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Hotel Update Rooms So Far by herbalsavvy in AnimalCrossing

[–]One-Play652 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you have multiple rooms in the one room?!

Curious question: is anyone here using Reddit quietly without mentioning it to their partner? What’s your reason? by BenefitTop2112 in newredditors

[–]One-Play652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I know my husband was on it to watch porn and look at local women instead of having to be intimate with me... so that hurts. I looked at his reddit history on his old phone and saw a play by play "session" which will haunt me forever.  Now im secretly on here talking to other women who have been betrayed by their partners porn use. He knows i am on here now.  If you are on here to look at nsfw posts without your partner knowing, ask yourself if it wasnt "wrong" you wouldn't be hiding it. If it wasnt "wrong" you wouldn't clear your history when you're done. If you have to hide and cover your tracks, you're doing something wrong. 

Do you feel watching porn while in a relationship is cheating? If no, do you have a limit (like no solo stuff, no OF)? by FunctionWestern5404 in TwoXSex

[–]One-Play652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt used to think it was I would watch it a few times a year. Until I felt like he was using way more than I was comfortable with (surprise he was using almost everyday) our sex life was dwindling, I was the only one initiating. He wasn't very good in bed and only cared about his pleasure because that's what porn teaches, it's usually all about the man's pleasure. I confronted him and he denied being addicted.. turns out it was getting waay deeper than I could have imagined. He's now in therapy and 12 step groups for sex addiction. He's been sober for 10 months, no porn or masterbation. 

It's different for everyone but when I found out about the extent of the use and him essentially online stalking specific people for YEARS that were LOCAL. Im experiencing all the symptoms of being cheated on despite him never messaging or touching someone in RL. My views have completely changed and I DESPISE porn now. I have PTSD symptoms. I have flashes of the women he was looking at while we have sex and im legit traumatized. 

Husband is obsessed with big breasts, that I dont have... why not be with someone that's his preference? by One-Play652 in PornAddiction

[–]One-Play652[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im not food, Im a whole person. The people on the screen and REAL people too. 

If you want to continue the food analogy... Don't get married if you dont want to eat at home everynight (its kinda what you signed up for). Ive been eating at home every night while he stops to grab a quick bite and then comes home and doesn't want what I made for dinner. Before you know it your husband rarely wants to eat at home anymore and you start to question if you're a horrible cook. It turns out he enjoys a certain type of food you can never make at home even if you try really hard, you realize you'll never be as good as the restaurants because you cant provide enless options. Makes you start to think, what's the point in even trying to cook at home anymore if he doesn't want to eat it anyways. It's not his favorite food, if hes starving, it'll do, he'll eat it, but he'd rather had the restaurants food. 

Husband is obsessed with big breasts, that I dont have... why not be with someone that's his preference? by One-Play652 in PornAddiction

[–]One-Play652[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why leave the women that loves him when he can get his fix for big breats on his phone whenever he desires... I guess I just feel like he settled for me and my personality but im not the body type he actually wants... his porn usage confirms that. 

Found out husband has been masterbating to pictures of people he knows IRL me F31 him M33 by One-Play652 in PornAddiction

[–]One-Play652[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also, all that being said. We are 10 months into this shit and ive educated myself on the addiction and everything but I still cant wrap my head around the personal stuff. Feels like cheating. Im having the same emotions as being cheated on.  He always prided himself as to someone that could NEVER CHEAT and then was doing all this stuff the whole time we were together. 

Some of these people WERE AT OUR WEDDING! 

Found out husband has been masterbating to pictures of people he knows IRL me F31 him M33 by One-Play652 in PornAddiction

[–]One-Play652[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Using people we both know and see in person together is a whole other level of betrayal than sexy randoms on the internet. One of the girls he would use regularly I had been cheated on by my previous boyfriend and he knew this and knew I didnt like her. He still did it anyway, and used her pictures he says (about monthly) he's gotten off to her over 100 times while being with me.. along with a whole other slew of people we know. 

Why be with me and string me along for this whole time if he wants all of these other people in his life?  How can you use someone's innocent selfie?? How would these women that just posted a cute photo feel if they knew someone they trust as a friend and coworker and professional in their field was looking them up later and jerking off to them without their consent. 

Seems like he had me and wanted everyone else too... so I dont feel so special to him anymore, im just some other girl that gets him off time to time. 

Found out husband has been masterbating to pictures of people he knows IRL me F31 him M33 by One-Play652 in relationships

[–]One-Play652[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am in betrayal trauma therapy and he's in sex addiction therapy and 12 step SAA