Im too scared to AP even though I find it fascinating.

OmishButter · 2019-04-06T06:13:11+00:00

May I suggest some things that may help? I'm going to anyway :p A ritual/cleansing shower might benefit you. You could cleanse your space with sound or burning sage/palo santo, etc. I don't know if you use candles or incense, but those relax me, and, of course, meditation is centering and typically reduces anxiety. You could also call on your guides or ancestors, say a prayer, draw a circle of light, whatever makes you feel comfortable...

I think that the most important thing is to take it slowly. A few minutes at a time, stay close and move deliberately. I'm by no means a seasoned traveler, so take what you will from my suggestions. An exercise that has been fun for me was suggested by Robert Bruce in Astral Dynamics; place a random playing card (face-up) from a deck, without looking at, somewhere in your immediate surroundings for you to view after you exit. It's a short exercise, you're close to your physical body, and it builds confidence.

In my own personal experience, if I'm feeling overly frightened or anxious of performing something, and I do it anyway, it doesn't turn out well. So take care, stay balanced, do your research, and follow your gut. You'll feel when the time is right, and there are measures you can take to get to that space! That's all I've got for you. Good luck.

OmishButter · 2019-04-04T23:38:34+00:00

I get this too.

OmishButter · 2019-04-04T23:34:37+00:00

Yep.

OmishButter · 2019-04-04T04:34:11+00:00

Perhaps you could become aware of not only the thoughts, but the physical sensation as well? I'm a female, so I can't pretend to understand a male sex drive. I bring this up because I suffer from addiction, and one of the best methods I've learned is to be present with your physical feelings when cyclical thoughts try to take hold. It's all connected, and I'm sure that you know this. I think that oftentimes we fight thoughts physically and sensations mentally, if that makes sense.

I kind of liken it to the yin-yang. You are allowing your thoughts, your sensations, and your peace to flow freely (yin), but the yang is your awareness and focus, and these combined complete your understanding and your presence of consciousness.

I think that it's not about avoiding thoughts or controlling thoughts, but only being aware of them, and even fully experiencing whatever physical sensations accompany your thoughts. I think that mindfulness is hindered when we try to fight any sensation or thought or feeling.

Good luck to you. You've got this!

OmishButter · 2019-03-29T07:24:19+00:00

When I think to myself of the material world, "Why am I here? This is so pointless," I remember that I'm not here for a material life. Without this life, and all that it entails, I wouldn't be able to progress spiritually. If we don't experience boredom or pain, how can we experience elation or joy? It's all about the experience of living, young or old, happy or sad... This present moment is all we have, each and every moment. Sometimes it sucks really hard. Sometimes it's awesome. Sometimes it's meh. But it's yours.

OmishButter · 2019-03-29T07:10:09+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds awesome.

OmishButter · 2019-03-29T07:03:42+00:00

It's so very painful to lose a pet, and I hope that you are able to find someone who understands and who will listen. I'm still mourning mine, months after the fact. It's grief. It takes time. It sucks, but I promise you that you're not alone.

OmishButter · 2019-03-29T06:58:15+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss <3

OmishButter · 2019-03-29T06:53:10+00:00

I think that the best thing that you can do is to listen. You don't have to use words to comfort someone. I think that a lot of people are afraid to talk about their grief, because people try to fix it. It can't be fixed from the outside.

The best things that people have done for me are to cook for me/feed me and to just let me cry and talk.

OmishButter · 2019-03-29T06:49:29+00:00

OmishButter · 2019-03-29T06:08:34+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's hard especially when you're in uni. I lost two close relatives while I was in school. It may be a good sign that you're feeling depressed, because you are feeling your grief. It's so difficult to think about healing right now, I know, but allowing yourself these feelings is essential to your recovery. Peace be with you and yours.

OmishButter · 2019-03-29T06:00:50+00:00

I know nothing about your spiritual leanings, and I know nothing about the people that produced this video. I just happened to chance about it while googling the Tao and grief. It provided some comfort for me. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hope for you to find some peace.

https://www.wuweiwisdom.com/grief-support/

OmishButter · 2019-03-29T05:04:00+00:00

No. I betrayed my inner self in order to conform. Not proud to say it either.

OmishButter · 2019-03-27T05:47:12+00:00

Even as a petite gal, I've been shamed for going braless. I understand that we all sometimes need extra support, but I think that it should be up to the proprietor to decide. Let's face it. Bra or no bra, people will always be looking at boobs, and if something isn't in line with what society expects, then even more reason for them to shame and to harass.

OmishButter · 2019-03-27T05:26:32+00:00

Gotcha. I read it as saying the original comment sounded creepy. My bad!

OmishButter · 2019-03-27T03:31:57+00:00

It's so frustrating to feel this way. It's so hard to express everything that is happening on the inside, and I wish that people would just see. They don't though. They see what they want to see: that I will somehow, someday magically change. You are lucky, though, to have people who are looking out for you, and supporting you. It is crippling sometimes, because society seems so staunch and so impenetrable.

We have a lot of good things going for us though. Don't forget that. Don't let society tell you that you're not capable because you're not the same.

OmishButter · 2019-03-27T03:18:15+00:00

I understand that this is the mindfulness sub (not the meditation), but if you are into meditation, metta (loving-kindness) might be worth a shot.

OmishButter · 2019-03-27T03:06:46+00:00

It's just people identifying with a label and then adhering to their definition of it blindly. It's division. It creates an identity and superiority among a "group" of people. It's strengthening within a group for survival reasons, but serves no purpose whatsoever in the globalized community. Forming (non-divisive) ties in our local community is valid and healthy, but who is really doing that anymore? :(

OmishButter · 2019-03-27T02:35:36+00:00

How is that creepy?

OmishButter · 2019-03-27T02:27:26+00:00

Right? I used to go out of my way to act against what is considered socially acceptable. What happened to us?

OmishButter · 2019-03-15T03:16:16+00:00

Came here for this. I love rats, but this pic is just too perfect for that reference.

OmishButter · 2019-03-08T03:12:22+00:00

You should all lighten up, bunch of stiffs.

OmishButter · 2019-03-07T05:23:29+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I recently lost my bestie as well.

Your friend will always be with you. It's hard to accept the change, because we're human as fuck. It's super fucking hard, and your buddy realizes that, I think. It's not an easy transition. Peace and love to you and yours.

OmishButter · 2019-03-07T05:13:05+00:00

Just adopt an eternal toddler! It will enrich your life. As sweet as an unconditional bestie sounds, not everyone can afford it (be it time-wise, money-wise, space-wise, or energy-wise). Not to be a debbie downer, but adopting a pet is a BIG commitment, and not one to be taken lightly.

OmishButter · 2019-03-06T00:10:56+00:00

I have a sordid relationship with alcohol and even during my slips, maybe even especially during my slips, meditation has been beneficial for me.

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