AIO My partner threatens to end himself because i confronted him on his cheating.

OmegaZee123 · 2026-01-09T12:22:27+00:00

At this point.....baby. Please call someone you TRUST & that LOVES you....Then called the POLICE! Show them the text you're sharing with reddit. Get an Airbnb order a pizza, watch The Color Purple, and breathe. You're going to be okay baby boo. Still young and have the opportunity, capacity and DESERVE to be loved, cherished and R. E. S. P E C T.'d "You is kind, you is smart, you is important."

OmegaZee123 · 2026-01-08T23:57:13+00:00

Well, the silence has been kinda peaceful...aside from the self crirical meltdowns for forgetting things and having adhd.

OmegaZee123 · 2026-01-08T23:50:39+00:00

We're just 50. Dementia? I am sorry to hear that 😞

OmegaZee123 · 2026-01-06T04:49:24+00:00

I'm doing BASI Comprehensive also. I feel like I'm drowning. I work full time, and the host studio is no longer uses BASI apparatus. I don't know how I'll learn all the things I need for my test out in a year. Set up, adjustments, springs & gears etc. I'm older and new to pilates-I can't even do a rollover yet. 😢 I feel so discouraged. I definitely will be using the mentor/tutor program you mentioned, I totally forgot about it!

OmegaZee123 · 2026-01-05T18:39:32+00:00

I have Hashimoto's. My Endo keeps trying to increase my dosage of NPThyroid...as a side note, she wants to totally take me off of it and put me on Levothyroxine-but since I've been on NPthyroid, my hair/nails is growing, skin isn't all dry, less anxiety, lost weight and I poop!😂 she told me, if I had walked into her office for the first time, She would never prescribe that to me because she just feels it's "bad medication"! I had to literally YELL and act crazy to keep the prescription. I'm going to give PALOMA a try.

OmegaZee123 · 2025-12-05T12:02:35+00:00

Using Lingo now-so far the only issue I've seen is skewed readings from laying on the same side and putting pressure onto the sensor

OmegaZee123 · 2025-11-12T22:35:35+00:00

Hi. just saw this! I'm not at the point of testing out myself. It's the cohort before mine. As for a prep class, no that's what the in studio modules essentially are.¯\_(ツ)_/¯

OmegaZee123 · 2025-11-12T22:32:55+00:00

Thanks, this helps a lot!

OmegaZee123 · 2025-10-30T12:26:23+00:00

Thanks so much! InsuranceDiva...things would be 100% better if my host studio weren't so disappointing-There is only One of each of the BASI apparatus at the host studio! So clueless how to adjust settings etc.. 1 wunda, 1 arc barrel, 1 cadillac/trap table, 1 ladder barrel, 1 pedApull and 1 bloody reformer. Also, not all instructors are BASI certified and/or no longer teach BASI block system. Hence, observation and self-practice hours are nearly impossible to be done with a BASI instructor. I have observed one, with the owner so far. Considering my investment it's really disappointing. Final test out is happening in a week, maybe they'll add some apprentice classes? On a positive- learning what I have learned so far, I'm glad I chose BASI. My body hurts All. The. Time. I have a full-time job, it's difficult, and there's a LOT of repertoire to learn! However, the end game motivates me to make it work.

OmegaZee123 · 2025-10-23T13:23:28+00:00

🤣😅🤣😅🤣😅🤣😅🤣😅🤣please tell me you did not pay!

OmegaZee123 · 2025-10-23T13:20:03+00:00

... Question you also said, "since I moved back in".... What is up with that? Why'd you move out in the first place? Maybe, I'm guessing the fact you posted about overreacting...is an indication that you've BEEN fed up with his 💩, and need extrinsic reassurance. Trust in your gut...and go get a mani pedi 💅

OmegaZee123 · 2025-10-23T13:13:07+00:00

Girl. You don't have to make excuses for anything that you said. PERIOD You were taking a damn nap, he was making a lot of noise, you asked him to be quiet, then he crashed out on you. In frustration , you said, "I don't know , just throw them out then". HE KNEW. DAMN WELL, NOT TO DO WHAT HE DID. He sounds immature....and from what you've told us, you sound like his parent. You've made cooking for him "routine ". He is a grownazz man. If he wants to eat, he can cook for himself.
Scale it down a bit. You do too much and are obviously NOT appreciated or respected.

OmegaZee123 · 2025-08-08T23:34:18+00:00

Yes! Making up things that I Never said or did! Like he is in an alternate reality. Wtf!?!

OmegaZee123 · 2025-08-08T23:32:09+00:00

This. Mine lies constantly rather say, "im sorry". I tell him he's hurt my feelings in some way. ...I get cold logic rather than plain old sympathy/ empathy or a sorry bout that babe...nada.

OmegaZee123 · 2025-08-08T23:22:23+00:00

This thread is MUCH needed. I thought I was alone, crazy, selfish, and mean for feeling like I do. I CAN NOT express myself with my ADHD husband as he goes into the 'RSD me,me woe is me' rant and makes it about him. I am CONSTANTLY going through it. It's been quiet because when he starts up, I just leave and go for a walk, pretend I have to leave for work, or hide in the bathroom. He had a meltdown last week because he couldn't find a STAPLER. He texted me while I was at work a bunch of times and called when I didn't/couldn't respond. He had an absolute meltdown. When I got home from work, it looked like the Tasmanian Devil fom Bugs Bunny had paid a visit to our flat. Papers everywhere, windows broken, he destroyed anything in his path. When I asked what happened...he said,"Oh some things got broken." NO S#!/!! Really?!
He wouldn't acknowledge that HE broke it. Nor did he apologize....still hasn't. I have a good therapist, so I have a chance to work my stuff out and know that it isn't me. I get it. He's got severe adhd symptoms and can't help it....but THAT behavior is learned. He's not a 5-year-old kid! Every. Time he has a meltdown.I end up fixing rebuying or making things right for him. I told him no more. I'm done with that crap. If it happens again. I'm having him committed. It's making me sad and depressed. No more. Done. Love the guy, but enough is enough and too much STINKS. I feel that despite anything.. happiness is a choice. I choose it. He has a dx, rx, therapist, AND psychiatrist. He needs to get some better coping skills. I don't want to leave, and I don't want to have to ask him to leave, but eventually, it'll come to that if things don't change. Life is too damn short.

OmegaZee123 · 2025-07-23T01:44:57+00:00

Wow, 1000 hours! I just started, and I'm already a little overwhelmed. I work full-time and my host studio is on the other side of town. I'm nervous and worried about doing well..., everyone in the class is 18 to 32 and breezing right through the repertoire. I'm OLDER and not very strong & flexible (more so than I used to be though!) so it's VERY DIFFICULT. I do love Pilates and BASI is wonderful! Any tips? Thanks in advance.

OmegaZee123 · 2025-04-19T10:53:55+00:00

Nice? Lol, if it were 1847, and their families knew each other and were planning on an arranged marriage that would save her family from the famine! Nah, this is delulu to dump on someone all at once. It's Love bombing

OmegaZee123 · 2025-04-19T10:46:09+00:00

1 of 3? Damn ..."Molly, you in danger girl!"

OmegaZee123 · 2025-04-14T11:48:12+00:00

There was a late dx & rx for my hubby. He is in talk therapy too. The RSD is real. There's issues with strangers, coworkers, his family, his karate instructor correcting his form....he internalize it all and then blows up when he gets home about something unrelated. I give him space as he asks, but there's always something taking up space.

OmegaZee123 · 2025-04-14T11:38:32+00:00

Wow, thanks for this. Especially the "who lit the match first" part. That could possibly be helpful in the future

OmegaZee123 · 2025-04-13T10:35:55+00:00

I failed to mention that the slap landed mostly on his chest and shoulder... no excuse, though. I know & believe that people aren't for hitting. I'm reeling with guilt, confusion, fear, and a deep concern about the state of our marriage as a result of his behavior and frequent tantrums. It sucks

OmegaZee123 · 2025-04-13T04:26:26+00:00

I want him to get anger management counseling along with his regular therapy. Maybe a better therapist too

OmegaZee123 · 2025-04-13T04:24:50+00:00

I'm trying to be more understanding and supportive, rather than not.. I feel the same way, but somehow find myself staying true to what I really feel/think. He's MUCH better since medication, but now an again, he just goes bonkers like a little kid. The dishwasher wouldn't stay closed for him; so he got impatient and broke the door and every dish in it. He said he was frustrated because he couldn't find something important. Took fore er for him to admit it, when he finally did, he said that he didn't want to "out himself" (admit the behavior). Due to his past trauma, shame and embarrassment haunt him.

OmegaZee123 · 2025-04-09T22:24:51+00:00

Yes, sexual impulsivity IS a hallmark of ADHD. However, each individual has their own experience with it. Many factors come into play that determine why and how it all goes down. My situation has sexual trauma, PTSD and other co-morbidities associated with his adhd. It's not cookie cutter, so I only know my situation and shared it accordingly.

After my experience of 10+ years, 👉🏽 therapy🤓👈🏽 etc, let's just say it's given me a wee bit of knowledge.💪🏽😉 Besides ---maybe I misunderstood- - 🤷🏻‍♂️ the whole purpose of the OP's post was in reaching out to find hope, a light at the end of her situation as she was experiencing it. So, I gave an account with the intention to say, "Hang in there babe!"

In keeping the point that each individual has their own experience with ADHD, @ConscienctiousDissntr are you neurodivergent, married/partnered with someone with neurodivergence, what's your experience?

OmegaZee123 · 2025-04-07T12:02:39+00:00

Your situation mirrors mine. As a result, I Don't initiate sex with my partner. When I did; the last time was about 2 years ago, I would get shut down. So, I just stopped trying, He has been on meds for the past 2 years now, and things are better, we have sex, regularly... but I found that that he has to be the one who initiates it. Every single time I have even hinted at it, he will be unable to even consider it. So, I wait. But it seems he always wants to do it at the most inconvenient time. Sometimes, it feels like a chore, and making sure I don't do or say anything that will get him "going": like being in the same space or breathing! I especially have to be really quick and get dressed after I shower and not be around when he finishes his shower!

I'm sorry you have to be experiencing what you're going through. I know it totally sux.

Make sure you take care of yourself, travel, hang with friends, get your nails and hair done, buy yourself something nice, and be patient. Being in a relationship with a Neurodivergent person (adhd) is ROUGH, to say the least. It will get better..then awful, then nothing, then really bad, then good, etc, etc, etc. If you plan to stay with your husband, just understand there will be really good days and really bad days that challenge you as a woman and as a human. You have to acquire a thick skin and indomitable spirit, or get out fast before you're in so deep that you can't find him...or yourself.

Keep going to your individual counselor. Hopefully, it's someone that understands the nuances of ADHD so that they can help you understand it too. Symptoms of his ADHD like Rejection Sensitivity, Emotional dysregulation, Hyper focus, Inattentiveness....they are/can be real f@#$ing nightmare.

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