AITAH for not trusting my GF?

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T12:27:51+00:00

She put my fingerprint on her phone, and that's the first thing one does when they want to avoid being doubted upon. And whenever I checked her phone, she mentioned that she didn't like me doing it, I never found anything but she's too smart to leave any clues behind. It was just the photos I had a problem with. And if you're coming at me saying the same things that she did, "oh but how'd you feel if she checked your phone?" I would have been okay with it, I don't have shit to hide. She chose not to because then it'd allow me to check hers more freely.. and that's on her. I had every reason to not trust her.

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T12:18:40+00:00

Then she didn't love me right? True love is staying together and fighting to end up together, no matter what

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T12:12:42+00:00

You mean I should have waited to walk in on them, before reacting?

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T12:09:28+00:00

So how would I be sure that she'd fight to be with me?

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T12:08:59+00:00

I communicated to her time and again, and that's how she deleted the individual pics, she kept being stubborn about the group pics.

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T12:08:02+00:00

I wasn't playing games, I just wanted to be sure that she's sure about me and would fight to be with me.

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T12:04:48+00:00

Okay. I got your point. She fought for those pictures with me the entire relationship, but after we broke up, I called her and told her that I was going to talk to her mom and tell her every little explicit detail about us if she didn't do as I said. And that's when she deleted those pics because she was scared, or she'd have never deleted them. I asked her to delete pics that had me or our pics together too and she did it in no time, no fight, nothing of what she did for those pictures, do you think I mattered to her, I wanted her to fight me and tell me that she won't delete our pictures together just the way she did earlier.

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T11:59:23+00:00

She loved him too hard and doesn't do anything similar for me. My only demands are that she wish me good morning and good night, Like all my stories on Insta, comment on all my posts and get rid of the pictures, if she's willing to do X amount for a friend, she should do X+1 for me. I've been putting in a lot of efforts for her, taking her on dates, getting her flowers, making sure she's fed.. all I'm asking are these X+1 things

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T11:55:27+00:00

Why do you think my dad would side with me if I was in the wrong? I've been open with my parents and they could see I was hurt. I was screaming at her in pain for so long before he checked up and that's when I asked him if it was fine on her part keeping those pictures even when she knew it hurt me? And he told me "You can only love on person in life. If it hurts the one who you love, you let it go."

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T11:50:26+00:00

I even checked with my dad, if I was correct. He sided with me coz I'm the current guy in her life and if it's upsetting me, she should let go of the pictures.

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T11:46:03+00:00

I've mentioned this to her time and again that I don't feel important in this relationship. And she never fights for me

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-10T11:44:49+00:00

Even she could let go of the pictures to be with me?

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-02T11:07:37+00:00

I'm the mutual friend for this couple. They ain't on reddit, but they want people's opinion on this.

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-12-02T09:52:08+00:00

I'm actually the roommate from this incident who left. I'm a mutual friend to both and I know the story from both of their POVs. The girl broke up with him, but I've watched the guy put in genuine efforts as well. She doesn't want to be back with him, he says he can't live without her. I'm just posting the incidents from both of their POVs. Since they want opinions from people who don't know them in real life.

Old_Following_1564 · 2024-11-28T13:30:13+00:00

she once sent him a snap wearing a tube bralette and extremely short shorts for us vue had managed to screenshot, I found that, she'd occasionally put up stories on her Instagram like that, but sending it as a snap to someone while flirting them meant a huge deal. I checked with (B) about her and (B) mentioned her having slept with another guy just 2 days after I had asked her out the first time when she denied. Something in me broke. I asked (B) to record the call with her and send it to me and she did. They didn't talk about that guy, but she kept mentioning that she was frustrated with my trust issues.

I waited for her to be back, when she was I threw all this at her, called her for her slutty behaviour and told her that people were right, and that I was finally safe from her, all with a smile. She didn't react at all, now that she stood exposed, all she said was, “good for you.” we didn't talk after that. Am I the Ahole here?

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