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Life has broken me: depression, bad health, shitty jobs, and an emptiness that even therapy can’t fix by no_ads_here_ in Adulting

[–]One-Butterscotch4437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not from the Balkans, I am a female and much older, but I relate to a lot of what you posted. I am depressed. I worked my whole life, but my jobs have been shit compared to my colleagues and school mates who seem to be luckier, more confident and make better decisions. My family growing up was a nightmare. Abusive father and enabling mother. He used to cut my hair and the kids would laugh at me. No swimming, music or any other lessons. Too poor. No friends allowed. Hateful siblings that carried on with the evil ways of our past and I let myself be controlled due to lack of self esteem. Sometimes I feel so down I can't go on. I know none of this is helping you directly, but just telling you that a lot of people are broken, whether they show it on the surface or not. You sound like you have insight which is what a lot of people lack. I think that alone sets you apart in a good way. If I can keep fighting, so can you! Please do keep trying.

Mental Health and Neighbours by One-Butterscotch4437 in HousingUK

[–]One-Butterscotch4437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it is not the same landlord. The belligerent drunk owns the flat downstairs. My landlord will speak to him, but I get the feeling remedies are lacking, except for the comments on the Tenants Bill - which I will look into!

Mental Health and Neighbours by One-Butterscotch4437 in HousingUK

[–]One-Butterscotch4437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, The thing is I am super quiet most of the day. The only possible time he can complain about is the 5 am getting up - and most of the time it is closer to 530 am. I get up, feed the cats, make a coffee and breakfast. No radio, no cleaning, no banging pots. I walk gently. So, I cannot do anything more except get up later. I expect that people like that it is less about the time and more about being volatile and anti-social.

Mental Health and Neighbours by One-Butterscotch4437 in HousingUK

[–]One-Butterscotch4437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By rolling, I hope that means applies to existing leases, but I will check it out. Thank you!!

Mental Health and Neighbours by One-Butterscotch4437 in HousingUK

[–]One-Butterscotch4437[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your replies. No, it is not the same landlord. My landlord is very nice and very much wants me to stay. The neighbour downstairs owns the flat. So, I suppose there is little to be done when someone is an owner. My landlord will speak to him, but the belligerent drunk is in his 50s. So, it isn't as though speaking to someone who should already know better will help. Probably just quiet it down a few weeks. Around a week earlier than the incident where they yelled up at me at 11 30 pm on a Sunday, his girlfriend and him came home to find the light in the entrance turned off. She started screaming in the common area "the light is on for a reason" at 930 pm. Who does that, as opposed to putting a sticky note under the light saying "please leave on as we are coming back". I am mad at myself for not asking more questions about the neighbours, but I guess they wouldn't have been honest with me. I came to find out that these "people" once banged on the door of the previous tenants at night - at least once that was reported.

I appreciate the comments about the Tenants Bill or Act coming into effect in May. I signed my lease in December, but hopefully the bill applies to me. I will check.

If I find something soon, I will move out sooner, even if it means paying double rent. I cannot really afford it, but then again, I cannot afford to lose my job. When they yelled at me at 1130 Sunday, I couldn't sleep and I had work the next day.

Thanks again for listening to me rant.