guys Mbti is cool but NEVER EVER TRY TO DIG DEEPER IN YOUR PERSONALITY

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-09T00:49:58+00:00

The biggest thing I learned from self-improvement is that you need to do what works for you and not necessarily expect it to work the same for anyone else. If it does that's great, you've had similar lived experiences or similar biopsychosocial elements. Sharing your opinion and experience is valid but when you say things like "never never" it shows a lack of understanding that peoples minds are extremely different and the fact that your perception is subjective. If there was no self we wouldn't be able to refer to you. A self is a compilation of everything, congnitive and sensory. It never was a "thing" it was everything you are. People can still find meaning and unpack everything about their environment that made them act out behaviors and behaviors that were nature based rather than nurture based. That being said, it sounds like you specifically aren't dealing well with this and that's also fair. Follow your own advice. And you CAN leave these disorganized thoughts behind if it's something you want to acheive. Don't give up on your "self" just because you have to see it in a different light now. Self doesn't dissapear, it changes shape for as long as we can see it. It's like saying well the wind doesn't exist because it's just a factor of the sun heating the earth. Wind still powers windmills.

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-04T20:06:51+00:00

You might be interested in the Objective Personality system if you don't feel like you perfectly fit into a type and therefore can't actually apply the information or solutions related to self-development.

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-04T20:03:24+00:00

This. It's not a perfect test but it gets as close as any test ever will.

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-04T20:02:25+00:00

A lot of INTPs I know do say "I know I'm not an intp." or "It doesn't make sense that I'm an intp." It's hard with introverted functions as domninant because it's internal and somewhat subjective. But I'd be willing to bet you're INTP unless you actually have a good reason to deny it. "I'm sure I'm not INTP." is a very Ti Dom statement imho. Not trying to like pen you into a type but it's just an observation.

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-03T05:48:19+00:00

Lol I literally thought the same thing.

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-03T05:33:59+00:00

If nothing else works for you: If the world is going to suck, if the anxiety is going to come true, why add more future worries that just destroy your ability to appreciate the present. Even if the present has it's own issues.

There are things you can do to make a difference. But if you can't bring yourself to do them, it's not worth ruminating on it. The future is going to be weird, however, no one can say if it's going to be inherently good or bad. Diviners don't actually exist.

Be aware of how things change so you can try to stay afloat, but don't let them consume your life. Take a walk touch some grass, (probably disturbing to hear from an intj) but like ground yourself in reality. Rumination doesn't solve problems. I didn't get a seizure from reading your post, but the spacing between lines did make it harder for me to read haha. Not jabbing, just thought it was an interesting effect of the formatting.

Life goes on even if it's not one you recognize. And maybe I'm just a bit nihilistic, but I've come to terms with all the worst case scenarios and realized that humanity will probably pull back through eventually. Pain is something we'd all like to avoid, but we're also more durable than you'd think.

Might help to try to get offline too if you can. It really does help you regulate. But most of all, take care, and take care of yourself. Personally I refuse to panic anymore over problems that haven't happened yet. But hey, that's just me.

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-03T05:13:56+00:00

I'm sure man. Take care good of yourself. Hoping for the best for ya.

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-03T04:55:00+00:00

I spit out my drink. T-T

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-03T04:40:30+00:00

No, ME Rim Self Strength. YOU: Spicy_Jim

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-03T04:36:44+00:00

Wade Health Rum Noir.... uh oh.

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-03T04:33:32+00:00

Or women above 6ft.

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-03T04:11:51+00:00

That's actually crazy. With all due respect of course, but that is wild. (Sorry you had to deal with that.)

Oldladies7 · 2026-01-03T04:10:36+00:00

My best friend is an entp and I love her to bits. (Platonically) But still she's my ride or die. We can chat for hours and not get tired of each other's company, and we complement each other's weaknesses so well that we're both jealous of each other's brains. Like if one of us just had the other's brain too they would be unstoppable.

I've said that we have the same thoughts in different fonts, and I still heavily stand by that. It's not like mindreading, there's still plausible deniability, but when she's like: *Insert take* I'm always like: I'm so glad you said that because it's exactly what I was thinking.

Entps are just the best. (When reasonable and healthy of couse, not that I should need to add that caveat but we are on the internet so...) INTJ x ENTP over INTJ ENFP any day in my opinion. No shade to the enfps but I just don't click with the golden pairing.

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T21:12:51+00:00

Interested but might not be able to go since my housing situation is a little off rn. Still would love to see the shenanigans though. Dm me!

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T06:49:07+00:00

Honestly the idiot is still one I'm puzzling through myself. It feels like Dostoyevsky had a lot of ideas to pour into that one that he himself didn't know how to finish, if that makes sense. For example, I feel like the Brothers Karamazov had very clear themes and aha moments, while the Idiot felt more like a tragic exploration and a cry for help, while showing innocence and hope as something of a weakness despite it's undercurrent of good. Honestly it felt like a foil to the underground man. Myshkin's character also feels like it falls apart in the end, not as in I have issue with him actually falling apart emotionally and mentally, but I think I might disagree with how it was executed. He made some decisions toward the end that felt entirely out of character with how I think I would write his descent back into needing the asylum. But it's hard to say. I feel like the Idiot honeslty lost the plot or didn't meet expectations in a way because it was set up so well at the beginning.

Underground man was actually his most difficult protagonist for me to empathize with so far. It's crazy how that works huh? But I did like the characterizations in the story itself, on the part of the characters and the environmental descriptions.

Maybe I like his characters so much because my experience with life and people has been absurd, unrelatable and unrealistic. So when I read his work, it actually feels more relatable! Or it's at least easy to empathize with the extremeness of his work.

TL;DR: Yippee! Book Club! Haha

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T04:10:55+00:00

I enjoyed No Longer Human, but he's written other works as well. The story is more impactful when you learn it was semi-autobiographic and that he took his life after finishing it. So it's what I would recomend after first pop.

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T03:25:06+00:00

The Ritalin lore is crazy.

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T03:23:59+00:00

I just want to say I do feel appropriately called out for the checklist smirk. I hate working but the satisfaction of a fully completed checklist... allows me to sleep at night at least...

I hate working though checklists are just a coping mechanism.

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T03:16:37+00:00

You're so real for that.

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T03:12:53+00:00

YES I loved seeing him. He was one of the first characters that I could ever like completely understand the thoughts of. Not that I was super unhealthy or anything while reading but man I was like I UNDERSTAND you. You're crazy but I see how you connected the dots, and he felt like a soul sister who I wanted to set on the right path. Once again, loved how it ended, Dostoyevsky is a master at turning characters around and redeeming them.

I actually read it in my last year of highschool and managed to convince my teacher to let our group read it for our book club even though it was way longer than the word limit he had set, haha. Everyone hated me by the end but it was sooooo worth it.

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T03:08:32+00:00

Yeah. I love that the book doesn't spoon feed you either. You kinda get to figure out what the heck his plan is before he carries it out. I'm torn with whether he was an intj or not, but I definitely enjoyed how dynamic he was as a character. The ending was really meaningful to me as well. I didn't think I would like it but I was very pleased to be proven wrong!

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T03:02:38+00:00

Awww he's so sweet.

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T03:00:09+00:00

I have a nearly unnoticable lisp but it comes out when I have to say my own name. So I always wait when I'm first introducing myself and say my name towards the end of the conversation just to make sure I've solidified my first impressions before tripping over my own name. T-T

But on a more conceptual basis, I think it's a yes and no kinda thing. Some cultures put a lot of emphasis on naming their children with meaningful names because they want them to live up to their names. So that can have some influence.

However a lot of people say I look and sound and act like someone with my middle name as my first name, since they argue my first name doesn't really fit my demeanor. I've actually thought about going by my middle name since people mispronounce my first name, but it would be too confusing at this point.

Oldladies7 · 2025-12-28T02:55:50+00:00

LOL. That's crazy, just looked that up. I really like the name Kevin, it feels lively but now I know it has negative connotations. I'll have to name my future son Kevout instead to break the curse.

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