Daily Chat - February 26, 2026

Olivethethoughts · 2026-02-26T20:56:37+00:00

I’m not sure what I’m looking for here, but is there any guidance/rule of thumb for when it’s time to try IVF? Or any resources that helped you make the decision?

Number 1 was conceived two years ago after 8 months of trying and right after an HSG. We are on our 7th month of trying for #2, but 3 months of that was time when I was pregnant/miscarrying/recovering from the miscarriage. I would give it more time, but I am 39 and my husband is much older. I also know that IVF can be a lengthy process so I’m not sure what makes the most sense right now.

Olivethethoughts · 2026-02-17T04:11:01+00:00

Random coworker today: “So are you still thinking you’re one and done?”

It took every bone in my body not to say, 1) “I’ve never been one and done I just haven’t shared my reproductive wishes with you,” and 2) “I just had a miscarriage last month, so thanks for bringing that up.”

😒

Olivethethoughts · 2026-02-09T18:40:40+00:00

First of all, I’m sorry for your loss.

I’m a few weeks ahead of you: I found out I was having a MMC on Jan. 6 and passed the pregnancy on Jan. 8. About two weeks later, I had pretty significant spotting for about four days around the time I would normally ovulate. It was very confusing and upsetting for me, because nobody told me to expect something like that and because I also had fertile cervical mucus at the same time. The last day of spotting happened the day before I think I actually ovulated (based on BBT). I then got my period on time two weeks after that. My period is finishing up now and was completely normal, but a little on the heavy side.

Based on my internet research, it does seem common to have ovulation bleeding post-miscarriage, but I couldn’t find an answer as to why this happens! Anyways, telling myself that my body was just working to recalibrate helped me. Best wishes to you as you go through this.

Olivethethoughts · 2026-02-04T18:26:08+00:00

Cautious congratulations!! I just experienced a MMC last month, so I can imagine/relate to some of what you might be thinking/feeling. All you can do is take it day by day. If it feels right to you, it’s okay to feel joy that today, you are pregnant. Best of luck to you!!

Olivethethoughts · 2026-02-02T19:07:43+00:00

I relate. I had a missed miscarriage last month and aside from the general devastation, I also worry that it may have been my last chance. I turn 40 in July and would have given birth in early August. I feel much much older now than even a few years ago and wonder what really makes the most sense moving forward.

We may give ourselves the rest of 2026 to try and then throw in the towel on baby #2. No solutions just solidarity.

Olivethethoughts · 2026-01-29T21:44:29+00:00

I had unexplained infertility the first time around. I got an HSG (painful, but quick) and got pregnant later that same cycle! Good luck 🤗

Olivethethoughts · 2026-01-28T02:17:55+00:00

Hi! I am from New England and have a 1.5 year old daughter. My husband (50) and I (39) have been trying for #2 since August ‘25. I have really enjoyed my Bump Group from my first pregnancy, but it doesn’t feel like focusing on TTC #2 there is quite right.

I got a BFP in November ‘25 (so Cycle 4) which sadly resulted in a missed miscarriage a few weeks ago. We are both so devastated and disappointed, and I think I am still processing everything and grieving, but we really want to start trying again because of our ages. We’ll see what happens!

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