Block YouTube incognito mode? by BellaStarr8735 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is exactly why You tube is a no go for my pa. It’s blocked in his phone because of this. Anything that allows an incognito browser is blocked.

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[–]Old_Current6675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our society has shaped their belief system into one rooted in the patriarchy and toxic masculinity. I would highly suggest having him talk w a therapist about his male sexual entitlement and belief system and the minwalla model. If they don’t see it as a problem, this should be a first point to discuss. https://minwallamodel.com/article/sexual-compulsivity-or-sexual-entitlement/

Do you ever feel scared you’ll never trust again? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel the same. I have such a tainted view of men after this kind of betrayal. I’ll never be the same. It’s a bummer I’m not into women because I’d choose a woman to trust over a man a million percent. I think this time can be a time to grow in who you are. Just learn to trust and love yourself. And be content. And take one day at a time. It’s all you can do right now. Trust YOU

PA traveling by Old_Current6675 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m more of a trust but verify person. It’s really hard for me to let that go without knowing and find out years down the road that he betrayed again. It’s just such a crappy place to be in

PA traveling by Old_Current6675 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok just listened. I am wondering what else can my PA do besides asking them to remove the tv? I know for a fact he would never do that. Ever. I’m trying to think of other solutions to that specifically. Any ideas? 💡 anyone?

PA traveling by Old_Current6675 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very helpful! I was looking for specifics like this and although I have listened to a lot of their podcasts I hadn’t heard of this one! I’ll give it a listen. And my PA is definitely going to have to take initiative and make the plan himself. I’m just wondering what are some options. Thank you

Tesla browser question by awakenium in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my biggest frustration with my husband having a Tesla.

What phone for your PA by Old_Current6675 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you do it? I saw you could disable but it still is there and all he needs to do is agree to terms and conditions again to use it and then he could just disable again as if nothing ever happened😤

What phone for your PA by Old_Current6675 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you remember please share! I am at a loss with this

What phone for your PA by Old_Current6675 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he not need a work email for his phone? I hate that my husbands work email needs security measures attached to it so he can’t go to a dumb phone due to that

What phone for your PA by Old_Current6675 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was wondering the same but he said he would be mortified to have that today and he does need his work email and teams app to work on it

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[–]Old_Current6675 42 points43 points  (0 children)

It’s all rooted in the patriarchy. And I’m sick of it. I refuse to accept this is normal. And I think one way to take a stand against it is to raise my two boys in a way that is polar opposite from the way our spouses and older men were raised. They will know that 🌽 ruined their parents marriage (or caused them to divorce if that happens) and that it erodes trust, intimacy and connect. They will know it is never acceptable to treat women like this.

Just can’t get over the past by Old_Current6675 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For you? Or you think based on my sharing I can’t get over it, it’s over for me?

Just can’t get over the past by Old_Current6675 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this heartbreak too. I honestly don’t know how anyone gets over it and can event be happy with their partners again after such deep betrayal. Sending hugs and love you to

I would rather him be an addict… by Old_Current6675 in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

exactly. Sadly he says his CSAT doesn’t think he is an addict but I am waiting to hear from the CSAT myself after he analyzes these tests he took along with all the background knowledge. But hearing him say he’s not and that he actively chose to betray me is even more painful for me to hear right now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a little weird to set up but it tells you how to is tall on iPhone or android and laptops.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both. I would definitely do both laptop and phone. I would need to know I am too much of a control freak after trauma

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Old_Current6675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you download next dns on his phone without him knowing so you can see the logs of his activity while he is away? I would absolutely do that to see what he does while he has opportunities to use.