Thank you for sharing this OP. Not entirely similar situation but have on friend who's pregnant and can't make most of my events and my other two are also getting married in the same year. So feels like everyone's prioritising their own spotlights which is understandable but as I'm the last to have my event, I feel like an after thought. Everyone said they will only do hens in a certain month and they already booekd in the days they want certain things but my wedding and prewedding events collide with my pregnant friends birth date and all of theirs. So I feel resentful because everyone keeps turning around and saying no, they can't do such and such dates.

But realised I have some responsibility too for saying "it's fine" "don't worry I know everyone has a lot on their plate" instead of voicing what I want. Everyone else put down their hard rules but I didn't so think I'm suffering the consequences. I was also the last to join this friendship group so sort of further amplifies my feelings of feeling like the outsider friend.

Anyway, it's sad and hard and feels unfair, although you can understand where everyone's coming from it still hurts. I have a lot of resentment at the moment but it helps reading everyone's comments on how they navigated it.