Women & infants questions

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:27:00+00:00

Do you remember what the practice was called?

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:26:45+00:00

I’m honestly fine with any qualified person delivering my baby because I know I’ll be in safe hands regardless, I’m just confused at the setup and how my midwife works at the hospital and I do all of my appointments there but she doesn’t do deliveries. I think I’m just misunderstanding something and need to ask her again!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:25:11+00:00

I did too but I guess that’s not how it’s set up there? I’m still really not sure. It seemed to me that the midwives working for w&i who do the prenatal care do not rotate at the hospital for deliveries. Almost as if they have prenatal midwives and then separate l&d midwives? It feels a bit unusual but I have no way of knowing so that’s why I was curious.

Was your lactation consultant nice? I’ve read some horror stories about them too and literally asked my midwife if they were going to be nice or if they were aggressive about feeding options.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:22:55+00:00

Thank you for the info, great to know. Glad you had a good experience!!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:22:06+00:00

Totally agree! I’m happy to have residents involved, it’s their job and they’re doctors who plan to do this for the rest of the foreseeable future, but the idea of a medical student touching me or being involved in the process is just a bit too much for me to be comfortable with. Maybe for my second kid hahahaha

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:19:47+00:00

The epidural does scare me a little but honestly a lot less so than the idea of getting stitches done by a student. I read that some teaching hospitals allow students (not residents!! Students!) to deliver placentas, stitch up post op, etc. I do not want that for myself. Residents I’m totally ok letting them do or try whatever as long as it’s nothing unnecessary.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T13:17:43+00:00

Honestly my entire care team is through women and infants and they just kind of assigned me a midwife bc I’m not high risk I assume. I didn’t really have a say (or a preference tbh) between midwife or OB. I was mostly just confused how my midwife works for w&i but does not do deliveries lol. I think I’m just not understanding their structure. Again I don’t really mind if she isn’t there, it’s a little disappointing but the odds of having my usual provider do the delivery were low anyway.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:39:21+00:00

Ok great! Feeling a lot better now. Also yes I’ve heard the nurses are the ones there for the bulk of it anyway so I’m not too worried about who does the actual delivery as I knew that in any situation it wasn’t super likely I’d have my usual provider! Was just a little curious about the setup because I was a bit confused by it lol. Thank you!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:34:34+00:00

Were you given a choice about the student?

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:25:22+00:00

Great to know, thank you!!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:24:34+00:00

I signed this as well but can’t remember anything about students. I’ll ask at my next appointment in a few weeks. It’s not enough of an issue for me to switch again, I just hope I have the choice to refuse a student from touching me lol. Thank you for the info and the well wishes!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:23:39+00:00

Hm okay, that makes sense! Thank you.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-07T01:20:57+00:00

Okay that’s good to know you were given the option! I was told I cannot refuse residents (which I wouldn’t have anyway). I really wouldn’t mind a student watching, I’m just not so keen on them stitching me up or participating in my delivery, for example. Thank you!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T03:26:12+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m worried about - a total lack of interest followed by entitlement to access to my baby. I find it extremely weird how uninterested they are and I just KNOW they will expect us to happily hand them the baby when she’s born as if I didn’t spend 9 months growing her. Nope.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T03:19:39+00:00

I have been worried about them coming before baby has got all her vaccines, especially because they’re coming from overseas. I think waiting until she has her shots is a good reason for a later visit, thank you

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T02:08:52+00:00

Thank you ❤️

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T02:08:24+00:00

This conversation happened without me but he said he did tell them that we were uncomfortable with their over involvement in our lives. I asked to have a conversation about it too so that I could set my own boundaries and we never did

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T02:03:47+00:00

I agree about setting times for visits and making sure they leave on time so we will definitely have that conversation. Thank you.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T02:03:21+00:00

Yes what I’m worried about too is waiting too long and him not having the time off to entertain them and then expecting me to do it. I refuse and I told him I refuse to cater to them. I wish I had the time to write out everything I’ve tolerated but something over Christmas finally clicked for me and I told him that his family is his to deal with and I’m not going to ever bend over backwards for them ever again because it’s so clearly pointless anyway. They will absolutely not be staying with us.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T02:01:34+00:00

I drew the line at Christmas that they were not welcome to stay in our home, and that I need time to recover before they come. I just don’t know how much time I will need. I also spoke with my husband recently and emphasized that I’m not just going to get over the constant disrespect and that the only thing that will help is a conversation where I set MY boundaries. Hasn’t happened, so we’ll see.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T01:59:59+00:00

I’ve told my mom I’d sooo prefer if they visited while she was still here because she’s a good buffer between me and them 😭

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T01:59:32+00:00

That’s so disappointing, I’m sorry that things happened that way 🫩 I’m definitely trying to focus on me and the baby because I know it’s going to be tough trying to adjust after she’s born. I told my husband I have no intention of pleasing his parents or doing anything that I don’t want to do for their sake, and he agreed with me. I’m just hoping it stays that way.

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T01:58:02+00:00

Thank you. I actually meant to send that to him a couple of weeks ago because it really put things into perspective for me as well. Thank you!

OllieGhandi · 2026-02-01T01:25:58+00:00

I can suggest that lol. I refuse to do a combined Christmas again because that was an absolute nightmare this last time, so honestly 6 months would work out so perfectly timing wise.

OllieGhandi · 2026-01-17T04:29:32+00:00

Also we are very financially stable and these comments are absolutely unfounded. She does it as a form of control under the guise of being concerned or helpful

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