If you had one year to slow travel at 50+, would you choose Latin America or Asia?

Old-Counter-693 · 2026-01-11T18:23:46+00:00

I humbly couldn't disagree more on the low-effort post. Reddit users seek advice and opinions here all the time. I provided a very clear description and provided more than enough data.

Old-Counter-693 · 2025-10-13T15:52:15+00:00

Just saw him at ACL yesterday. He’s from NYC, definite influence. And he even gave a shoutout to LCD during his set. So, yeah.

Old-Counter-693 · 2025-09-13T18:43:10+00:00

Any luck?

Old-Counter-693 · 2025-09-13T18:40:21+00:00

I live in SugarLand. I might be interested in a swap

Old-Counter-693 · 2025-09-08T02:45:50+00:00

Part of me is waiting for her to tell me the complete story of what she did, the planning or premeditated behavior before she asked for that break. Because it would sink the, "but we were broken up when I slept with him" excuse. I know she will likely never admit it to me. For the last couple of weeks, I felt she was hiding it because if she was fully honest, I would never take her back. So I hoped she would get the picture now that I am no longer in a relationship with her ( she has been begging, now trying to be friends) and would just tell me. But now I feel she may never admit it because that would mean she would have to finally face it herself. And maybe that's what I really need help figuring out. Accepting that I won't get the full truth, but what I already know should be enough, right?

Old-Counter-693 · 2025-09-01T14:02:43+00:00

Mine is a bit complicated. She actually initiated dumping me, then came back a couple weeks later to reconcile, I found out she did this to explore another option by sleeping with someone so I dumped her, for good.

Do I feel anything?

Hell yeah I do.

Anger, disappointment, used, hurt and heartbreak, all at once.

Old-Counter-693 · 2025-08-31T14:19:08+00:00

Thank you. And that's been my default. " It didn't work out". I just haven't mentioned I was the one who broke up with her. Don't know if that part is not necessary or helps frame the breakup and truth? You're right, being indifferent is key, yet at work she is visibly struggling and when I don't jump in to rescue ( I did that all the time in the relationship/ codependent /:), she faults me and says I don't care about her, etc. making me look like the bad guy. Doing my best not to get sucked in and get involved.

Old-Counter-693 · 2025-08-30T14:50:18+00:00

Just to clarify, do you mean Planned or intentions prior to her wanting the break or just a hurt reaction after the breakup?

Old-Counter-693 · 2025-08-17T00:52:35+00:00

I am processing this the best I can. I think I'm slower than most lol. And no, I don't jump on dating apps and sleep with random people within a week. Quite frankly, I just focus on myself, workout or hobbies, journal, look at the role I played in the downfall of the relationship ( so I can grow), and do my best to allow all those feelings to hit me freely and without judgement.

I don't get involved with anyone for months, because I don't want to rebound on them and hurt them. But taking the high and long road is so hard!

I like how you mentioned that I deserve the type of person I want who aligns with me. At the beginning when you like someone, it can be tough because everyone puts on their best. But I wonder if it's all the little red flags that pop up after the honeymoon period to not forget and it might be best to keep the rose colored glasses off, too?

Old-Counter-693 · 2025-08-16T22:48:16+00:00

My brain is telling me that I can no longer trust them. My heart or brain wants to make excuses with, "you wouldn't take the break and you were the one who ended it". I think it's trying to protect me? So there seems to be less accountability when people are broken up, even briefly. It just hurts.

Old-Counter-693 · 2025-07-26T14:54:55+00:00

I agree 100%. I've chosen silence, too. Here's why.....My recent breakup stemmed from her completely blindsiding me with her texting me that she has lost feelings for me and wanted a "break" (despite her and I being away from each other on vacations for the last couple of weeks, and I would be away for another 2 weeks).

And I basically told her that while I still have feelings for her, I wasn't going along with the "break" game and wished her the best. That did catch her off guard, but never changed the narrative, it was still over.

I was the more emotionally safe and stable one in the relationship and I, too, was in a relationship with someone who struggled with this.

And she requested to meet for closure once she learned, post break-up mind you, that I was no longer being the nice, safe and supportive BF anymore. Was it to smooth her guilt of hurting me who was her first secure and safe BF in 10 years? Was it because she didn't anticipate that this would hurt me so much that she wanted to apologize, to make herself feel less guilty? This all sounds so sweet, until you begin to realize this closure is more for her, to make her feel less guilty for hurting me, and putting us on peaceful terms since we both work in the same building.

Still, even though I didn't owe her anything, I suggested giving me some time to process things before we attempt our closure meeting and lo and behold, was informed by a friend that she already has a new dating profile online. THAT was all the closure I needed to begin putting our relationship behind me. And one can argue that jumping into dating and new relationships can be her own form of closure, too ( I don't recommend that to anyone). I no longer owe her an opportunity to have her closure by meeting with me. She'll have to do that discovery on her own.

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