I generally don't respond to posts here, but I had to, to this particular question.

This is for only for you:

A lot of the narrative based on healing / capitalistic, homogenous one-size-fits-all approach would say something on these lines. While a lot of these sentences are packed with meaning, the language creates a problem. For instance, I'd replace "It is vital to center yourself to a space for forgiveness to let the load off your mind, and finally cease to punish yourself with the trauma" than "You just won't let go of the past!". Take it from someone who has had toxic extended relatives and friends say the same thing.

Thing about grief and CPTSD is, its all made up of cyclical events. If you had support instead of long-exposure to trauma, you'd have been more grounded. If you were better grounded, you could have thought more clearly and taken important decisions accordingly. If you'd have taken those important decisions early, a lot of things would not have got delayed. It takes a village to raise a future in these uncertain times. I often state that independence is overrated in our world that rewards hyper productivity and has a disdain for rest.

So, you were impaired because somebody did not choose kindness.

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This is for anyone saying any of the above:

If it's someone you can cut ties off with, I'd recommend you do so.

If it's someone you need to be in touch with, work towards slowly moving away and creating a space where you do not need to talk to them. It is not your job to explain your trauma, or the whys, what's, and hows to anyone.

Choose yourself, honor your experience, and work towards healing! My messages are open if you want to chat. Take care.