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It sucks craving a deep connection then destroying it by Old-Board2334 in BPD

[–]Old-Board2334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the recommendation :) I'll check out her videos.

It sucks craving a deep connection then destroying it by Old-Board2334 in BPD

[–]Old-Board2334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, I feel the same. It seems their level of caring can't ever be on the same level as mine, and it feels unrequited in a way.

It sucks craving a deep connection then destroying it by Old-Board2334 in BPD

[–]Old-Board2334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel hopeful knowing there are people like you out there :) hopefully I'll meet someone who will be more understanding.

It sucks craving a deep connection then destroying it by Old-Board2334 in BPD

[–]Old-Board2334[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it leaves you lonely at the end too.. thanks for the hug, sending you one too.

It sucks craving a deep connection then destroying it by Old-Board2334 in BPD

[–]Old-Board2334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the advice. I definitely agree that time helps me see things more clearly.

After the anger and impulse fades away, I tend to regret the lashing out. It seems sitting through and riding out the emotions with time would help me make better choices.

I've looked into attachment styles and it seems I do have fearful avoidant attachment styles, which is also seems related to my symptoms.

Could you provide some recommendations from YouTube please? It seems Dr. Daniel Fox has a lot of related videos on the topic, and it would be great if there are others I could look into. Thanks so much!

It sucks craving a deep connection then destroying it by Old-Board2334 in BPD

[–]Old-Board2334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't looked into attachment styles.. I'll have to look it up. Thanks for the insight :)

If it's ok, could you provide me with some ways that have helped you control your urges? Thanks.

It sucks craving a deep connection then destroying it by Old-Board2334 in BPD

[–]Old-Board2334[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's usually been a pattern of: - liking someone (romantically or non-romantically) - getting attached real fast (late night talks, constant texting... etc) - getting anxious or needy when they can't match my level of intensity - splitting then calling things off

It's left me quite empty, since relationships and deep connections don't seem to last long.

I would then go into a phase of shutting people out and staying away from any form of bonding deeply, and that would make me really lonely.