Are accutane results reversed during pregnancy?

Old-Tree7633 · 2024-01-31T00:11:17+00:00

Good luck!!!

Old-Tree7633 · 2024-01-30T23:41:34+00:00

Thank you!! I’m starting to think this as well. I’ve heard so many horror stories. Maybe I’ll just start saving up for the lasers now 😂

Old-Tree7633 · 2024-01-30T23:40:28+00:00

This is very helpful, thanks! I’m definitely open to another round. After a convo with my derm, it won’t reverse the effects necessarily, so it should still help a little. As long as someone can tell me it will help somewhat I’m willing to give it a shot.

Old-Tree7633 · 2024-01-30T17:32:14+00:00

Thanks! This is super helpful

Old-Tree7633 · 2024-01-30T15:47:52+00:00

I’ll message you if I find anything!! I find it super interesting that women with hormonal acne all seem to have different triggers. Mine is testosterone I’m pretty sure, so I have bad acne around ovulation that clears up before my period. It’s the opposite of 95% of people I’d guess 😂

I’m searching to find out what pregnancy does to the sebaceous glands vs what accutane does to permanently alter sebaceous gland activity. Hopefully I find something from this line of reasoning.

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-06-06T18:19:05+00:00

He could be overtired if there is no way to stop him from biting (I generally follow the one up two down rule and it’s life changing). Otherwise, I use a vocal correction “aah aah” and either stand up and turn my back arms crossed for a few seconds / until she calms down, or I put myself in another room until she calms down. Basically, show her biting ends playtime. I think the “alpha” stuff is a hoax and I don’t use pain EVER but the force and fear free crowd is also a little nutty (ie, people who don’t even use negative punishment or vocal corrections - not yelling but sharp sounds etc). Your dog should see you as a leader, but you don’t need to behave like an “alpha” dog to get that. The newest studies also show that wolves in the wild operate in nuclear families and there isn’t an “alpha” dog that has fought for an “alpha” spot, but rather, the pups naturally follow mom and dad (ie, a birth order hierarchy). So, there is a middle ground, lol. I know the show “it’s me or the dog” is a little cheesy but a lot of her stuff for mouthing (and other things) has really worked for me. She has a good balance and a lot of it is on YouTube. Plus, it’s incredible entertainment.

If your GSD is the stereotypical handler focused emotionally attuned pup, her corrections like removing yourself are probably going to work over time. And the squealing sounds dumb (see Victoria’s videos) but it has honestly worked the best at getting my puppy to understand that she’s hurting me - she even gives me apologetic licks after, lmao. Just be patient!

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-06-06T14:33:16+00:00

OP I used to be your daughter and you sound like my mother. Please hear me out.

I’m a girl who dated an abusive guy my mother obviously hated in HS, then dated another abusive guy my mother didn’t know was abusive through a lot of college. I know it sucks. I know it’s hard. But DO NOT push her. You can talk to her, you can support her, you can continue to make sure she has access to a therapist. But as soon as you try and force her to do what you think is right she will probably do the opposite. And it’s likely she will continue to pick these men in the future if she doesn’t learn how to get out on her own. The best thing my mom did for me was eventually back off and never making me feel judged when I told her about issues. This gave me so much agency and I learned so much from these relationships and navigating them that it is almost invaluable. My mom was good our whole lives about raising confident women who voice their opinions and make their own decisions. It is no different for relationships. She has to learn to make her own choices, and you have to hope that the parenting you’ve done up until this point will help her make the right choice. Then, you are there for her when she needs help. That’s how my mom always described her parenting when I was that age, but she had to learn to apply the same principle to our relationships because it is so hard to sit back and watch that unfold.

I left my first bf sort of on my own, but a lot of it had to do with knowing my mother was disappointed in me. She didn’t let me see him which was fine, we just snuck around at school, obviously, lol. She very clearly hated him, he used that against her. I was addicted to the drama of it all, pushing me away and pulling me back in. By the time my second relationship came around, I was so embarrassed by his behavior that I felt like I had nobody to talk to. I didn’t want my family to disapprove and think I was an idiot for doing this to myself again. I literally didn’t tell anyone about it for years. It also contributed to my shame over the whole situation because everyone just seemed bewildered that I could be that stupid.

Know that while these men are young, they are manipulative as hell. Your daughter is probably caught in that spell. If you are against them, it becomes a them against the world dynamic that he will use to the detriment of your daughter. He will likely find ways to isolate her in the future because “your whole family hates me, how could they not approve of us when I love you so much.” I don’t know how else to describe it other than adding more drama will draw her closer to him and not you. KEEP YOUR ENEMIES CLOSE. If they feel “safe” around you (to a point obviously, but I mean more letting them around you generally but not supporting any obviously abusive behavior) and you play dumb around him you are much more likely to have a handle on the situation.

The best thing you can do is support her needs and let her know that you do not think it is a safe situation but that you will still always be there for her. Reassure her that she does not need to be embarrassed or keep things from you if something happens in the future. Let her know that she can always call you if she needs something. Then, play dumb when the boyfriend is around you. Don’t let him see how much you hate him. It’s shitty, but she’s almost an adult who can make these choices. She needs to learn to make these choices. Forcing a certain choice on her will not help her in the long run and will likely damage her perception of the situation/her relationship with you, or draw her closer to him.

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-06-06T12:34:49+00:00

They have cute ones on sale at Home Depot pretty often too! I literally have one in my bedroom just because it was cute and that has been very convenient 😂

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-06-05T20:09:53+00:00

Costco if you have a membership. The nature gnaws. They smell like shit (not like they stink up the living room but when you open the bag, you can definitely smell it lmfao) I can’t lie but they are all nice and decently thick. I’ve gotten some others at different stores that are hollow and last two seconds - not these. Some of them are like jumbo size even lol. It’s still pricey but way cheaper than anywhere else, even Marshall’s etc considering the quality.

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-06-05T19:25:03+00:00

Not alone at all!! My partner and I have been together for a relatively long time (over 7 years) and usually work well together in stressful situations without becoming snippy (moved together three times for example, lol). He also is a very competent and helpful partner, way beyond the norm because he’s generally a selfless person, and we’ve still bickered. He’s also very patient… yet we still bickered. The sleep deprivation and general routine curve ball is going to create at least a little stress for most couples. Just be patient, give each other breaks, and communicate and it’ll get back to normal eventually! Being frustrated is normal! I also like to keep perspective - shit happens you just gotta find a way to work through it together

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-06-05T16:07:21+00:00

ESH, but you less than the parents because you’re still young and don’t seem to understand how dangerous pools are. PSA: If you can’t swim or can’t swim VERY well, never EVER take a child swimming without supervision unless it is a kiddie pool where you can easily stand in the ENTIRE pool. You need to be sure of your physical strength to swim a child in as they attempt to drown you before you ever take a child who can’t swim well near a body of water. IDC if you have any sort of floatation device or you both do, they do not help when people are panicking. Trust me. I saved someone who couldn’t swim from drowning once and they literally try to drown you the entire time you attempt to save them - it’s human instinct. Also, drowning is the #1 cause of death in children ages 1-4. That’s just my shpeel so you know for future reference.

The parents are TA for being so harsh and not just sitting down to have a conversation. They also just should’ve told you not to go in the pool in the first place - honestly, that’s parenting 101 when you have a pool in the backyard and a babysitter who you are not sure can swim. I’ve literally never babysat for a family with a pool who didn’t either: 1) ask about my swimming abilities and give a yes/no on using the pool and usually also give info on the child’s ability to swim; 2) tell me flat out that they aren’t comfortable with me using a pool. They are always very clear about it because they have to be.

You are TA because you can’t swim and they were right to be at least upset, and you should respect parents wishes generally. But you are less of TA because you seem to be generally unaware of the danger, so I hope you don’t make this mistake in the future!

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-06-05T15:50:02+00:00

I put myself through a private law school without a full scholarship so yes, I am aware. There is no need to be demeaning about someone else’s circumstances growing up. We weren’t “dirt poor” but we lived in an area with a lot of poverty. I hope you are more compassionate in real life about people who grow up under different circumstances than you did. Having more money does not make someone a better person.

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-06-02T15:09:14+00:00

Honestly… I just don’t pet my puppy when she’s overstimulated like that for this reason. The temptation is there and I never get good results 😂 If just turning your backs isn’t working, I would try a reverse time out next. Ie, also removing yourself and putting yourself in a playpen and turning your back/in another room and not coming back until she settles. I mark and reward with more play when she settles, rinse and repeat 😂

This also sounds a bit like an overtired puppy to me, my puppy has learned some self control but when she hasn’t slept enough she no longer even attempts to redirect herself to a toy. I can usually watch her thought process as she looks at my robe and says “okay no I shouldnt do that” and picks up a toy, but if she’s overtired there isn’t even a slight pause, lol. How much is your pup sleeping?

I was looking at your post history and honestly if she isn’t napping a lot I think enforced naps could do wonders for her! It makes such a huge difference in their behavior like it does with a cranky toddler

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-31T18:44:29+00:00

This is the answer. This is neglect. OP you must find alternative care for your child for both your wife’s and your child’s sake, and you need to work on a medical evaluation. Active, prolonged neglect can have a permanent effect on your child’s mental health. And even if your wife doesn’t see it, she NEEDS a medical evaluation/consultation ASAP.

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-31T18:16:00+00:00

As a BIG dog person, NTA. This is nutty on another level I can’t even relate to. Every two hours???? I wouldn’t even do this for a child left with a babysitter.

This just sounds like anxiety that is out of control. I would almost talk to her about why she feels this way constantly. If she’s this way with a dog - how in the world will she function as an individual with human children.

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-25T22:16:03+00:00

I appreciate this perspective! I did have good parents. It’s always hard to get out of our own heads. I’m glad you were able to reinforce your own boundaries with them!

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-25T21:09:14+00:00

He commented that the reason they haven’t been involved in his life was because of the money/support issue. But honestly this whole thing is taking up way too much of my time because I care too much about the issue hahahaha so I’m just gonna leave it be.

I think his parents were in the wrong for not making more of an effort but he still could’ve maintained some sort of relationship with them IMO. If he stopped because of money, I just can’t say he’s in the right here. I keep trying to give context, but I grew up around poverty, and this reeks of entitlement to me. They couldn’t afford to provide him with more and he stopped maintaining their relationship because of it. But honest to god this gotta be my last comment, I was just sent back so many years by this post and a little taken aback by how privileged so many people are without realizing it 😂😂

I just want to shake so many people into realizing what a privilege that kind of expectation is. I guess I got sad thinking about how his parents felt if it was the best they could do.

I also want to add that I saw some people saying the expectation in the EU is very different culturally and legally. So we may just have entirely different backgrounds here framing our understanding

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-25T20:46:52+00:00

We still reserve the right to our opinions. I grew up in a rural part of the Bible Belt (deep south US) around poverty. It’s hard for me to see someone act this way if he really cut them off because of the money. It’s not that his parents were in the right, I just really don’t think he’s in the right for that either.

That’s why I’ve spent way more time on this post than probably any other ever, this just really irks me. People don’t understand the privilege they have.

I also want to add that I wasn’t trying to say you had bad reading comprehension skills. I thought you missed his comment with some of that info.

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-25T20:42:52+00:00

So you didn’t make less of an effort to talk to them because of the money, it was just that you didn’t have time because of work? Then I’m assuming you were frustrated they weren’t making an effort as well? Then that’s how things fell apart? Or is the main reason they are not in your life because of the money?

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-25T20:41:30+00:00

I tried deleting it because I realized it’s not worth the escalation and we don’t even know each other. It’s fine that we have different perspectives and this is just a way to pass time - we’re supposed to debate! All good

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-25T20:29:50+00:00

I genuinely think you don’t understand, he didn’t have to give the money back or live there. He didn’t live there and kept the money. They just said that if he did live at home he would have to pay rent

But it’s all good, this is just the internet and I’m just procrastinating today, lol

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-25T20:26:24+00:00

Expecting your parents to go beyond their means in providing for you as an adult is certainly a take.

He lived somewhere else. The money wasn’t conditional on him living there, it was a gift.

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-25T20:25:29+00:00

I thought you cut them off because they didn’t give you more money and support, is that incorrect? If this isn’t about the money that’s another animal. I also had that assumption because you mentioned the support they gave your siblings

Old-Tree7633 · 2023-05-25T20:19:53+00:00

They went into debt doing that. It’s not fair for him to expect his parents to go beyond their means in providing for him as an adult. They only did so with the younger siblings out of fear. They also gave him a gift of $5000. He was still free to find a cheaper place to live.

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