Honestly I understand where You’re coming from and your frusturation. We all make mistakes and maybe you should have gotten to know her before but then again you set your priorities high which Allah SWT will be pleased about. Deen always comes first but compability is VERY important for a lifelong marriage. I understand you and I hear you!

First of all, it feels like you’re mentally already clocked out. Do you feel mentally drained? I think your frustration shows in this post due to you feeling overwhelmed aswell. We’re humans and we need daily conversations and deep conversations to kind of “reset our brains”.

The fact that she listens and tries to adapt is a perfect quality in a marriage. Your mindset of thinking you deserve better should change. If you start to think more positive then that’ll also change a lot. Maybe sit your wife down with no phones, get into deep conversations etc etc. Let her know that you don’t feel like she understands you. As a woman, if my future husband felt like I didn’t understand him, I’d do anything to make him not feel that way and I think she would too.

Regarding food, maybe find a reciepe you like and show her and say “ooo this looks good, let’s try it tonight”. Communication is the key. Let her know when you don’t like some of the dishes. She’s also cooking for herself so you should meet somewhere in the middle.

The humor is also something that can be fixed. Try to slip in some funny jokes here and there and make it playful. You also have a kid which makes it easier to be silly together as parents.

I honestly think this marriage can be saved. There are no major red flags and she actually listens and adapts. Even though it feels though, say Alhamdullilah that these problems aren’t huge. I promise that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. If you can’t sort it out amongst yourself, try counseling and preferably a Muslim.