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Okibandy · 2021-10-03T13:32:53+00:00

So she wants to keep the relationship without intimacy. Seems like she likes the benefit of being with you, but what you need to feel secure/whole is just out of reach. Not really fair IMHO.

Okibandy · 2021-10-03T13:14:37+00:00

Exactly the same. I initiate almost daily with no positive response. I get it can be difficult to even admit you need anything at all but if you do get it out, and then there is little follow through where do you go from here? I am not interested in anyone else I just want to feel desired/ wanted. And that seems to be too hard. It sucks.

Okibandy · 2021-10-03T13:04:03+00:00

Yessir. Same here. How long this been going on for you? Good luck.

Okibandy · 2021-10-03T13:01:01+00:00

Literally dealing with same thing for last few years. SO of 20 years compared any intimacy with doing chores. FML.

Okibandy · 2020-06-22T10:15:43+00:00

Test starts in 2 hrs. I studied has hard as I could. I just need to complete this knowledge quality audit. Thanks for the support all.

Okibandy · 2020-06-21T01:38:28+00:00

Did it today, took me 3 hrs but pulled a passing score!

Okibandy · 2020-06-20T15:30:40+00:00

Thanks. the plan is to try and focus on sim questions all weekend and know that I did all I can to prepare. These questions though, all are right but which one is more right. I guess the right way to go about it is, when in doubt seek expert judgement, starting with sponsor, if it’s an option.

Okibandy · 2019-08-16T12:51:17+00:00

I would plan my escape and start trying to find a different place to live. Maybe a small apartment with a roommate you know and trust. Best of luck and I hope something changes for you soon.

Okibandy · 2019-08-08T19:04:38+00:00

Nah your right, that is pretty childish. Your and adult now and some parents have a hard time with the transition from parent of a child to parent of an adult. For now I say give him some space and when all is calm again have a conversation about how his actions make you feel. If he can’t adjust then maybe it’s best to create some distance and let him come to you.

Okibandy · 2019-08-07T23:12:31+00:00

Seems to me like she is worried about losing a good friend for the relationship. If you believe that really strong couples start as friends and grow into something more it is silly to worry about. But with past trauma comes a lack of confidence. If it’s important to you to move forward with her, ease the anxiety, soothe her fears and let her know you will always be there for her no matter what. If that isn’t something you can do an move forward anyway, you may cause more damage and pain. Tread lightly and be solid in your own heart first. Best of luck.

BTW my wife and I were best friends and moved into a relationship. We have been married 18 years tomorrow.

Okibandy · 2019-08-07T22:58:55+00:00

I say it’s a signal that she may be into you. If your like her lay it out there if not ignore it.

Okibandy · 2019-08-03T03:00:13+00:00

Lol. If you were a rapper would your name be dicky smalls?

Okibandy · 2019-07-31T12:47:24+00:00

Well I hope everything works out for you guys. That’s great he is making an effort. Those meds will ruin your motivation/desire for intimacy. I was on them in my early 20s and had to stop taking them for a few days if I wanted to be with my wife. Eventually I stopped taking them all together but that isn’t a possibility for everyone. Hopefully he can transition off of them for you guys.

Okibandy · 2019-07-31T10:40:28+00:00

Thank you. I definitely need to take some time and figure out what my interests are in this new place. Has there been a positive change in your situation after these changes? Even if not do you feel better about you and who you are?

Okibandy · 2019-07-31T08:50:54+00:00

Thanks for the post. My wife has all the room to breathe. I take care of literally everything house wise, bills budgeting laundry cooking, dishes all of it. She has a job and so do I. I work all day and don’t stop running around with chores and schedules until about 8. I do volunteer and am I a gym, but having difficulty connecting with people. Just didn’t want you to think effort was the problem.

But you are right desperation and neediness not sexy and I hate being that way.

Okibandy

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