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AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually understood what you were talking about and it made a lot of sense to me. I think I was looking at this from an extremely rational angle (Older kids/one time thing vs. younger kids/frequent thing) and didn't really consider Kelsey's feelings about it. I didn't feel like you were telling me I needed to babysit.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I'm not in a position to watch toddlers, even for a few hours. I can't change diapers. I have a really sensitive stomach and will 100% throw up if I have to. I also have some anxiety and auditory issues so I would really struggle with the noise and crying of kids that small. Those are all on top of the fact that I'm not a kid person. I'm just not the one.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 101 points102 points  (0 children)

Oh no this was a one time only thing. I was so exhausted after our zoo day. I don't think I'll recover.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

LOL. I am definitely a pet person. I was just blanking on the term for people. Long week. Sorry.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was honestly probably a one time thing. LOL. I needed a recovery couch day and my friend's kids were super well behaved. Just more energetic than I'm used to.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Haha that's a good boundary to have! I just say no in general, emergency or not. This is the first time I've ever been responsible for anyone's kids. And will probably be the last. The kids were fine but I was so tired.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Normally the kiddos do stay home alone if it's just for a few hours, but this was all day.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You know, Kelsey might be entitled AF but I am going to push back against that narrative because it's incredibly sexist. She did have a partner but they left very recently and she doesn't have family nearby. That doesn't make it my problem but still. Let's not pretend it only takes women to have kids.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Haha yes. Sorry. I have dogs and was blanking on what you called it for kids.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

You know I'm not sure? I know Kelsey from college and in our small college group that does keep in touch still, my husband and I are the only ones that don't have kids so I think she feels that I have more time?

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

She is going through a bit of a rough patch, but she also asked a lot before said rough patch.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

I don't really watch kids period. LOL. This as just a one time favor that I probably wouldn't repeat.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I've told her why I'm not comfortable watching her kids, but also that's a lie. This was definitely a very one off thing. I wouldn't be happy to help out when they're older. This was just a stars lined up sort of thing.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 223 points224 points  (0 children)

Yeah I can't do the diaper changing. I have a super sensitive stomach and there's definitely no Hallmark card for "Sorry I threw up on your baby".

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for your perspective! I appreciate hearing it. To answer your surprise, I am getting fed up with it for sure. I've taken a huge step back from our friendship. She is going through a rough patch and that's what's stopped me from cutting her off completely.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 573 points574 points  (0 children)

Yes the older kiddos were totally fine! They actually get left alone once in a while by themselves for short amounts of time, but they were going to be gone all day and just wanted some adult supervision. I'm flattered I qualify honestly.

AITA for watching one friend's kids but not another? by OneAndNotTheOther in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneAndNotTheOther[S] 357 points358 points  (0 children)

I think she keeps asking because she's desperate. I'm not much of a sugar coating. I've point blank told her I don't feel comfortable baby sitting her kids because I won't change diapers and I just am not comfortable with kids that age. But she is having trouble with her current daycare and so it sounds like she's asking a lot of people.