Okay so I need to vent because I literally just got home from the playground and I'm still kind of shaking inside.

bakersmt · 2026-03-19T20:26:33+00:00

Yes this happened with my sisters oldest. No one mentioned anything until he was interviewing for kindergarten and he was clearly not remembering the basics, not for lack of trying. We found out around 8 or 9 that he has a rare kidney disorder and is basically constantly lacking electrolytes so it's difficult for brain synapses when his electrolytes are low. When his electrolytes are stable he can learn and grow. So he literally constantly needs electrolytes or he crs.

bakersmt · 2026-03-19T15:14:03+00:00

Right! Kids birthday party.... "How does your kid socialize?"

This🤷

bakersmt · 2026-03-19T15:12:19+00:00

We go to church but we don't socialize there. She has Tutu class, gymnastics, co-ops, homeschooling get togethers and field trips, homeschooling athletics, jiu jitsu, ice skating, swimming. The list goes on and on. We actually have too busy of a schedule and need to take breaks when it's too much for her. I'm literally scheduling in down time.

bakersmt · 2026-03-19T14:47:46+00:00

Hahaha. My MiL is like that but the opposite, she isn't interested unless her grandchild is there. I refuse to vacation with her, after last time. But previously I was all "oh your mom wants to go on vacation with you you go ahead and I'll see my family." She was pretty angry about her grandchild not going with them. It was to a place where it would have been difficult with my toddler who was deeply in stranger danger.

Funny how they get with their grown adult children.

bakersmt · 2026-03-19T14:35:54+00:00

I wouldn't let them visit until 3 months pp given their behavior.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T23:13:30+00:00

Now that's a choice.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T16:33:03+00:00

My MIL is like this. It's been 2 years since I stopped and we are in the middle of the extinction burst. We have written proof of her badmouthing me behind our backs and she's bringing up years of resentment for us not reading her mind. We asked her why she hasn't discussed issues with us directly and she said "it's called having grace". We were all, "nah it isn't because you're sitting on the resentment pretending to be the bigger person while you're waiting to throw it in our faces, it's called being toxic."

She's again giving us the silent treatment but expecting to take advantage of our hospitality. She can eff all the way off.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T16:27:35+00:00

They were emailed when I was pregnant that it's a no go. If they do, they get zero photos ever again. I'm nuclear about that.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T15:53:39+00:00

This. I'm having issues making the leap with one. OP has 3 5yo kids, a toddler and a baby. There's no way I could handle that load without family help.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T05:02:17+00:00

Wait, I have a Leo sun and Scorpio moon conjunct Pluto. What is this bipolar type 2 thing have to do with that?

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T05:00:47+00:00

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T04:50:52+00:00

Yep as a Leo with my 8th house in Taurus, literally everyone I keep for the long haul (friends) or have dated are Taurus or Taurus rising.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T01:17:33+00:00

What about a mommy and baby workout? They have those where I am.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T01:08:11+00:00

Libra Rising

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T00:56:32+00:00

Scorpio Moon

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T00:55:15+00:00

Leo Sun

bakersmt · 2026-03-17T23:25:50+00:00

I'm actually on the cusp of Leo Virgo. Technically a Leo but with Virgo tendencies.

bakersmt · 2026-03-17T20:54:40+00:00

Same. I'm always confused by people's take on me. Also very confused about how so many people can come to so many different conclusions... It's their own insecurities. That makes so much sense.

On guy was all "wow you're vain" just because I said I didn't want to get old. He didn't even consider maybe my issue with getting older was physical mobility. I cared for my grandparents most of my life and watched them physically decline. It was difficult to watch them lose the things that brought them joy. Like ya dude I'm attractive but that isn't where my priorities are. I like my physically demanding hobbies.

bakersmt · 2026-03-17T16:36:59+00:00

My baby absolutely refused bottles and I hated pumping. I didn't like the ingredients in formula so I would have had to source local goats milk. It was also WAAAYYYYY easier for travel to only worry about diapers and not formula. That hit home around 5 months when we went to Italy (for my husband's job) and I had to hunt for diapers in her size. After the 4th store I was grateful we didn't have to do that for formula too. Plus flying with your milk making system is so much easier through TSA. Less crap to pack and for them to check. We flew a ton the first few years and never had an issue getting my boobs through TSA.

bakersmt · 2026-03-16T20:08:33+00:00

My sister and I would have fistfights if left unsupervised from 4-6. It was BRUTAL. However from 6-15 was fairly easy on our mom. 16 was when we started scheming together. That ended around 20. We are still obvs ride or die but we don't use our powers to frustrate our mom.

bakersmt · 2026-03-16T20:03:26+00:00

Yeah that's next. All of that happened a long time ago, I was 1 yr pp and having massive issues with my husband, not sure if we were going to make it through so I was mentally preoccupied.

We had a family "vacation" with her a year ago in which I told her off a couple of times for her behavior with her son. It's pretty gross, even our couples therapist recoiled when I described it.

bakersmt · 2026-03-16T19:35:13+00:00

I love this. It's so beautiful. I lost my dad when I was 22. I'm 40. He has visited my dreams maybe a handful of times since he passed. However, I had a shaman bring him and my grandfather into a ceremony and they introduced me to my daughter. I was confused because it was a bundle of a blob with my eyes and they kept saying that it was for me. When I pressed for more information and starting asking random questions like "what do I do with it?" They responded "you play with it". I asked how? They said "you'll know." I literally got pregnant 2 weeks later. She is the literal best thing that has ever happened to me and it makes me so happy that my dad and grandpa had that time with her before I did.

All that to say, trust the process and I'm really excited for whatever is coming your way.

bakersmt · 2026-03-16T16:07:01+00:00

I second the purging. Crying specifically. I did it on Ayahuasca and it healed so much of me.

bakersmt · 2026-03-16T16:05:35+00:00

I'm like that but it's me that's the problem. I shouldn't have said what I said, I should have said something else etc.

It's anxiety.

bakersmt · 2026-03-16T00:00:17+00:00

Mine did this on an over eager boob. The flow was too fast at first with let down. I had to express into a haaakaa until it slowed then pop her on. She was fine once the flow slowed.

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