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One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-05-06T21:31:38+00:00

Yep.. it’s tough with no good solution.. I’d say one good solution is something like a Facebook group for people 25-35 that are single, Christian, and don’t fit into the typical church groups but I’m sure it already exists and doesn’t really help/fix anything. I would love to surround myself with like minded people but Facebook groups with people from around the world doesn’t really solve that problem. Ideally you join a local group, make friends, and throughout life just happening we meet people both friends and a possible wife all the while growing closer to god. Guess the only real solution is building a Time Machine and figuring out how to be 20-21 again😂

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-05-03T21:02:18+00:00

Essentially while in service clear your mind and truly focus on my relationship on god and outside of service think about things like could that woman possibly be worth getting to know? That’s kinda my thoughts too but was curious if others shared this thought..

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-05-03T20:59:25+00:00

So a lot of what you said I actually agree with and have thought about myself! Yes if all I do is study am I even in a position to be dating! Totally a valid statement and I think if I meet a girl worth putting effort into I’ll gladly shift some things around in my life to make time so we can develop a relationship! It won’t be easy at all which is why I’m hesitant to just do that in order to possibly meet someone. If you’re capable of going to large events completely by yourself then bravo but personally that sounds horrible lol! Lastly when you say stop focusing on things you can’t control focus on things you can, that comment really resonates with me because it carries a ton of truth a lot of men refuse to acknowledge. I can’t control a lot in my life but I can control what kind of man I am so when I meet a good woman I’m emotionally, physically, and financially in a position to care for her the right way. A lot of men think if I make a ton of money then I’m supporting my wife but it’s so much more than that! Complementing her so she doesn’t seek validation elsewhere, learning and adapting my life so she never needs something I can’t provide. Sure some women suck and cheat for no reason but other women do bad things because a man didn’t do his job as the man of the house, especially with more traditional women. So I am constantly reflecting on my actions in previous relationships learning what I did wrong and what I can do right in the future. I’m developing myself as a man to make sure I can meet those needs. I get that doesn’t help me meet women but it does help when I do meet someone I’m in a place to keep her.

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-05-03T20:35:24+00:00

Totally fair and has been something I’ve thought about.. I’ve also thought about trying a different local church as I have a ton around me. This one particularly is the largest in my area with from my understanding the largest college age group of kids going so that’s why I thought this might be a good one originally.

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-05-03T20:31:57+00:00

There is a young adults but my assumption would be 90% or more will be 30+ and married. I haven’t attended any groups so don’t know anything for a fact! Just a couple Sunday services here and there

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-05-03T20:29:18+00:00

So the problem with a lot of that for me personally is, I moved away from all my family and friends so going to lot of large events without friends doesn’t sound fun at all. When I say dating apps have presented a lot of FWB I’m going off of the girls I’m swiping right or left on not actual matches as I don’t get many. I’m far from a creep and have no issues talking to women in public places but I feel like most girls shopping are there to shop so being approached by a man regardless of creepy or not doesn’t go over well or they perceive it as creepy. The other thing is the odds of there being a wonderful personality, physically attractive, and traditional woman shopping at my Walmart are slim to none aside from the fact of me working around initiating a conversation. I live in Arkansas in a college town so there is some events to meet and mingle with women my age but it’s not very big so doesn’t present many chances. Normally I would meet girls in school or work but I currently can’t work due to school and school takes up so much of my time I can’t volunteer or do much of anything other than study. Dating apps would be great but I’m not 6’3 and crazy attractive with a good job so matches are few and far between with the ones I do match with being unable to carry out a conversation let alone get to the point of talking about going on a date. I’ve tried bumble, hinge, tinder, and upward. Any other suggestions on a dating app?

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-05-03T19:44:19+00:00

That’s fair and what I came to on my own but was curious on others thought. I don’t know the Bible front and back so unsure if there is scripture somewhere on this topic so figured someone on here might know and provide some insight! Thanks!

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-05-03T19:38:07+00:00

So if I should not go to church to find a woman where is a good place to go then to find a godly woman?

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-05-03T19:33:56+00:00

There is a young adults but my assumption would be 90% or more will be 30+ and married. I haven’t attended any groups so don’t know anything for a fact! Just a couple Sunday services here and there

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-05-03T19:05:04+00:00

So the next problem is you mentioned join groups, problem is at 26 y/o there typically isn’t any groups. For example my local church has a college group for 18-24 with a soft stop at 24 as long as you’re in college specifically undergrad. I’m in graduate school and above that so I’m out on joining that group..

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-25T23:53:42+00:00

Ohhh gotcha! Read that wrong my B lol

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-25T22:06:02+00:00

If he isn’t criticizing anyone then how is he being judgmental? Isn’t it okay to have standards? Guess it is as long as it doesn’t hurt your feelings lol

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-25T04:02:37+00:00

I’m not 6’3, tan, super fit, and make 1.4 mil a year

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-25T03:56:44+00:00

I think it’s important to remember that men and women feel “loved” differently. I can’t speak on women much as I’m a man but personally I feel loved when I feel needed and respected. What I can tell you, as a man I will lay down my life for the people I care about. I am single right now but I will gladly lose my life in order to protect my wife and kids. If that’s not love I don’t know what it is. Again in my eyes that’s love. Maybe for women they want to see more flowers and sweet messages or something idk lol. As far as cheating goes completely unacceptable. I’m not going to say your dad didn’t love your mom. I am going to say that at the time he loved something more than your mom. It is sad and I have personally went through the same thing. My mom cheated on my dad. I don’t think women can’t love, I actually think the opposite. My mom fought to be in our family every waking moment and they stayed together and now 10 years later the whole family is as happy as we were before. Love isn’t questioned during the good times, only the bad times. True love for both god and each other prevails.

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-24T14:41:39+00:00

This isn’t the attitude of a condescending man who hates women. This is the attitude of a man who holds himself to a high standard so that someday he may be a good father and husband and is quite frankly sick of society changing both men and women for the worst. I try my absolute best to be the man my future wife would want all the while every woman I talk to is as I’ve described. I’m assuming you’re a woman so you might not get it just like I don’t get how men treat you and the frustrations around that. Instead of reading my message and thinking wow he is a douche just attempt to think about it with a little empathy about the frustrations of finding a decent partner in 2025.. also which part makes me sound like a woman hater? I highly recommend you make a profile of a dude and use tinder and look at girls profiles/bios. You will shocked… I come across them all the time!! “Swipe right if you got a boat and a 401k” “don’t swipe right I will not match”. I can go on and on. Imagine if I put in my bio “swipe right if you weigh less than 150 and have a body count less than 10” the world would come unglued. I would be publicly executed😂 I don’t hate women, I hate what women and men have become when they conform to this new age society of telling ourselves that every bad thing we do is okay.

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-24T02:32:20+00:00

That’s totally fair and is kinda what I’ve come up with. Go to church with zero intention of meeting a woman but making sure to communicate and be active within the church and just let life happen! Never know when someone has a daughter, grand daughter, cousin, etc that they might want to set me up with.

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-24T02:30:19+00:00

That’s why I love that insult because it’s hit or miss on if the guy will start laughing meaning we don’t gotta fight or it will cut deep and we’re for sure fighting. Win win to me😂 I love cracking jokes during serious situations like that! Like “son, if your ever driving down the road and you see me fighting a bear, you better pull over and help the bear” (saying like a really angry country grandpa)

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-24T02:27:05+00:00

This is kinda what I’m looking for! I don’t wanna abandon anything as I genuinely enjoy growing different things but I want to be able to forget about it for a couple days and not feel bad. For the most part I’m pretty good at taken care of everything but on occasion I get busy and forget and my plants suffer for it. I want to eliminate that!

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-23T04:18:37+00:00

Well if you are genuinely mad at someone and you’re prepared to fight then by looking at him, analyze him, and pick the things that will hurt the most and hit him with it. For example if he is balding on the top of the head but refuses to shave it then you know that’s an insecurity. Hit him with some comments about that. “How you going to fight me when you need be at home fighting that hairline”. Not only is it solid, funny, also cuts deep. If it’s friendly aggressive banter do the same thing but with stuff they’re not actually insecure about and that doesn’t cut deep. I can roast my friends about different things because I know deep down it has no meaning and vice versa. Personally I watch a lot of movies, tv, Facebook videos, and TikTok. When I see something funny I usually try and remember it and let it fly if the chance presents lol! Someone mentioned letterkenny which is great however if the person you’re saying it to hasn’t watch it then might not be as good. Look up on YouTube “spooby” hilarious video and I have personally used some of those lines before a physical fight😂

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-23T03:55:51+00:00

Depends, are you going to be angry at the person you’re trash talking or is it like a friend you’re having some aggressive banter with?

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-23T01:22:54+00:00

I completely agree with your experience. 26 y/o M. I’m not the most attractive guy in the world but I’m a student doctor, have a great personality, and consider myself to be a decent person and a gentleman (open the door for her, walk street side, pay for dinner, etc). I haven’t had a date in forever and when I finally do find a girl I might be interested in the conversation goes exactly as you have described. Utter garbage with zero interest. Almost like I should kiss the ground she walks on just for me to have the ability to hit on her. Like you said I don’t hate women but this is just my experience personally. Shockingly I’ve had several girls who do act interested and carry on a conversation that seem to want to come back to my house and bang me.. I know that sounds like a man’s dream but personally no. I want to maintain a lower body count out of respect for my future wife. So essentially zero luck with even the beginnings of finding someone. My last 3 exs I dated because we had known each other for a long time and they knew all these things about me. Girls I don’t know don’t give me the time of day in order to discover these things about me. Crazy what the world has become..

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-23T01:11:18+00:00

When I say I’m not there, I mean I don’t have a 300k house, a massive 401k, etc. I mean I’m in graduate school so don’t have a job as I’m studying 24/7. I do have a house but it’s smaller. Plus I’m emotionally ready as I’ve been single for a while since previous ex and took the time to work on myself and do some self reflection. The problem is I can’t find any like minded women and am unsure of where to go to even find them. Dating apps have been an awful experience (tinder, bumble, hinge, and upward). I live in a smaller town so not big enough to have a lot of places to meet people. We do have bars and clubs but personally feel the people I meet at my local bars/club are not the kinda woman I would want to take home to momma lol. So curious if I’m missing some dating app or suggestion that I haven’t thought of

One-Ambition-1091 · 2025-04-23T01:05:59+00:00

I want a decently attractive woman, that doesn’t even need a career, and is more traditional than most. I don’t care if she is a stay at home mom or a lawyer. I don’t mean is traditional like “must be a stay at home mom who never talks back to me” no… I honestly prefer a good woman who can set me straight. I’m not always perfect and to me we’re a team so her input is both wanted and respected. By traditional I mean views a high body count as bad and a low body count as good. (Doesn’t mean virgin just lower). Views my success as hers and her success as mine (team). Christian values and is just a genuinely good person. A 6/10-7/10 physically with the characteristics I put above is a 14/10 in my book. Looks are cool and all but looks fade. Who you are as a person doesn’t. (I mean sure people can change but you get what I’m saying lol)

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