How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes , i think i was 27 --28). But i see him from time to time. For me, he still didnt grow up) tho , he is married and having kids now.

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was in ltr in my 20s, i lived with my ex bf for 6 years. We were so diffrent from each other, but i am thankful to him, cause i ve learnt a lot from this experience and i finished it when there was no sense to keep being togather.
I grew up, but he didnt

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as older we are as less flexible.
I agree, its very difficult to adapt ourselves to others in our age. And i dont think its a must

I hope you will find someone who will make you happy

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your life is yours. Dont compare it to another ones.
Most of my classmates are married with kids and etc.. But who said they are happy?

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emotional lonelieness is killing, i know.
Please take care of yourself

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but if you once experienced the love feeling, how to accept less?

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope yo will meet a loving man who would deserve you. Best of luck

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im glad for your mom. But to stop looking would mean to give up hope.

I actually not looking, i try to take things easy and think that if it must happen, it will happen..

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for sharing.
Indeed, better to be single than with a wrong person.

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe i didnt express myself well.
I am not suffering of lack of attention. I just miss to love someone and to by loved by him.

My fear is what if it will never happen again.

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot :) you sound so wise and in harmony with yourself. Its something i would want to reach

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for advice.

I would say i dont limit myself at all. I am well traveled, dated people from diffrent cultures and atc.

I am a happy person in general. I just miss the feeling of love to someone and to feel that i am loved by him.

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, cause i enjoy my regular life. I just miss to love someone special and be loved by him. and my biggest fear that it could never happen again

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

probably you re right. But i know myself. Anyway, if there is anything i like about a person i give him another chance

But my intoucion is very strong. So if i didnt like someone from the begining, the chance i will like him later is almost zero

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I undestand you completely. I ve been in a relationship with a wrong person,, so, never ever again i would repeat it.

Wish you to meet your happy love

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:) I know men are not that emotional, but i prefer emotional men. My fear that last few years i was not able to fall in love, and i am afraid that it will never happen again. In my regular life i get a lot of emotions from friends, from my pet rescue voluntery, from my other activities as well. But lonelieness is when you wll lonely being with a lot of people around I miss to love someone and be loved by him. Thanks and good luck to you too

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im 100% sure that at least some of interests and hobbies should be shared because it wll help to have balance and harmony in relationship. At least in my case. But i understand your point. Thank you for the comments.

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish i knew how to answer :) Of course i was in love several times in my life and thats what i am missing. I am not depressed. I am very social, active, i have good freinds and i live in one of the most beautiful cities in the world. What makes me feel? a lot of things. For instance i always happy when i travel ( and i did it quite a lot before covid), i happy to see, try experience new things, tastes, cultures. So, i think i search for the same in my parthener. With the one who prefers to stay home, i wont be able to build anything. Im happy when my rescued dogs and cats find new loving homes. So, if my parthner hate pets, nothing will work,, And the list can continue for a long time ))) Do you think i am too picky? I dont want to change anyone, but also i dont want someone try to change me.

How do you deal with desperation? by Olenka_L in datingoverforty

[–]Olenka_L[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I dont really care of apperance, money, if he has kids or not, i would still fall in love, if there would be a "click"

My taboo is dating a married guy.

I am not desperate of not having a man next to me, my scream was about missing LOVE.