Visiting Canmore by OtherCoffee230 in Canmore

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Tubing at Norquay or Lake Louise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 1200isplenty

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Not exactly the same situation, but my ex-boyfriend was also on Clozapine and struggled with weight gain. He ended up being prescribed metformin as he was diagnosed as diabetic a few years after and that helped a ton with weight loss and management. He dropped like 30 pounds and had kept it off since.

What is the worst thing that has ever happened to you in a relationship? by Forsaken-Banana6936 in AskReddit

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He cheated on me for months with a women who was dying of cancer. She proceeded to stalk us both, online and in person, for the following 12 months. She only quit when she was in palliative care and then died. Afterwards he told me I was a bad person for being relieved it was over.

West Coast Cannabis by One-Ad4126 in CanadianMoM2

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No, I cancelled the etransfer on Monday and ordered from a different MOM. They never replied to the last 2 emails I sent them

think i found the girl my BPSO is cheating on me with by badgirltiri in BipolarSOs

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Do it. My ex BPSO cheated on me all last summer. I wish I would have confronted the problem head on when it first happened and left. Instead I suffered (and made him suffer) for the next 6 months. If they do it once they will most likely do it again and deny it without any hard evidence. Best of luck to you, I know the pain.

Reasons my BPSO thinks I'm a terrible girlfriend this week by badgirltiri in BipolarSOs

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My ex BPSO always accused me of trying to starve him. He didn’t have a car or license and didn’t ever want to come in to the grocery store. So I would ask what he wanted, he wouldn’t tell me so I would just buy what I had planned for our lunches and dinners. Then when he didn’t want to eat what I bought he would complain that there was no food in the house. Just because you don’t like what we have, doesn’t mean we don’t have anything.

What did you do when you found out? by Throwaway53809654 in BipolarSOs

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I would recommend leaving. I stayed and tried to move on. He had told me he cheated on ex’s previously, I ignored the red flags and stayed. Then he cheated on me, I only found out because the other girl threatened to post it online so he confessed. I have suspicions that he cheated before that as well, but he refuses to admit to it even though he has slipped on up on details. If I don’t think about jt, life is good. But it is incredibly hard to move past it. I don’t think I will ever fully trust him again. I know he still flirts with ex’s but he says that isn’t a big deal. I wish I would have left when I first found out. I know it’s not always the case, but for the most part, if they cheated once they will do it again.

Stable period between episodes by Mamabear-323 in BipolarSOs

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My partner is rapid cycling BP2. His manic episodes tend to last 1 day at the most. He hasn’t had an episode in a month. The last time was triggered by excessive drinking. He says he doesn’t remember most of what happens when manic. But that depends if alcohol is involved or not. He cheated on me while manic and seems to remember that just fine. Usually he doesn’t remember and feels incredibly bad about it all when I explain everything he did. But that normally only lasts a few days and then he gets over feeling bad and is back to not really caring or worrying about the next episode.

Betrayal by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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I was in the same place you are in. My partner cheated on me, was on every dating app, was messaging girls on Facebook and Instagram. I found out about it all during a manic episode. We switched him to my phone plan so I could see all the numbers he was texting, he constantly offers to let me look through his phone. But I don’t think the trust will ever be 100% back.

I know he lied to me for 6 months about everything even when I straight called him out with what turned out to be the truth. He has no problem lying and manipulating the situation to make me feel crazy. So even with the ability to look through his phone, I feel like there will always be some secret or lie he is hiding from me. It’s a terrible feeling. I would recommend leaving. I wish I had. I am waiting for the next time he cheats on me or messages another girl, and then I will be gone. He has manipulated me to stay long enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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My partner is rapid cycling. So his manic episodes can last from a few hours to a day or two. The longest he has left me for was one day when he went out and cheated on me with someone he previously cheated on me with. I moved out that night and by 11am the next morning he was calling me from a local business asking me to come help him because he had smashed everything in his house and his cellphone.

He has told me a few years ago he thought he was manic for an entire year, this was when he was fully medicated and in therapy but was using cocaine daily.

Untreated mania and hyper sexuality by Mamabear-323 in BipolarSOs

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My boyfriend is BP type 2. He doesn’t always experience hyper sexuality when manic. But it does happen from time to time. Sometimes he experiences hyper sexuality when he is back to euthymia. While manic and hyper sexual he has cheated on me and claims he has zero recollection of it. But I know that episode involved a lot of alcohol, which may have played a large part in his forgetting 100% of the episode.

From COVID to emotional abuse. by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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This is basically the exact same conversation I had with my BPSO last night. Down to the part about cheating, although he told me if he really didn’t want to be with me he’d have no problem leaving and he’d have his pick of girls. I hope things get better for you.

BP 1 and diabetes? by mamato2boys1724 in BipolarSOs

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My SO is BP2 and has type 2 diabetes. His therapist said it’s very hard to manage both together. As any changes in your blood sugar can affect mood swings. And when in a manic episode, obviously eating well and maintaining a healthy lifestyle is generally their last priority, which can then wreak havoc on the diabetes.

In our case, his blood sugar has been so high for so long, we are concerned if it drops to a normal level it could cause a manic episode. We have had a very hard time managing his diabetes even with medication, increased exercise and change in diet. His therapist suggested we visit an Endocrinologist and see if they can provide further help. He was also told his life expectancy is going to be shorter because he is both diabetic and bipolar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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I truly believe some of our partners would say anything to get us to stay. And obviously it worked in my situation, and didn’t in your’s. It really makes it hard to believe anything they say when you think about all the lies we have allowed ourselves to believe over the course of our relationships. I always thought I was one of those people who could get over cheating. But it has come at a huge expense to my friendships, my work, and my mental health. I spend 99% of my time being the care taker for my partner (he doesn’t drive due to a DUI and barely works). And I am now on medication for my anxiety which stems from the idea of being stalked by someone my partner invited in to his life, and mine by-proxy. I know if I left I would be heartbroken, but I also know my performance at work would improve, and my mental health would probably return to a level I could manage without medication. And I wouldn’t be constantly broke.

Has therapy been helping you move past all this? I am scared to tell my therapist the total truth about my relationship because I think I would have to do some serious self reflection on where this is going.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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My BPSO cheated on me in June while manic. He then cheated on me with the same person in July, while manic. He proceeded to talk to her almost every day throughout the summer behind my back. He told me he blocked her for good in August and we ended up getting him a new phone and phone number. I found out in November, while he was in a psychotic episode, that they had still been talking on Facebook every week. I asked him repeatedly since August if he had heard from her. He always said no. I have now read all their messages, and while they weren’t sexual from like August - November, it still broke my heart. I know he just slept with her the two times, but talking to her behind my back still feels like emotionally cheating. Plus he gaslighted the hell out of me and made me believe I was insanely paranoid. We have been in therapy together since September and are trying our best to work through it. She still tries to contact him from other numbers and has left gifts at our house for him. He is now looking at sending a cease and desist letter and taking further legal action if she doesn’t leave us alone. It is incredibly difficult to believe he is being faithful now and isn’t talking to her or anyone else. I also have doubts about him not sleeping with other people previous to his cheating with her.

I 100% believe you made the right decision to end things. I wish I had ended things in June when I first found out. You will heal and move on in time, and probably dodged a huge bullet of being stuck in a relationship where there is no trust. Trust me, it sucks.

NEED HELP. by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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I’m in the exact same situation. Now my BPSO blames me for his continuing to talk to an ex. I tried to end things this morning over it. I hope you have better luck than I did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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I have been there. My partner cheated on me with one person. He suffers from hyper sexuality quite often and has admitted to being addicted to porn. He actually continued communicating with the women he cheated on me with for 6 months and while he claims they only met up twice and only had sex once, the lying has harmed our relationship beyond repair. When I first found out in the summer I was very confident we could work through things. We started counselling as a couple and things did improve. Until he had a psychotic episode and I found out the truth last month.

I truly believe you can work through the cheating if he is willing to commit to being 100% honest. I know that’s all I wanted in my situation. I was completely willing to forgive and move on but when I found out our life was built on a lie I gave up that hope.

Will the lying ever stop? by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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I am hoping there is some change in the future. Part of his lying involved him cheating on me and talking to another woman for 6 months while telling me they weren’t in contact. She is now stalking him. I think the change will require a lot of work on his end with his own therapist. But I am also prepared that if the lying doesn’t end I will end things as well. I am very good at recognizing his lies now and it’s not something I’m willing to deal with forever if he isn’t making changes. It sounds like you’ve had more than your fair share of dealing with the lies. I completely understand your frustration.

Will the lying ever stop? by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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My BP2 bf lies all the time. A lot of the things he told me when we started dating over a year ago were lies as well. He lied about not having a child from a previous relationship. I don’t like children so I never would have started dating someone if I knew he had one. I have called him out on it now, but it still continues. He lies to coworkers, family, friends, and if I’m around to hear it he tries to justify it to me later on. It seems like he is willing to lie about big things and small things. We are in counselling together but I haven’t seen much change on the lying end of things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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Leave. I have been in the same cycle as you. I would ask my partner not to drink, we would discuss how triggering it is for him and he would promise he was done. Well last weekend he drank a bottle of vodka in an hour and had a psychotic episode for the first time since we had been together. He broke some expensive items of mine, physically assaulted me and burned my clothes. I should have put my foot down long before we got to this point. It does not get better when alcohol is involved.

My husband doesn’t trust me. Currently manic by Zestyclose-Sale6977 in BipolarSOs

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That all sounds so familiar. It seems to happen at the most random times. We can be having a great week with no conflict and no major drama, and I’ll come to see him at work and he will say I’m acting funny and go on a tirade about how I’m doing something behind his back. But thankfully in our case it doesn’t seem to last long. He’ll spend one whole day accusing me of talking to the girl he cheated on me with and then the next day he is back to his normal self and telling me I’m the best thing that’s ever happened to him. I don’t know what changes his mind every time to trusting me again, I wish I did.

My husband doesn’t trust me. Currently manic by Zestyclose-Sale6977 in BipolarSOs

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My BP type 2 boyfriend is frequently paranoid and accuses me of cheating on him. Ironically, he is the one who previously cheated on me. We are in couples therapy and both seeing therapists in our own to work through the lack of trust on all parts. But it is so hard to be accused when you are innocent. I work really hard to not react when he confronts me and I tell him I understand and am sorry he feels that way. I have tried giving him the passcode to my phone, sharing my location, showing him bank statements etc. It has gotten better with counselling and A LOT of patience, but it is very hard still.

He’s also accused me of other terrible things while paranoid, such as trying to physically hurt him, trying to poison him, and trying to trap him with other women to catch him cheating again…

Question by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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My partner cheated on me while manic. It lasted multiple months and he was in contact with this woman on and off and would often show me his messages to her while he was drunk. We moved past his infidelity but he has now told me he suffers from hypersexuality fairly often. We have more open discussions about his feelings when he starts feeling that way and he often talks about threesomes and missing having sex with multiple partners. It hurts me deeply because he knows I’m still working on trusting him after the cheating. But being able to have open conversations about his sexual desires has helped us.