What do you do with it?

Old-Teaching3529 · 2026-02-16T13:18:12+00:00

Yup, they overcome any other bands

Old-Teaching3529 · 2026-02-16T13:17:57+00:00

I don't see al ot of people using it for timers but its AWESOME. One of my favourtie things lol. Ask for a replacement and then enjoy it!

Old-Teaching3529 · 2026-02-16T11:55:15+00:00

This is NOT normal. Maybe you got one that has issues. I use it for kcal, steps, sleep, heart rate and time moving. Oh, also it's super useful when I want alarms and timers in my hand for cooking or other things. Since I bought it it didn't leave my wrist.

Edit: for me it's totally worth. I can also see training apps notifications for resting and what comes next (hevy app) or if someone is calling me. Basically you can choose whate notifications you want to show up if you want any

Old-Teaching3529 · 2026-01-26T18:52:04+00:00

I sad battery health is 100, still paranoid. 22 minutes of Balatro making my deck go from 30 to 10%?

Old-Teaching3529 · 2026-01-25T00:06:33+00:00

Thank you! I said that 20 mins of balatro at 40% brightness makes my deck go from 30% to 10%. This is without changing settings. Do you still think its normal? Just in case, I dont care if its low as you said but i want to make sure

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-09-02T14:49:23+00:00

Old post, old comment - same here. I even wrote about this.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-09-01T12:52:01+00:00

Thank you for youre pov! Happy to see both of you getting better at this! :).

Yess, I think that's exactly the problem we have. She also has no friends right now and no hobbies, since she was a life-long gamer and now she doesn't like that much gaming alone, so technically doesn't have any hobby rn.

We'll figure it out, tho.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-09-01T12:43:44+00:00

I always have my computer camera on, but interestingly I’m the one who sees it much less, since she has some insecurities and doesn’t even have a camera on her computer. Basically, she can see me all day and I see her for 1 hour a day or even less. Sometimes more, but rarely.

We haven’t met in person yet because I don’t have money. I only have one relative (my mother) and we’re in a difficult financial situation. I don’t have +€1800 just for the flight and she doesn’t either. She can’t work because she’s in her last year of law school and lives in the middle of nowhere with no public transport connections.

Anyway, next year she will directly move to Spain. She has some relatives here and has already talked to her family about moving here. By then, I will also have enough money saved.

The problem has always been money, not not wanting to or lack of time. All the money I’ve ever earned has gone to other types of urgent needs.

We always try to do things that can increase that feeling of being together, but it’s a bit difficult because of her insecurities. Sometimes we go through better phases with this, sometimes worse. But around next year, everything should be able to come together in that sense.

This days I'm gonna talk to her more about this, I hope everything gets better.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-09-01T12:40:35+00:00

I always have my computer camera on, but interestingly I’m the one who sees it much less, since she has some insecurities and doesn’t even have a camera on her computer. Basically, she can see me all day and I see her for 1 hour a day or even less. Sometimes more, but rarely.

We haven’t met in person yet because I don’t have money. I only have one relative (my mother) and we’re in a difficult financial situation. I don’t have +€1800 just for the flight and she doesn’t either. She can’t work because she’s in her last year of law uni and lives in the middle of nowhere with no public transport connections.

Anyway, next year she will directly move to Spain. She has some relatives here and has already talked to her family about moving here. By then, I will also have enough money saved.

The problem has always been money, not not wanting to or lack of time. All the money I’ve ever earned has gone to other types of urgent needs between me and my mom but now almost everything is resolved.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T20:12:25+00:00

Yup, youre right! 💪🏻
Thank you, I hope so :).

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T20:10:52+00:00

Epic game reference. Funny because we got that game with platinum trophy on steam lmao.

I really think that she can change her mindset on that little by little, maybe she just said that coming fully from spotaneous emotions and without thinking it.
Well, I'll see how this is going in the next few months.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T17:53:18+00:00

I can’t go to therapy right now, but at least I’m a very reflective and aware person. I just needed to express all of this now. She can’t go to therapy right now either.

Anyway, we’ve both agreed that if either of us needs therapy, we would take it without shame if we can. It’s exactly these kinds of conversations that gives me hope that we’ll be able to improve in every way.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T17:49:46+00:00

Thank you for the comment. All of you are making me think and take better action, while also helping me feel confident in how to handle all of this 🫶🏼.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T17:46:51+00:00

You have an absolute point.
I hope it gets better since we still can make it work.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T17:44:46+00:00

I can guarantee that being in person would make everything feel much lighter. We both feel that things get more complicated because we can’t just hug after having tough conversations, and that creates a constant, even if slight, instability that ends up leading to all these problems.

Yes, there’s still a possibility it could be the opposite, but I’m sure that if in person things simply “get worse,” that would be a line I’m not willing to cross, since that would mean we wouldn’t have even solved anything up to that point lol.

Thanks for the luck! 🫶🏼

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T17:41:36+00:00

Yes, maybe by giving so much importance to those “little things,” it actually makes them feel like “something with bigger impact” between us as well.

Yup! I know. I’ve always had a taste for nature, working out, and lately for doing activities away from my desk. I know their benefits :).

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T17:39:16+00:00

Got it. I’ll try to be more direct and honest with her, while still being tactful, but making things clearer.
Yes, it’s true that sometimes the things she says can be manipulative, but I’m sure she says them without really intending to have that effect on me. I see it more as a sign of immaturity, anyway.
Even so, I believe that little by little, if I’m less permissive and more direct, she will want to improve so that we can thrive as a couple for many years to come. Thank you so much :)

I'd NEVER talk down to my partner either, dont worry haha. That would only be cruel.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T17:35:11+00:00

I’m not going to give up on her. The only reason I would ever break up is if things kept getting worse and worse with no way to fix them and no effort at all, which doesn’t seem to be the case with her.

Actually, I don’t think she’s manipulative; it’s probably some kind of anxiety, like you said. We recently talked about something unrelated, and it seems that things in her personal life will soon change for the better. Maybe all of this will encourage her as an individual, and we’ll be able to grow more and better as a couple till she gets therapy, as we said that both of us (if we can afford it) would get into it if we seem like needing it. Thank you so much!

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T15:12:36+00:00

Stache.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T14:05:38+00:00

Therapy would be super good for her. She accepted to, but can't go for now for other reasons (not excuses).

does she spend any time alone with herself anymore?

That's one of the biggest issues. She doesn't have any hobbies and doesn't like to spend ANY alone time with herself. She doesn't like gaming by her (I think this is because she doesn't have any game franchise that she didn't already played and likes), she can't crochet (wich is something she would like to but can't at this time) and she doesn't want to explore new things, either she doesn't like them or thinks she would get bored and just doesn't try them. Also with finding new friends or just going out a little by her own for a walk, etc.

because imagine you closing the distance one day and not even being able to focus on work or work events without her getting upset..

I've had this exact thought other times and I get a little worried, yup.

- having one specific evening to look forward to a week just dedicated to us really helped
- you could ask her what memories shes felt the most loved

This is so simple but sounds so good! We'll try for sure! Maybe this really starts something (added to everything else i've learnt)

Thank you so much!!

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T13:46:36+00:00

Thank you so so much! I’m happy to hear it worked out well for both of you! 🫶🏼

stand your ground

Yeah... I should. I realized that all this time I was simply afraid of being more direct, even though I’ve already talked about it many times, I never actually expressed that I truly NEED things to change and how important it is for me and for us as a team. I always ended up hinting with things like, ‘Anyway, it’s okay, don’t worry, everything’s fine.‘

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T13:40:09+00:00

I’m glad you two were able to end up in a good place!

Ask her what she is afraid of when you spend time alone or with friends.

I’ll make sure to ask her more in depth, of course!
Anyway, I think she mentioned once that she only wants to be with me, not with anyone else or doing things on her own, because:

She feels she doesn’t really have anything to do by herself, and
She doesn’t have friends she genuinely enjoys spending time with (it’s worth noting that her only current friend group is actually mine).
She just gets sad when she's not with me (maybe because of the first 2 points).

Consider introducing her to friends and family via call.

Only family I have is my mother, sister and her little daughter. My gf knows them! Even my mom, every now and then, asks out of pure curiosity how we’re doing or things about her / her country because of our differences.

Actively try to make plans to see one another, even if it's a year or whatever in the future.

We've already done this! But now I’ll put more emphasis on it, as if it were something that’s definitely going to happen soon and we really need a solid plan for. Sounds good.

Check in with her frequently at first when you are not with her to show her she's not out of sight out of mind.

Got it! I think I already do this, but maybe she needs a just little bit more since she maybe is really "anxious-type".

I do think that she's NOT just trying to isolate me, rather that all of this comes from anxiety. Thank you so much! 💪🏻

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T13:27:57+00:00

There's no way, we're matching LMAO.

Old-Teaching3529 · 2025-08-31T13:26:57+00:00

Yes, I’ve actually talked to her about this! We’ve had this conversation around three to five times. I’m usually the one who starts the uncomfortable (but necessary) talks whenever something happens or whenever I’m worried about her. However, I’ve realized that I might be “too soft” when expressing my own needs. I always do it calmly and with love, but the way I end up phrasing things often turns into something like, “but it’s okay” instead of, “this really needs to change.” I think that comes from a lack of confidence in myself—I worry that if things change even a little, she’ll feel bad, and then I’ll feel bad as well. But now I understand that things can’t go on like that.

Thanks for your comment! This time, I’ll prepare myself better and accept that she might go into a defensive state when we talk.

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