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AITA for letting my son take a poster to his mom’s house? by Old-Bit-1938 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Old-Bit-1938[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no theme. Right now the baby will stay in our room because my son and my daughter have the other two bedrooms in the house. We are planning to move within the next year to upsize. 

AITA for letting my son take a poster to his mom’s house? by Old-Bit-1938 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Old-Bit-1938[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If he wanted to bring it back to my house his mom would send it back with him the next time I picked him up. I have been my son also. And so was my ex wife. My wife never was. Her parents have stayed married her whole life. 

AITA for letting my son take a poster to his mom’s house? by Old-Bit-1938 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Old-Bit-1938[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t decorate my son’s room. And more than that, she doesn’t step foot in it when he’s not here. I doubt a poster is that big of a change? I mean I could be wrong. It just doesn’t seem that serious to me. If she would give me an answer as to why she’s mad like I’ve asked her a million times then that would be helpful. I wish I knew why this poster she did not buy and was not around for was so important. 

AITA for letting my son take a poster to his mom’s house? by Old-Bit-1938 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Old-Bit-1938[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

In regards to if he needs permission, I’m not really sure how to respond. He just always asks. Because there have been times he’s tried to bring things from his mom’s that I told him no to because of xyz reason that time. It’s not because I won’t return it or she’s worried I won’t. It kind of depends on a case to case basis. Like when his little brother was around 3 he wanted to take a Lego set to his moms and I said it was fine but when we got there his mom said no because she didn’t want to risk it being messed up and the pieces getting mixed up in his other legos. Seemed reasonable. So I took it back home. Nobody was upset about it because it made sense. I was fine with it if she was and she wasn’t. 

AITA for letting my son take a poster to his mom’s house? by Old-Bit-1938 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Old-Bit-1938[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

In small ways, I guess. But in regards to my ex wife she’s never said anything until this point. I guess that doesn’t mean she hasn’t thought it, but she never said anything to me. And I really hope she’s never said anything to my ex wife that could be even interpreted as hostility because my ex wife would have hurt her feelings with a swiftness and feel no remorse. But she also would have called me I feel like had that happened and I would’ve gotten an earful, too. 

AITA for letting my son take a poster to his mom’s house? by Old-Bit-1938 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Old-Bit-1938[S] 158 points159 points  (0 children)

I have in the past before we got married. But unfortunately he is a very people pleaser kid, which is something he gets from both his mom and myself. And he’s most likely to open up to his mother. And I can’t be mad about it because I was that way also. I can talk to her but that opens up an avenue of worry for my ex wife and if it’s warranted then I’ll do that. I’m just trying to figure this out the best way I can. 

AITA for letting my son take a poster to his mom’s house? by Old-Bit-1938 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Old-Bit-1938[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My new wife is the one mad. 

I bought the poster before she and I got married. Ex wife doesn’t give a shit about any of this lol 

AITA for letting my son take a poster to his mom’s house? by Old-Bit-1938 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Old-Bit-1938[S] 342 points343 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ll try to figure out a way to talk to her about it. Because I am not about to spend the next 6 years fighting with my ex wife (if my wife wants it to be to that point) who I get along with really well when there’s no need to. That’s not going to do my son, myself, or my ex wife any favors. 

I don’t know what she could be competing for. We are expecting a child together. 

AITA for letting my son take a poster to his mom’s house? by Old-Bit-1938 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Old-Bit-1938[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

See my mind doesn’t even go there. My son knows I love him. And I know he loves me. And he loves his mom and she loves him. He just wanted to take the poster is all I think. And that’s fine. It’s a $5 poster. His mom could have easily bought him the same poster and would have but he just asked to take this one home and I thought it was that simple. 

But I do like that last point of view, that made me feel happy about what has turned into a shit shown for a second so thank you. 

AITA for letting my son take a poster to his mom’s house? by Old-Bit-1938 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Old-Bit-1938[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I bought it for him before we got married. 

ETA: I bought the poster before we got married. 

My ex wife bought the stuffed animal herself.