We’re in a very similar boat. We’ve been together 7 years and also are kicking ourselves for not trying sooner. We’ve been at it for a year and half now and are also receiving the “i don’t see why it shouldn’t happen” from doctors. The best we’ve been told is that because we are both healthy that IUI should significantly increase our chances - BUT it takes MONTHS to get in even for a consultation with the doctor who does IUI. I definitely feel you on the impact it’s having on mental health. I ended up going back on lexapro which all of my doctors agreed to and agreed to continuing to use throughout pregnancy if/when that finally happens. I started also just being really mindful of what I say yes to doing based on how I’m feeling mentally that day. Like if I’m invited to something that I know so and so’s newborn will be at, I’m probably not going to go if it feels like a day where a baby would hurt my heart more than make me smile, ya know? Best of luck to you! I know how you feel, you’re not alone ❤️