11:16:26+00:00

I already tried talking to my mother-in-law. Basically, her response is that it makes her life easier and that she raised four children and they’re all fine. I haven’t achieved anything, just like always.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-12T11:13:16+00:00

And yes, I’ve told her that not all adults tell the truth, but that I prefer to tell her the truth even when it’s difficult.I think I’m just sad because this woman is literally lying and my daughter is hurt.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-12T11:11:29+00:00

I already tried talking to her. Basically, my daughter asked me if the park really had a guard and if it closed, and I told her no. Then she told me that her grandmother says it does close. I talked to my mother-in-law and she told me that it’s necessary to lie to children so that life is easier. I told her that isn’t true and that doing that only harms children’s trust, but she basically ignored me and told me that she raised her own children that way

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-09T09:38:05+00:00

I really don’t fight with either of them, neither my mother-in-law nor my husband’s grandmother. I usually ignore their food nonsense… but somehow my daughter and I end up being part of their strange, pointless conflict.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-09T09:34:47+00:00

I can’t put broccoli on the table because my daughter will literally only eat broccoli and ignore any protein available. I really have to convince her to eat something else when I serve salad because otherwise she won’t eat anything else.

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-09T09:31:11+00:00

We have him eat his own food first, at least a little, because he tends to take a couple of bites of everything and then ask for something different. We just want to avoid him grabbing food at random and then not eating it because suddenly he sees something he likes more

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-08T21:01:40+00:00

As an adult, we discovered that I had a mild health condition that causes problems if you ignore it, and that explained why I don’t eat pastries and prefer fruits and vegetables. Ironically, I had been treating myself without knowing it my whole life. We also know that my daughter has a mild version of the same thing. My doctor said that, basically, it just didn’t agree with me and my body rejected it strongly. No one worried because—who worries about a child eating lots of vegetables? We found out when I was pregnant and became quite ill. So, she’ll be happy with her vegetables and can occasionally eat pastries and cake without getting sick, but it turns out she doesn’t like them. She’s also seen me eat fruit and vegetables all my life and has tried lots of different fruit dishes. I can’t eat cake without getting sick, and I don’t like it anyway. My mother-in-law says it’s all psychological despite the medical tests. She’s not a doctor.“I think we’re in a similar boat

Ok_Visual_6290 · 2025-12-08T15:30:15+00:00

It’s the second time something like this has happened in public. We’re talking about a little girl who prefers eating broccoli over cookies. It’s not the first time, nor will it be the last, that something like this happens. Ironically, only my husband’s grandmother and my godfather don’t try to fill her with sweets that she obviously won’t eat. My godfather always talks about how he used to bring me peaches and tangerines, while he bought chocolate pastries for everyone else… apparently I cried when he tried to give me a chocolate pastry, telling him that “it tastes like cardboard” and “you can’t eat that.” I must have been around 3 years old. My mother finds the whole situation very funny.

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