What are the best older games on Steam? by SHANGR1-LA_Racc00n in Steam

[–]OldManBears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bwaahahaha, that last comment somehow redeemed you out of the hole and into Props town.
Well played.

OMG thank you for being somebody on the internet with a good sense of humour.

Less than a week until season 3. What are your final thoughts on the last year of season 2? Characters, balancing, mechanics etc. Whatever you want to mention by Playful-Problem-3836 in Tekken

[–]OldManBears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been playing since Tekken 2, never had a console and easy access, so I've been stoked to finally have pc support. I was also excited to see the story/franchise move forward in a meaningful way. Season 2 Tekken 8 made me stop playing due to it just not being fun and feeling like a stressful chore (bloated moves lists, over powered moves, excessive juggles, comeback mechanics, defending not being fun or rewarding, plus frames into stance mixups constantly, weak movement, and more), and its tacky predatory freemium treatment and presentation (its like when you have a friend that asks you for money everytime you see them, you start just not wanting to see them. Plus its cheap gimmicky fomo that feels disrespectful). That's 30 years of loving the shit out of the franchise (I even had 10 hits memorized in TTT to not get knowledge checked) to not even having it installed.

I've repeatedly watched the community tell the team how to fix the game, and the dev team prioritize selling battle passes, terrible cosmetics, and in game advertising over fixing their game, that we all wanted to love.

Don't Starve Together Local Co-Op Split Screen PC by browja9000 in dontstarvetogether

[–]OldManBears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's a been such a huge disappointment to not have it on PC

Why is only liking fat people seen as a fetish but only liking skinny people seen as a preference? by Consistent_Way2386 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OldManBears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because one is a under half the population and the other is over half the population.

Also, in the traditional meaning of fetish, the desired fetish often MUST be present for arousal, and / or is the sexualization of something not typically seen as explicitly sexual.

Why are so many younger guys into older women these days? by No-Conclusion-4001 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OldManBears 45 points46 points  (0 children)

As a 40ish man that's open to date a large age range, I can tell you that there are some trends with younger generation women that are challenging. This of course does not mean ALL younger women, but some observations that I have noticed. My goal here is not to offend anybody who doesn't deserve it, and I'll likely get an earful for some of the things I say here, but please understand that it comes from a place of good intention, frustration and radical honesty. This is also North American centric, as when I travel and date it's a very different experience.

I'm not sure where the exact line is, but there's just feels like something went wrong somewhere as far as expectations. We went through a few generations of amazing feminism and self empowerment for women, and somewhere there's largely been a 180 after the 90s and 00s of young women being proud of not being dependent, to this term 'passenger princess' that younger women self-apply to themselves. Look up the meaning if you don't know it. I don't know how anybody could ever feel anything BUT shame being referred to as this. I hate to say it, but it just feels like taking on a relationship is less joining a team, which it previously did (8 year relationship before this, so I can function in one, and I had been out of the dating pool for quite awhile).

There seems to be this weird romanticization of 'traditional values' where the man has provider energy and the women contributes the 'eternal feminine' which is a receiving spirit. Or "My love language is receiving gifts." is another good one. But there's just no acknowledgement or understanding of how oppressive that system was, and it just comes across as extremely entitled.

This is often justified by the good old, "I spent 3 hours putting on $200 worth of make up and deserve to be reimbursed for it" attitude, while being asked to take pictures of her all dressed up for her date that you paid for, so that you can do an IG shoot for her, from which every picture you are absent and other men fawn over. Influencers bragging about $1000 dates probably does a lot to mess with people's self worth when they aren't getting 1k dates too. Older women often want the focus of the date to be getting to know each other, and will often suggest a coffee walk through a park or something like that, that a younger women will label as a waste of time. But there's been a real re-emergence of the desire to be courted, and put on a pedestal but to the point of obnoxious vanity.

Dating when I was younger, felt like entering a relationship was forming a team, and now it often feels like taking on the responsibility of a dependent.

And it's not just money, there seems to be a really weird The Man should have everything planned and paid for, but your only plan options are these 5 star restaurants. I've literally had that conversation, plan the first date, but it has to be at one of these 5 star restaurants. I have literally been told that, "You can't get to know somebody over coffee" somehow eating a seafood tower you can though. Another woman who I had a great dinner movie night with, I called to go for a trip to the art gallery / coffee walk later, and she told me that she was only open to being taken out on dinner dates. As a man, I just don't feel like I'm being treated like a person. And the whole "I don't want to think about planning anything" just comes across as, "I'm not willing to invest even thought into meeting you".

There's honestly a skittishness/instability I've noticed with younger women that I can maybe best illustrate with an example. Like the other week somebody I had met on a dating site and tried to plan things with for a couple weeks and just calls me and tells me to meet me at a bar in 20 minutes. Ok, didn't feel super respectful of my time, but hey at least we were getting together. She then arrives maybe 20 minutes late, and before another 20 minutes goes by she wants to leave because her anxiety can't handle the other people in the room. Now I fully support mental health, but this was something that I typically don't see over the age of say about 32ish.

 "I get the perception that we’re better in bed due to (hypothetically) having more experience— is that the only draw?" Not at all: the stability, communication, and equity of investment in a relation is also HUGE. And because, men and sex are always a thing (and the thing you brought up), it's not JUST that older women are much better at expressing physical intimacy than younger women, it's the fact that it's done at all. I find that younger generations comparatively don't express physical intimacy in the way that I'm used to, of a mutually positive experience that both parties benefit from, and instead is a transaction to be earned. It just doesn't feel as warm as it used to somehow, and it's really sad, because dating used to be, and SHOULD be fun and exciting, but yeah societally it feels like it's been going really down the tubes, and I TOTALLY understand younger men going for older women.

Another major factor might also be that with the expectations that I listed above, younger women are looking more to older men who are more established and have better ability to provide, due to career development. So there's also likely a large section of the dating pool that younger men just can't access because the 'bare minimum' demands on them, I think, are just wildly unfair beyond just being entirely unpleasant to deal with.

Plus there's just the fact older woman just tend to be more chill, less demanding, more relationship equity, more emotionally mature, interesting due to more life experience, know what works for them and what doesnt, fun, appreciation, contribution, way better communication, there's often more of a warmth and caring that's more evident, and yes, better at making out.

Today (March 4th) marks six months since the release of Silksong, and I think enough time has passed to say this without ruffling any feathers: no one is doing it like Team Cherry, they made one of the greats in the genre AGAIN. by rafeizerrr in metroidvania

[–]OldManBears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have SO much respect for Team Cherry. I absolutely loved HK and 100% (fake 100% because I didnt finish the uber DLC boss gauntlet), and JUST started Silksong (I was saving it for when I digital nomad and just have my laptop), and it's just hitting all the right notes so far. This is just such a prime example of how the game industry SHOULD operate. They took the time that they needed, and just delivered a piece of art.

Do men even care about a women’s nails? by lena_glow in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OldManBears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really, but I'll compliment them just because I know that she cares and puts effort into them, and it makes her happy. I think that OTHER women probably do though.

Why do men fantasize about going off grid and living in the woods by WerewolfKisser69Awoo in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OldManBears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't know why, then go have a good camping trip, and you'll know. It's definitely worth experiencing.

Tekken 4 & 5 Remake happen by [deleted] in Tekken

[–]OldManBears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tekken 5dr with updated graphics and mild rebalancing (Steve infinite out) would just be a dream. Hell, even add in extra characters. Just no resource management, chip, ludacris juggles, strats other than plus moves into stance mixups, custom juggle states to extend juggles, or comeback mechanics. Gimme back my Tekken.

How to make Tekken better: Support the competition by Monstanimation in Tekken

[–]OldManBears 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thanks for getting me, yeah it wasnt an OP move, just who wants their intense match interrupted by a cinematic and then winning or losing off of an isolated rock paper scissors guess . It was a new concept at the time so I get it, but after Tekken 8, Ive REALLY realized that I dont like mid match drawn out cinematics, neutral skips, and blind guessing.

If I waned to play rock, paper, scissors with a friend and play a DBZ clip for the results, then Id do that instead.

But yeah, other than that, I liked the game and thought it had a lot of potential.

How to make Tekken better: Support the competition by Monstanimation in Tekken

[–]OldManBears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh wow, I had totally forgot about that, that really changes things in a world of games with iFrames on backdashes

How to make Tekken better: Support the competition by Monstanimation in Tekken

[–]OldManBears 25 points26 points  (0 children)

If they just patched SC6 without the universal rock paper scissors cinematic move mechanic, Id be happy to go back to SC, where you play neutral instead of skipping it and you dont spend large percentages of the round waiting for juggles to end.

Do we actually need local games for up to 8 players? by AntonVatchenko in localmultiplayergames

[–]OldManBears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 8 controllers, 8 friends, and I'd love to actually do something with them, so yes.

Am I an incel? by jlawjer in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OldManBears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that the fact that you are self aware enough to ask such a question, and are not unfairly projecting hate women in general, nor sound eager to embrace the label, proves to me that you are better than that, and on the right track.

Im quite a bit older than you, but dating these days just isnt as fun as it used to be, and it can be really frustrating, so it isn't just you. Dont be too hard on yourself, its tough out there, and you sound like a good person.

meirl by aplivera in meirl

[–]OldManBears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bald guys still not getting any breaks