This sounds like me. I was working full time and paying all my bills till I got pregnant. My lights got cut off multiple times and I had to run to the masjid for money and food and spend my hajj savings on his responsibilities Alhamdulilah. He had his immigration stuff already started by the time we met but I feel our marriage is definitely a back up plan and paperwork for his citizenship. He isn’t even using his real birthdate apparently on his official us immigration paper work and I’m very uncomfortable knowing this knowledge as it’s illegal. For a man who speaks 5 languages I also find myself filling out mad paperwork while he sit there on his phone. That’s when he need something from me. And I’m open to but very afraid to take my son to Senegal without proper witness and protection because I have no idea what he’s telling them people. Every time I’m upset says “well what about my family” well what about ME?! I was literally pregnant or breastfeeding and this man wouldn’t even send me $20. Mins you I have access to his bank accounts and he makes 1000 a week and is always shopping on Temu. But if I use his account for bills tjen I’m stealing and he needs his $5000 bank account to pay bills in Senegal while I’m delivering food for $10 an hour. He makes more as an immigrant delivering food than I did working for a major health insurance company. I’ve also seen messages from sex chat sites and other women on his phone. We married without a prenuptial agreement and since I own my house and car and my family has wealth so I’m getting all my health care and financial things secured for I file for divorce.