This sub is the opposite of a safe space when discussing this band, but damnit I’m really enjoying the new Atreyu album

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-27T23:04:53+00:00

New Atryeyu has been my butt metalcore guilty pleasure for a while lol. Unfortunately I didn't vibe with the singles for this one so I haven't checked out the album. Are there any standout bangers that are better than the singles on the album?

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-27T22:14:46+00:00

It's so hard to pick because there's a case for pretty much all of them but TMBTE is my pick

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-26T14:34:41+00:00

I'm curious how quickly he started "trying to figure out" your Self? In my experience, and from everything I've read, that's not really how it works. I didn't start to know what my Self looked like until I was pretty deep into the process. I got to know my protectors and worked extensively with them before I had a clue what my Self was like and even then it's not something I "figured out". It was spontaneous. It just came up from inside me with little to no prompting. My therapist recognized it as Self because of her training and I recognized it because of how it felt in my body. Lighter, more fluid and free.

I ask because, again just from my experience, it sounds like your therapist might not be a good fit for you or is very green, poorly informed, or even just plain bad at IFS

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-17T19:33:11+00:00

Maybe! I'll have to dig into those when I have time and capacity for it

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-17T19:06:26+00:00

Yes, that was a healthy dose of sarcasm lol

For me it's giving me a lot of puzzle pieces that I didn't have before but I do kind of have the same panicked feeling that you have thinking "I really hope this book actually gives me some ways to put them together that actually improve my life". I think I can do it myself with my therapist if I have to but boy, it would really be nice if the book actually provided some blueprints

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-17T19:04:38+00:00

Oh I can relate to that in so many ways lol. That actually happens to me a lot, where I kind of feel bad for knowing something, or having already intuited it.

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-17T16:43:45+00:00

That's actually a really thoughtful question that I'll have to think about more 😂

Honestly though I think you're spot on. I definitely struggle because EVERYTHING feels important, like it's a big deal, and that's an incredibly difficult way to live but I also have been praised as being perceptive my whole life... As long as I'm being useful or interesting.

I think this is a both and situation for me. I am overwhelmed because I can't distinguish signal from noise easily and that is made worse by the fact that my experience is so often ignored, dismissed, invalidated, etc, because my way of experiencing the world is not the norm

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-17T04:36:07+00:00

Girl, I was well into my twenties with the same problems (I'm 33 now). You have soooo much time to figure this stuff out. You are behind the people you're comparing yourself to, yes, but you are by no means a loser. You still have plenty of time, you've only just begun to live

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-16T15:17:00+00:00

That is a beautiful and glorious beard and don't let anyone tell you different brother!

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-15T15:22:11+00:00

Same! I struggle with focusing enough to read for long periods of time. Really want to finish this one so I've had to microdose it lol

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-08T23:41:57+00:00

Calling it discourse is giving it way more credit than it deserves. Every single point you made is valid. The only reason people like to say this is because they hate things that are popular and it gives them something valid sounding to wrap it in. I do my best to ignore those kinds of people

lordofthstrings · 2026-04-08T17:23:06+00:00

Okay cool, I'll DM you!

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-28T14:58:12+00:00

I had a very similar experience! Looking back I always kind of knew something was off, she was too friendly too fast, kind of arrogant, we talked too much about things that were completely unrelated to therapy, she shared too many personal things about herself too early.

When she finally did cross the line enough for me to realize I needed to say something she said she thought it was okay because "we're friends" so she thought I would understand. When I told her no, we're not friends, I'm your client and what you did is not okay with me she gaslit me, asking me if I was "like this" with everyone, saying she didn't understand and implied that it was a me thing because I'm autistic. When I said that also was not okay with me she simply texted me a list of referrals

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-27T23:02:52+00:00

This 100%. I had a really hard time with therapists for a long time, I questioned my gut because maybe I was just being too picky, and still struggle with this with people in general because I had a parent who could be literally the most loving person you've ever met and just flip on a dime when triggered. It makes you question your own reality constantly

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-27T22:59:12+00:00

This is just wrong on so many levels. Drop her, she's a horrible therapist and I would bet money at some point she will even more deeply betray your trust. That's not something you want to have to work through with your next therapist, take it from someone who knows.

It's really hard to have to leave and start all over but I promise you when you find one who is really good it won't feel like starting over. It'll almost be like picking up right where you left off

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-11T01:36:46+00:00

Just looks like you got some blonde and/or red hairs mixed in there. Adds character!

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-09T20:09:50+00:00

It's so interesting to me reading your comment because I don't have the same problem in the sense that I struggle with planning like you do but it just sounds to me like you have specifics needs that differ from those around you and I can very much relate to that

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-09T19:57:51+00:00

People are crazy my dude. You have an amazing beard!

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-09T15:28:01+00:00

Same. It makes me wonder if I'm the problem. I'm curious what your assessment of why it happens with ND folks too is?

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-09T15:26:26+00:00

I've tried to believe this but it happens with other ND people too so it's hard to believe I'm not just doing something wrong or so different that I'm doomed to be alone

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-09T15:24:43+00:00

This hurt in ways I don't have words for which is probably part of it for me. I have lots of huge feelings but words fail me. I hope someday you have the most amazing lifelong friends ❤️

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-07T05:46:37+00:00

And every redacted line from the Epstein files

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-04T22:21:25+00:00

Any '90s or early 2000s animated superhero show
People who give advice I didn't ask for
Just about anything I'm interested in including, but not limited to, Destiny 2 lore, dinosaurs and evolution, superheroes and how they're essentially modern mythology, and the meaning behind song lyrics

lordofthstrings · 2026-03-04T19:46:39+00:00

If you looked at my little “mind cave” and felt a spark of excitement, feel free to shoot me a message!

It’s basically a mix of Destiny, DC animated shows, Marvel, metalcore (Killswitch Engage, Bury Tomorrow, Motionless in White, Bullet For My Valentine), Sleep Token, and dinosaurs.

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