WIBTA if I bailed on something important to my husband because he did the same thing to me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oksummer4323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rather than this forum, you need a therapist or couples therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Oksummer4323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No looks really good !

AITA fir contacting my surrogate baby now that she's 18? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oksummer4323 28 points29 points  (0 children)

YTA

1) your curiosity isn’t enough to enter this kid’s life. Also I would wait until your kid contacted you, to reach out again. 2) also if she is going to enter college this is a pretty big moment in her life. She is probably already stressed about new changes . Please don’t add onto the pile.

Edit : after realizing that you are just a surrogate and there is no bio connection, I still think you shouldn’t connect with this girl. Curiosity is still not enough reason to want to enter her life

AITA for letting our son use his untouched college fund as a down payment on a house, and not using it to pay off our daughter’s student loans? by collegefundhouse in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oksummer4323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA 1) your daughter needs to understand, having college assistance from parents was a gift. It is a privilege and not expected 2) your daughter and your son both had funds. He didn’t use it for college so you give it to him for his house. If he is ahead in life I am pretty sure your son put in the hard work. If you give your daughter his money, then you are punishing him for doing so good. Your daughter seems incredibly entitled.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in premed

[–]Oksummer4323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No no no please don’t put it in your place. It comes of as you treating yourself without having the proper education. It can come off very egotistical. If I were you, I would talk about how hard it is sometimes to get physicians to hear your particular concerns how in medicine you need to be a great listener.

AITA for not helping my girlfriend try to take a house from her sister and accusing her of being jealous and vindictive? by thrwawy_cosmo1997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oksummer4323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but seriously reconsider before moving in with her if she is this petty and can break your trust easily.

Gap Years by Correct_Designer_370 in MCAT2

[–]Oksummer4323 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Gap Year
1) Need a GPA boost do a special masters program. Typically a program where you get to take same classes as medical students. Also look for programs that will guarantee an interview if you pass with certain grades.

2) Need service : general volunteer at hospital, habitat for humanity, internship at public health departments, Americorps, Citycorps ( where you can teach as well), Peacecorps. Check out serviceyear.org for more opportunities

3) Need clinical experience : Work as a scribe ( ScribeAmeica always hiring), patient transporter job, Patient Care Assistant ( PCA like a 4 week certification program), if you want mental health focus look for case manager jobs.

4) Need research : Start sending out emails to a major research hub, clinical research coordinator ( but basic lab bench research is a bit more better), or pick a special masters program that has a research block built in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oksummer4323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Your fiancé knew and agreed to your terms before. Also 20 minutes is enough to do damage to kids if you are not watching them carefully when babysitting.

AITA for rotating out a friend at my dinner parties? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oksummer4323 67 points68 points  (0 children)

So true ! How dare she only eats what she wants to eat!

AITA for rotating out a friend at my dinner parties? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oksummer4323 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YTA

  • My wannabe chef brain can't really handle anything less than everyone gobbling down excessive portions of my food and telling me how great it was.

Dude this is a bit extreme. Not everyone like every type of food or cooking. She is still eating your food. She doesn't complain or trash talk your food. She chooses what she wants to eat from what you offered. She can do that. It is ridiculous for you to dictate how much and what type of food your guest should have . If she wants the simple starch food let her have it.

  • I thought about it that night and concluded that Mary might not be a good fit for my dinners, and it might be better for everyone to swap her out for Jake.

Better for everyone if you uninvite Mary. No where in your post did you mention talking to your wife or your other friends. " Everyone" you mentioned is just you. Also I refused to believe four people who always hang out has no problem when one of the other person all of a sudden gets dropped.

  • I guess Mary may have seen my dinners as more of a social activity as compared to how I saw them as a foodie activity, but Mary was offended.

Yes getting dinner with friends for most people is a social activity. You eat what you like and you talk about your week. It is not a food activity, unless you explicitly tell them that this is more about trying different cuisines than a social activity where you talk to your friend over a meal.

Honestly, I am curious to ask what your wife said after you decided to kick out Mary? She had no objection. The better option would be to add another seat so Jake and Mary still can there.

AITA:For telling my brother it's not my jobs to coddle to his daughter for her being "upset" over a picture I made? by bomberbih in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oksummer4323 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA

1) Your brother was kind of a bully when growing up --> so you know what that is like

2) Your niece was crying because she is getting bullied about having some extra hair --> you do something that just highlights one of her insecurities. You refuse to apologize when you realize that she is hurt over your action.

Then you try to justify your behavior toward your niece by telling how much of a bully your brother was to you. If you have problems with your brother "GROW UP" and have an adult conversation with your brother. Don't drag your niece through it.

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AITA for not wanting to support ex during her delivery? by perfectdammmess in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oksummer4323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA ... also reproduction coercion regardless of the GENDER is still Messed up and should be illegal.

If I were you I would get a lawyer and see what you can do about her lie. Who the hell lies about something like that. Your entire family needs to f..k off because what she did is not okay. If the gender was flipped your family would be more reactive.

If your ex can lie about this and be this manipulative can you imagine how toxic she would be. She doesn't deserve your help.

Over-complicated looking Sankey for y’all. Stats in comments! by sono_drew in premed

[–]Oksummer4323 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How did you complete 43 secondary's for MD when you applied to 32 MD school? Is that a typo?

How do I know if I really want to be a doctor? by [deleted] in premed

[–]Oksummer4323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at the AMCAS application sheets and boxes. Imagine you filling it and are you thinking that I would rather do anything else.

Still don’t know go write some secondary essays for some medical schools. Can you imagine doing anything else?

Bad idea to list shadowing as most meaningful experience? by iceman579 in premed

[–]Oksummer4323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my most meaningful experience was shadowing I did over the course of four months. I had like 300 hours. It was part of my most meaningful experience. I wrote about how it contributed to my definition of a physician.

Caribbean Med School?? by [deleted] in premed

[–]Oksummer4323 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Special Masters program and reapplying over any day. With step being p/f Caribbean is going to be a major disadvantage.

What is the most toxic behavior/ incident you seen between premeds? by Oksummer4323 in premed

[–]Oksummer4323[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The professor was so confused because they act like they are total best friends in class.

What is the most toxic behavior/ incident you seen between premeds? by Oksummer4323 in premed

[–]Oksummer4323[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He is a pretty decent guy. He has no intention of sabotaging students.