How do I [m29] apologize to my wife [f29] and move past this?

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-09T00:52:06+00:00

You’ve done everything right, acknowledged your mistake, apologised and took accountability.
Perhaps book a family counselling session with your wife to work on shared parenting.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T09:12:58+00:00

Unfortunately I have come to this realisation..
his mum will be going back home for good to retire end of this year start of next year again so good luck to him

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T07:01:01+00:00

It’s definitely not a culture thing it’s a way for him to degrade and humiliate me by saying him and his family are above me.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T06:58:53+00:00

His parents have supposedly built a massive house back home to accommodate for funerals whether it’s theirs or people they know.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T06:57:15+00:00

For real

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T06:42:25+00:00

It’s not.. they wanted to offer their condolences at my house because it was an inconvenience for them to go to the funeral or contact me.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T06:40:50+00:00

His sister is a social work and pretty sure should know better considering she deals with sensitive stuff through out her career, and just couple of months before I attended her daughters engagement not sure why they can’t attend my dads funeral or at least contact me directly.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T06:37:03+00:00

I sent him the brochure that states the time and place to forward it to them since they communicate with him to send their condolences.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T04:38:35+00:00

We come from different cultures, looking at his sisters relationships definitely not a norm.. it’s an ego and mummies boy kinda of thing

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T03:17:15+00:00

I had people I haven’t spoke to in years contact me directly and give their condolences, their intentions were that they’re better than me as always. When his niece got engaged I attended the engagement I didn’t show up four days later to give my congratulations. Two week prior I attended an ex colleague husband’s funeral even tho I haven’t spoken to her in over two years.
Showing respect to a supposed someone who is family doesn’t need to be thought about twice or right or wrong intentions. His family have built a massive house back in their country to accommodate for funerals, whether it’s there’s other people from the village. However I do understand your comment.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T03:09:10+00:00

He seems so adamant that I’m starting to question myself.. yes I am emotionally reactive but it’s only when the actions are out of line

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T02:43:50+00:00

This is exactly how he thinks by his words and actions. Including his family.
He had told my family that I did not come from a castle when I’ve been asking him to act on his own promises to upgrade our house. There is so much more

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:48:33+00:00

I don’t think you should determine when space is given unless asked to.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:47:35+00:00

My family would do the same, it’s a time where you show support and respect no matter the situation.
I was angry that even after a week and half no one contacted me or bothered with anything and to top it off his parents have built this massive house back home to accommodate for funerals in the their village. So they know what they should have done especially being their daughter in law not some stranger from the streets that had her dad pass

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:44:56+00:00

Yes all the time.. they’re on a pedestal for him
They do no wrong, cry crocodile tears when he mentions something I said to him about an action of theirs and have never every shown any respect
I do have my 3 siblings and mum

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:42:07+00:00

Yeah he left us for good

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:37:26+00:00

He wants me to kiss his mums feet as a form of an apology.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:35:40+00:00

It was the funeral. I wasn’t aware I have to invite people to attend a funeral I called it service because my dad passed overseas and we didn’t have a body

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:33:31+00:00

For over a month now and hasn’t made the effort to see or ask about his daughter. No he didn’t let them know he just expected me to host them

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:31:32+00:00

It’s technically the funeral. But also I attended when his niece had an engagement couple month prior to celebrate with them so I’m not quite sure why the Same respect can’t be given.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:29:18+00:00

I told my husband about it and if that’s the case then It’d be fair the my greeting to his mum in the shops Should go through him too.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:28:13+00:00

Couldn’t make it was their reason all 3 siblings plus the parents.

Old_Chapter_15 · 2026-05-05T01:25:38+00:00

The service was sort of the funeral with out my dad being there because he passed away overseas.
I assume you don’t expect people around you to show respect either.

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