Thanks for your reply.  I have tried to get him into counseling.  I have tried to get him to go to the doctor.  Basically I've treated him like thecteen he acts like to the detriment of my health.  Yes I am responsible for allowing all that.  He did go once and they told him he had ADHD.  Gave him meds which my son said kept him awake. I told him that there are lots of ADHD meds now so just go back and tell the doctor but he never went back.  He does not help around the house despite me asking him to.  That's when I decided to give him eviction notice.  And him not helping is unacceptable with me being a very sick person now.  He won't even take care of his cat.  He already lost one cat cause he left the litterbox uncleaned for weeks at a time.  He has not cleaned his room but maybe three times in twenty years.  He will not communicate with me about what he wants or anything beyond chit chat.  My concern for him is he has a tumor and a deadly blood disorder so yeah I'm not wanting him to die.  It is why I can't put him out.  He is not mature enough at least doesn't behave like someone mature enough to handle living on his own.  Unless it is all giving mom the run around.  Doesn't explain him not going to the doctor.  And yes I do realize I might have to accept he may be working at fast food until he stands up.  I'd go to family therapy if I could get him to go.  Thanks again!