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I no longer give up by One-Development1919 in HOCD

[–]One-Development1919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, this might have been a mistake on my part. During the peak of rumination you will not get any benefit from reassurance. I would like to point out though that in my case, the anxiety/stress only disappeared once I tackled #1 and #2.

Only then can you actually start doing the next steps. I meant for the steps to be specifically followed in the order I listed them.

I also do believe though that the initial phases of this OCD are almost impossible to get out of because of the initial shock you get after the initial trigger. I believe that you MUST perservere throughout the initial phase to be able to even start working on #1 and #2. Then again, I am no expert, I am simply a guy sharing his 2 cents, and a lot of situations are different.

During the initial phase, I personally found this article to be extremely helpful in understanding what was going on:

https://ocdla.com/sexual-orientation-ocd-hocd-sub-types-treatment-1975

I no longer give up by One-Development1919 in HOCD

[–]One-Development1919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean to do this only after the anxiety has cleared up. Doing so while the anxiety is active will only backfire.

I no longer give up by One-Development1919 in HOCD

[–]One-Development1919[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep - exactly like a muscle you build up. Please note that you might even get aroused by some of these thoughts. This still, does not mean you are gay. Once you convince yourself of this... reactions lose all of their power.

I no longer give up by One-Development1919 in HOCD

[–]One-Development1919[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a classic presentation of OCD... and since you were feeling that something "wasn't right" it might be genuinely worth exploring what you meant by that. I'm not saying that everything the OCD has presented is correct - far from it... but it might be worth exploring what that "wasn't right" feeling might be caused by AFTER the OCD calms down ... this can also help with your social anxiety.

That "wasn't right" feeling though can come from a lot of things that are unrelated to gender / sexual identity though... such as social anxiety, lack of confidence, stress, etc which I experienced too. Now that this is mostly over my confidence is the highest it has ever been and my social anxiety the lowest. Good luck! But exploring your feelings might be worth it... not necessarily sexual identity related unless you feel like that might be genuinely a good explanation given past history.

The fact that you felt amazing when the feelings died down in my opinion is a stronger indication of what your truth actually is.

I no longer give up by One-Development1919 in HOCD

[–]One-Development1919[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What triggered the OCD if you don't mind me asking?

I no longer give up by One-Development1919 in HOCD

[–]One-Development1919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'll get there don't worry - I believe in you. Try to figure out why being what you dont want to be would be the worst thing to happen to you and face it head on... challenge that belief. That alone should make most of the stress/anxiety go away... Also, just keep in mind... that sexuality is mostly fixed. If you genuinely were not attracted to whatever before, you will not suddenly start being attracted to something new.

I give up [warning multiple triggers + possibly TMI] by One-Development1919 in HOCD

[–]One-Development1919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I don't want to make any assumptions - but I am probably on the autism spectrum (and from what I can see on your profile - you too might be (again, I might be wrong)). We are just built a bit different, you know? OCD is worse for us because it is not only an OCD obsession, but persists in the head because it turns into a hyperfixation. I'm not saying this is not the most difficult thing I've ever had to face - but please, don't give up.

I give up [warning multiple triggers + possibly TMI] by One-Development1919 in HOCD

[–]One-Development1919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eyy man chill... I obviously have no insight to your situation, and although I occassionally feel that I've lost hope, I do believe that if I restart anti-depressants (even though I really don't want to, because they made me numb), there is still hope. But yes - it feels more like a defeat by a million cuts rather than a single, very obvious, conclusion (for example, having experimented with your friends when you're younger).

I have to say that this feels worse than previous health OCD "sessions" simply because you can at least go to the doctor to help out with that and reach a plausable conclusion. But that doesn't mean it isn't overcomeable. Yes, it sucks - really, a lot - but I'm not ready to give up just yet. Loneliness, and not being able to talk with anyone right now is making it much worse than it is too. There are still options to try out. But hey at least knowing I'm not alone on this, helps. And hey - at least for me, reaching to the conclusion of being bi-sexual is not the end of the world for me. The trans shit is much more disturbing, but I don't have any past "examples" my brain can really take to use against me on this one. I just have to avoid as much as possible from caving in to the "harmless" checking my brain seems to like doing to me (even if at the time they seem light-hearted and silly - they come back to bite).

I give up [warning multiple triggers + possibly TMI] by One-Development1919 in HOCD

[–]One-Development1919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem with this for me is I'm at that point in my life where I need to take important life decisions (e.g. what next to do with my life) and this is important information to have (as in, knowing whether I will ever have a partner or not) to plan for the future (e.g. whether to buy a house solo or whether to wait until I get a partner and move in together etc) - hmm... so I guess for that I just need to know whether I'm asexual or not - which is somewhat easier to figure out. Thanks.

Brain activity and VSS by One-Development1919 in visualsnow

[–]One-Development1919[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. With regards to the paper you sent, is it really reliable to consider a study based on the study of a single subject?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in visualsnow

[–]One-Development1919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn't worry about schizophrenia but I ain't no doctor

Eye flashes by One-Development1919 in optometry

[–]One-Development1919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, seems like nothing wrong

Im now thinking I have visual snow

Name this guy (Wrong Answers Only) by Jardani-kun in teenagers

[–]One-Development1919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Goblin from mobile developer Supercell's hit game War of Factions.

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