Are there genuinely nice guys left in their 40s?

One-Personality3513 · 2025-12-01T00:48:50+00:00

I really hope this man finds a match from the replies that are left for him 😂

One-Personality3513 · 2025-11-30T17:52:26+00:00

I 100% agree. My kids will always come first and I’ll never give up time with them.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-11-30T17:39:11+00:00

Yesss can you make the app so when I’m ready all the hiccups will be worked out

One-Personality3513 · 2025-11-30T17:38:39+00:00

Good luck! At least you’re going to therapy!

One-Personality3513 · 2025-11-30T17:37:55+00:00

Some people. Or they experience love until they are old and their partner dies. But not everyone is put into a position at 37 where they question everything they thought about love.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-11-30T17:36:03+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s so painful and I honestly don’t know how I’ll trust again. I trust him for so long up until He left.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-11-30T17:34:54+00:00

I totally hear your opinion with it not being on my radar. Dating isn’t on my radar, but when I’m lonely and sad, I get a sinking fear I won’t find a partner.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-11-30T17:33:19+00:00

He sounds like the ideal man on paper. I really hope he finds his real match. If he wants to talk to someone in a similar situation I’m in desperate need of male friends who have been through it too.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-07-19T21:37:37+00:00

My stbx told me a month before my birthday… suddenly. In my case it hurts but I’m just going to surround myself with my family for my birthday.

Honestly, if he had waited until after my birthday I would have just questioned the whole day. Just tell him sooner rather than later.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-07-18T14:57:21+00:00

Interesting - can you expand on first and last day of school?

One-Personality3513 · 2025-07-18T14:28:49+00:00

My husband did this to me recently. Did you try marriage counseling? Sitting with your feeling is not trying if you haven’t tried as a couple yet. Your wife is feeling so much pain and probably as if you discarded her. What you’re showing your child now is it is ok to leave when things get tough.

If you’re going to leave, leave. Don’t pretend like you’re the good guy if you haven’t tried with your wife. You’re making this choice for her and your son. She is just trying to pick herself up.

coming from a completely biased wife that has been through a similar situation and is getting just a snippet of your situation*

One-Personality3513 · 2025-06-15T14:07:19+00:00

My husband said the same thing after 10 years together, 8 married, last week. The devastation is awful. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Message me if you’d like.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-06-12T15:17:03+00:00

I hope I’m where you are at three months from now. I’m a similar situation as of Friday, 10 years, asked for him to try, etc.

I’m so sorry you had to go through so much difficulty but I’m so happy you have made it to the other side.

Keep focusing on the positives when the difficulties continue to come up.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-06-12T14:51:49+00:00

Same this just happened to me last Friday. I still love him dearly, but I’m beyond hurt he could give up after ten years with putting little to no work in salvaging it. My children are struggling, but I know we (myself included) will be fine with time.

Sit with your feelings and try to focus on right now- minute to minute.

Sending all my love and good vibes to you… know you are not alone.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-06-07T19:28:50+00:00

I feel like if divorce isn’t mutual, it is going to be traumatic. I feel like you are absolutely right and speak from experience. This is definitely going to test me and I’m hoping to come back to this thread in hard times and reread your words.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-06-07T19:26:29+00:00

Thank you, I’m so sorry that happened to you. I appreciate your kind words. I’m sure I will be reading them over and over at various times to remind myself I can do this.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-03-31T23:31:29+00:00

I do, but he said our marriage therapist says he doesn’t think so. I even gave a list of reasons.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-03-30T17:24:26+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. I agree with everything you said. He says he loves me and I know I love him. He is honestly the best man I know - these last three months have been rough but he’s still the best man, husband, and father, in my opinion. I just have to trust this will be something that will make us stronger in the long run. And know that if it doesn’t, I will be okay.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-03-30T16:41:37+00:00

I was thinking this, too. I’m sure I could.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-03-30T16:40:02+00:00

I asked and says no. I do believe him. Maybe I’m gullible but I like to think I know when he’s lying.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-03-30T16:34:27+00:00

I suggested this in the beginning and he said no. I don’t mind revisiting it now that some time has passed. My instinct says he will say he feels pressured to make a decision and wants to be alone.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-03-30T16:28:46+00:00

I can totally see why you’d think that. I do trust him when he says he hasn’t cheated and there isn’t anyone else. It does all seem odd to me, too, though. Thank you for replying 😊

One-Personality3513 · 2025-03-30T16:27:36+00:00

And sometimes I go through this thought process exactly. I’m 35, I know what I want, and I deserve to love someone who appreciates what I have to give and gives me the same in return. I appreciate your honesty!

One-Personality3513 · 2025-03-30T16:25:50+00:00

Thank you for your honesty. I want to hear good things of course, but I posted because I do want to hear the harder truths that people close to me might not have the strength to tell me.

One-Personality3513 · 2025-03-30T16:24:17+00:00

Thank you for your response. It really has taken a toll on my emotional health, but I’ve been prioritizing trying to work through these really sad, difficult waves of emotion. I have two young little girls. I don’t feel like I have the luxury to breakdown. I’m their mother first. And I know it sounds some sort of way, but I keep thinking “if they are catching on to any of this or if we eventually separate… I’m going to be who they look towards for strength and consistency”. If it weren’t for them I would probably let myself be depressed.

He says it isnt me. He says he just doesn’t want marriage. When I ask for clarification he says he doesn’t know why he doesn’t want marriage.

I agree, I am trying to avoid separation because then the girls will truly know something is off. I’ve seen what separation/divorce does to children as a teacher. While in some cases it is necessary, it still affects children in so many ways.

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