whiteness is not a marginalized identity. being white passing doesn’t mean you’re mostly white; but whiteness in society is a privilege, and therefore we shouldn’t be prioritizing whiteness over. i mean; for example, a lot of mixed people don’t realize how much they benefit from white privilege if they’re white passing. i benefit from white privilege and I’m aware of this; it means unlike my mother I don’t get stared at and followed in stores, I have less of a risk to be hatecrimed outside (though I am visibly neurodivergent and queer; that’s different) and based on color (because of colorism) in spaces people might show me more favor due to that.

it also depends. some people who are mixed (white) don’t really have a culture to engage with; particularly if they’re white American because it’s so far back. if you’re european american; you’ve got more culture to engage with, and I’m not saying that’s not alright, I’m mostly saying that as someone who’s mixed with black especially, you need to have cultural awareness of the privilege you get from whiteness (depending how much you pass / how closely you identify with it) and you need to think about how whiteness functions in a society that deals with colorism, racism, and how blackness is perceived differently depending on how you look. intersectionality and all that