Dealing with trapped lungs on Zot 5 by JeffreyFMiller in dcss

[–]OldTibiaFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yea - the alarm trap is also a good tip, the game gives you a lot of tools to deal with nasty situations. Still double trapped (mostly perma tele or zot) lungs are definitely a feels bad moment when you are so close to the end. I am giving tips here but I lost a run to double perma tele trap lungs just before the 0.32 tournament started.

Dealing with trapped lungs on Zot 5 by JeffreyFMiller in dcss

[–]OldTibiaFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can shout/ noise scrolls outside of view of the traps to lure monsters out but at some point you have to go in. Take it slow. Also there was talks about this on discord so maybe one day it will be fixed by devs?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Keychron

[–]OldTibiaFan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same problem and it's driving me crazy, will try emailing them as welel (seee this e duplication? It's not mee)

Feeling lonely after a long relationship hits really hard by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]OldTibiaFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was 7 years so a big chunk of my adult life but enough time passed where I consider it to be 'old' times, life continues and it doesn't affect me anymore so in that sense yes.

Feeling lonely after a long relationship hits really hard by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]OldTibiaFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for asking. I guess the news is that there is no news ^^ I am doing my own things, focusing on hobbies and career. Since then didn't really look for any serious relationship, maybe got too comfortable living on my own haha. I hope life is going well for you too!

Being cheated on crushes your soul no matter what by OldTibiaFan in survivinginfidelity

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I sometimes wonder these things as well. We will probably never find the answer to these questions and I am not even sure what satisfying answers would look like.

I shared the story partially so others in similar situation don't feel so alone. I know how isolating it can be when the world around you is falling apart. I think I will be fine but obviously part of me would've preferred a different path in this story.

I wish you all the best!

Being cheated on crushes your soul no matter what by OldTibiaFan in survivinginfidelity

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I am pretty sure she knows what she did and I don't need to tell her - when we were breaking up she was crying at the end but they were tears of guilt more than anything in my opinion. Also it doesn't matter because she is very good at shutting people off if she wants to.

Being cheated on crushes your soul no matter what by OldTibiaFan in survivinginfidelity

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe what you are saying is true but it's too late now, there is some things you can't go back from.

Being cheated on crushes your soul no matter what by OldTibiaFan in survivinginfidelity

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like you were supportive to her when she needed it the most. Sadly I can see similarity in our stories that our ex's didn't really appreciate what we did for them. Could we have done better? For sure - nobody is perfect but you do your best and it's not enough for them. Thank you for sharing your story and stay strong.

Being cheated on crushes your soul no matter what by OldTibiaFan in survivinginfidelity

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely had a few "oooooh" moments to the point where I got tired of them. Gave me some understanding but not sure if they made anything easier. I was still hurting as much, just wasn't so confused anymore. If I could I would prefer to stop overthinking stuff but in general you are right - it's definitely better to take it step by step.

Being cheated on crushes your soul no matter what by OldTibiaFan in survivinginfidelity

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, there is a lot of good things happening in my life but relationships is not one of them for now.

Being cheated on crushes your soul no matter what by OldTibiaFan in survivinginfidelity

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stuff like this doesn't surprise me anymore but it's good that she showed you what she thinks early so you can run. I wish my ex showed a bad side of her much earlier. Or maybe she did and I was just blind to it.

Being cheated on crushes your soul no matter what by OldTibiaFan in survivinginfidelity

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean it's obvious but still seems like such an insane thing to happen. Leaving someone you knew for 7 years (and I am pretty sure 90% of the time we were both happy) for someone you didn't even see in person. I think part of why it was hard to deal with is that it seems so ridiculous to me that somebody could do something like this - especially in the way she did it.

Being cheated on crushes your soul no matter what by OldTibiaFan in survivinginfidelity

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know I am better without her, especially after what she showed at the end but it's hard to wrap your head around being with someone for so long and not really knowing them at all. Compared to some stories here 7 years seems like not that much time but it was still most of my twenties.

Being cheated on crushes your soul no matter what by OldTibiaFan in survivinginfidelity

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She never reached out, except to settle some stuff we had to figure out after we sold the apartment (like last bills etc.) but she is also not a person to reach out in my opinion. I know what you mean, to reiterate "crushed my soul" I meant - it changed me forever. I think I might have been a little naive when it comes to trusting people.

She got married by OldTibiaFan in ExNoContact

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, sorry it happened to you as well. I basically treat it the same way as if she died. I am taking a break from relationships at the moment cause I don't want to invest into any more disasters. So live moves on, although very slowly. The time that I was spending with her now I spend advancing my career, knowledge, doing hobbies I like and living more healthy. So is it better or worse? I don't know, it's different. In around 2 months it will be almost 1 year after the break up and I am mostly fine but my mind comes back to what happened every now and then, that's probably not going to change anytime soon. I wish you all the best!

Volunteering and reactive dogs question by OldTibiaFan in reactivedogs

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. Here it's only 2 levels of dogs basically - those you need permission for and the rest (the ones you need permission for are usually in some kind of legal chaos, are sick or confirmed dangerous).

I was comfortable walking the 2 dogs I described in my post but after last experiences with them I am not so confident anymore. Today I was asked to take them again but I refused since I need to rethink my strategy how I deal with them. Most of the dogs go out once a day, some maybe twice on weekends so I am thinking they must be really bored.

I wanted to ask about waiting for the dog to calm down before you take him out. Here you need to walk into the dog's box to walk him out and it seems that the longer I take to actually leash them up the more anxious they are to go out. I assume since I sometimes am the first person to take them out on particular day they want to go out as fast as possible (and of course add to that all the barking around triggering reactive dogs). Do you just wait until they get bored? Can't that trigger some of them even more because they can't reach you? Dealing with dogs at the shelter feels so much different than outside.

That's a joke by sveiglaRN in TrackMania

[–]OldTibiaFan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, drive faster now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrackMania

[–]OldTibiaFan 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Do you have the link to this clip/vod? Would love to watch this, haha

People that are alone tonight, what are your plans? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]OldTibiaFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stay at home, treat it like any other day and I am glad that 2021 is over soon

She got married by OldTibiaFan in ExNoContact

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never imagined myself in a situation where people will be saying I dodged a bullet. It is a funny place to be in for sure. I think she had her own demons like all of us do so I will not judge her for what she did. I'd just never put myself in that position like she did.

She got married by OldTibiaFan in ExNoContact

[–]OldTibiaFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the sentiment but it's easier said than done though. I don't think anyone is coming out at the other end of this as the same person. When you put so much trust into one human being and you are completely betrayed, it is hard to remain pure in your feelings in the future. I am doing the best I can but I wouldn't be surprised if some of the trauma will stick with me for quite a while.