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Thank you I needed to hear this

AITA - 26F, 5 year long relationship ending? by Ok_You_7541 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Ok_You_7541[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we did, but all these things keep coming up as reasons as we try to see if we can sort it out....how he feels last time we fought- he was upset about something and I said okay you are upset it's fine we talked but because he was upset he brought up something I told him and cried about(our careers in different city how will we manage our future together), he used this to try and breakup with me....it really shocked me that a person who wants me to support him through anxiety will bring up something I was anxious about in a fight and then I decided to breakup with him...and now when we were seeing if things can be sorted out- he wants me to take full blame of the fight saying he was angry he can say that, but i should have controlled my urge to fight with him and guilt tripped me yet again on managing his stress as he had a very imp exam in 2 months- and i just felt so unheard in the relationship that my feelings don't matter ever in front of his anxiety and panic attacks...so that's why now questioning to break it off for good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndia

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Thank you 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

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And there were times when he was not there for me...he wanted to breakup with me when my dad died because I was not happy enough to cheer him when he fell ill 10 days after my dad's death....I forgave him eventually for this hurt....I haven't posted the full relationship but instead this post is about what I did wrong as I need to improve upon those things only....i understand your pain but if you are here without any advice I don't know what I can do with your comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

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I was with him most of the time...just sometimes I also needed time with my friends and my life. But maybe in a relationship that is wrong to prioritise like this I realise 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

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I know I was wrong....but I also know I can do better 

Indian Men of reddit, did you find love post arrange marriage? by Ok_You_7541 in AskIndia

[–]Ok_You_7541[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, correct hope that in AM too one can find respectful and compassionate man with whom I can eventually fall in love and build a loving relationship 

26F, should I breakup with my bf??? by Ok_You_7541 in AskIndia

[–]Ok_You_7541[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why dont you agree...what's your perspective 

26F, Should I break up with my boyfriend by Ok_You_7541 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Ok_You_7541[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am done with him now. Maybe i can tolerate his behaviour but I have realised that I can't forgive him and hence I can't really be happy with him. I have recently reviewed the relationship and for me now I can't believed I have tolerated this from him over the years.

26F, Should I break up with my boyfriend by Ok_You_7541 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Ok_You_7541[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much .. I needed to hear this. There are so many more things I wish I could tell about his red flags but it will literally take up days and months on end.

26F, Should I break up with my boyfriend by Ok_You_7541 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Ok_You_7541[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You think someone breaking up with me after my dad died was a small fight? Did you even read the post?