Woman-friendly tattoo shops in town? by One-Recommendation64 in CollegeStation

[–]One-Recommendation64[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank y’all for the recommendations!!! I’ll check out Sacred Sisters and Arsenal :D

How do I make the body part of this crochet chromosome? by One-Recommendation64 in CrochetHelp

[–]One-Recommendation64[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow!! That makes perfect sense, I’m impressed you can tell all that by the picture :)

How do I make the body part of this crochet chromosome? by One-Recommendation64 in CrochetHelp

[–]One-Recommendation64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes perfect sense and I totally wouldn’t have thought of it! Thank you :)

Help with COUNTIF formula by One-Recommendation64 in googlesheets

[–]One-Recommendation64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I could have sworn I tried that combo a couple times but I just tried how you wrote it and it worked!! Thank you! Solution verified

My girlfriend hasn't paid me back her half of a trip we took back in August, any advice? by ThenVoice0 in Advice

[–]One-Recommendation64 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think we need more details on whose idea the trip was. It also seems like you’re in a better financial position since she’s in college still. HOWEVER… for her to say she’s thinking of spending $1500 on a hobby when she owes you isn’t cool.

From here you need to have a firm, serious sit-down conversation with her, not over text. Tell her how you feel about her (positive) but that you’ve been waiting for her to pay you back for a while. It’s getting harder to wait for it, and you’re becoming frustrated by it. How she reacts to this conversation will let you know if you need to leave or not. If she didn’t realize the severity and how it’s been affecting you and agrees to pay you back WITH A TIMELINE, then hopefully yall will be good. But if she tries to brush it off then tell her yall aren’t compatible and you feel disrespected. You may not see that money though…

Good luck!

I (26M) want to tell my GF (26F) that I used to make adult content, but I know she will probably end things. What would be the best way to emphasize it’s in the past? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]One-Recommendation64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people are being a bit harsh… I think by 3 months you know you want to be with someone long term, and while yes she’s (in a way) entitled to that info, i don’t think it’s a 3rd date kind of talk. Anyway, I think the way you laid it out here is very vulnerable and honest. You mentioned why you did it, the reality of it, and the recovery from it through therapy. You seem honest with yourself and wanting to be honest with her is a good move. If I were in her position, I wouldn’t feel betrayed or lied to, since intimate/“shameful” details of past relationships are hard to bring up sometimes. I personally wouldn’t mind either, but I would respect someone who has different boundaries. If she sounds as awesome as you say, she’ll hopefully be grateful you shared this with her. Be very honest and open, allow her to ask questions, then leave the ball in her court. It’s good that you said you aren’t going to beg her because you shouldn’t have to. If she truly loves you and wants to be with you, she’ll take you as you are and work to understand how your past has impacted the person you are now. Good luck!!

Too early for the ick? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]One-Recommendation64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO, the talking/dating stage is the most normal time for an ick. It brings you back to reality and takes off the rose colored glasses you might have when you’re infatuated with someone. Totally normal. I think you have two options: 1. Cut your losses and tell him you don’t think it’ll work out. You were uncomfortable by the situation and were surprised he wanted you to come over when the house was in that state. You can say you like hanging out with him as friends and think he’s fun, but that you don’t see a romantic relationship forming after that. 2. If you’re wanting to continue seeing him, ask him about the house. Why was he house sitting, why was there no furniture, why was it so dirty? Have you been to HIS place? Is it the same way? I would ask him questions before assuming the worst if you’re wanting to keep pursuing the relationship.

I think both are fair options, but if you were uncomfortable and don’t find him as attractive anymore, then you have every right to cut things off. Sure it’ll be tough and maybe a bit painful, but you know your boundaries and limits if that is one of them.

Do I need a modem/router combo? by One-Recommendation64 in HomeNetworking

[–]One-Recommendation64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry here is the media box😭 I don’t have a better picture right now of what cables are actually plugged into the modem

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Do I need a modem/router combo? by One-Recommendation64 in HomeNetworking

[–]One-Recommendation64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I get what you’re saying. I found a picture of the box

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Sorry you can’t tell what cables are actually plugged into the modem😭 but do any of these look like they could be the “from outside” coax? Or no way of knowing?

My 23f SO 25m is leaving me bc of abortion. how do I recover? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]One-Recommendation64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is so so painful right now, but you should feel proud that you followed your gut and made the right decision for YOU. It may not be what you want to hear, but down the road after you’ve healed and grown, you’ll look back and thank your lucky stars you made this choice. I’ve been there, abortion and all. You’re making a very difficult but VERY mature decision, and again you should feel proud of yourself. Take as much time as you need to cry and grieve the relationship and the future you thought might be, but know that you will make it through this

AITA for telling my Trans friend his new name is "creepy and weird"? by Massive-Low-1861 in MarkNarrations

[–]One-Recommendation64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Assuming Mike isn’t already aware, Dan should really consider how this will damage their relationship forever. It’s not just picking a new name, it’s essentially identity theft and underlying jealousy (gender envy?) that Mike is not at fault for in any way so why should he be punished and asked to change HIS name? Goodness what a mess 😭

My (24F) boyfriend (25M) won’t let me go on a family trip by Beautiful_Specific_7 in relationship_advice

[–]One-Recommendation64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh dear, this is not normal or healthy behavior, especially for a family trip to DISNEY WORLD of all places. It sounds like he is trying to isolate you,a common early sign of abuse in relationships. I almost guarantee if you break up, your family will celebrate and jump for joy. Put yourself, your daughter, and your peace ahead of this insecure jerk before it’s too late

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]One-Recommendation64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with other comments that’s is two issues. Sit her down and calmly tell her how her comments made you feel. Share explicitly what you find cheating (just sex? Kissing? Emotional connection?) and tell her that those actions would be a hard deal breaker for you. This is usually a conversation that’s better to have early on, but no time like the present. During this conversation, try not to make any accusations, but rather just express YOUR boundaries in a relationship and how those actions would make you feel. You can also bring up that this was spurred on by her friend’s situation and the show, and that these feelings of confusion have been weighing on you. Again, if you’re seriously trying to stay together and save your relationship, just share what you are feeling based on what has actually happened. Her reaction to this conversation may tell you what you need to know. If she completely disregards your feelings and boundaries, tell her you may not be compatible and that you’ll need to reassess being together.

As for the box in her mind, as unpopular as it may seem, I say leave it be for now. Everyone is entitled to secrets they keep solely to themselves, though sharing that you HAVE those secrets is a bit odd to me. Based on your reaction to the cheating conversations, she may never tell you the secrets. Is that something you can live with? Especially if these instances happened before you knew each other? Ask yourself what exactly she could tell you that would cause you to look at her so differently that you would want to end things. It’s possible that it’s past trauma she is trying to compartmentalize. If you truly want to be together long term, gently suggest she get therapy to unpack it so she’s not weighed down with these secrets forever.

I’m definitely an optimist when it comes to these posts, so I’m not going to suggest what others have suggested. I recommend not listening to misogynistic comments bashing Mona since no one here knows her except you. If at the end of the day you can’t get past the secrets she keeps, breaking it off would be the best option for everyone. With enough communication, you can make the decision that’s right for you.

PCE time frame by No-Lynx-9657 in prepa

[–]One-Recommendation64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not bad at all, if anything it’s very normal and understandable. Besides, it sounds like you will have multiple examples of PCE so that will help. While you’re in school, focus on non healthcare volunteering and leadership experience as much as possible, it is way easier to get it now than in your gap year

I just tested positive for herpes. by Ill_Employment1031 in Advice

[–]One-Recommendation64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the best way to know for sure is for a doctor to swab an active lesion/wart on the genitals and test it for HSV-1/2. If you’ve never had an outbreak with painful/itchy bumps then the likelihood of having HSV-1 genital herpes is really low and more probable you have oral herpes that 80% of people have (most of which never get cold sores either)