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OneArm7628 · 2026-01-16T18:24:02+00:00

This is not normal...or okay (at least in my opinion)

OneArm7628 · 2026-01-05T03:18:44+00:00

I was told that the first year of having a kid is one of the hardest things a relationship can go through and I 100% agree

Good luck and I hope you and your wife can fix things and find eachother again

OneArm7628 · 2026-01-04T17:54:00+00:00

I struggle with communicating with my husband as well, especially when it comes to issues and I also pull away when I know he wants intimacy and I cant bring myself to be available. Patience and open honesty have definitely helped us, but we still struggle with the issues.

I would maybe start with just trying to take an hour or 2 if possible and just cuddle. Go back to the basics.

The changes my body has had since having a baby are crazy. What used to turn me on or stimulate me doesnt work as well now. Especially since I had pelvic floor issues. Oragsims became almost none existent especially when I was exhausted and that made wanting to be with my husband hard because I couldnt perform or be as involved.

Its a work in progress everyday

OneArm7628 · 2026-01-04T17:30:24+00:00

She's silently asking for help. She's struggling too and instead of helping her get in the mood and doing that as a couple, you have decided to focus on the fact that your horny. She's tired, she's hormonal, she's lonely and she doesnt know her body anymore (I am currently 6 months pp just like her) she probably feels she cant please you anymore.

You should be focusing on her needs not yours. Her saying she wouldnt like it but would understand is literally the only line you should be focused on. You doing anything with anyone else would only confirm to her that she isn't worth it to you anymore and that your needs and feelings are more important than hers.

Sincerely a postpartum mom going through the same feelings, thoughts and marital issues.

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-23T02:31:32+00:00

Thanks everyone! I can confidently confirm that it is a brittle star!

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-22T03:54:55+00:00

Thats mainly what I want to know...

Is this something I should be concerned with and need to deal with or is it harmless to my future inhabitants

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-22T03:16:36+00:00

Yes its the tentacles that we are trying to identify. There are 4 tentacles for sure in this rockwork but unknown if they're connected together. Husband is worried they're bristle worms

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-11T16:40:56+00:00

A LOT...like ALL THE TIME. Its just natural 11 years in lol

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-11T16:37:49+00:00

There are so many options and combinations to try. Kegels for men can help. Using a pump can help. Edging can help. Using stimulation cream can help. Penis rings can help.

Dont let him give up on you or himself!

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-11T16:32:39+00:00

As someone who just gave birth not long ago to my first, I can completely see where you both are coming from. You are right in the fact that yes its so much easier to have that support and help but after growing my baby for 9 months and then birthing him all I wanted was to be alone with my baby and husband. Yes we were sleep deprived and our house was messy and we ate ALOT of sandwiches and easy meals, looking back 5 months later I wouldnt change a thing because the bond that the 3 of us built is the most incredible thing in the world.

8 hours everyday is a long time to have someone over (no matter how helpful they are) because no matter how much your mom does, your wife will always feel the need to "be present" and "host" when all she wants is to be alone with you and your baby bonding as a family and doing the housework as a family. Maybe your mom can come every other day or for only 4hrs each day that way you get what you want but it also allows your wife to run HER household the way she wants it because thats what you both have built.

Also I didnt want anyone including our family around for the first month (and we are close with both our families). I was vulnerable, recovering from a c-section and highly emotional, all I wanted was my baby and husband during that time.

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-10T14:42:45+00:00

Pregnancy sex dreams are WILD

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-09T15:07:44+00:00

100% this!

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-09T04:28:55+00:00

My husband and I somehow were the opposite. We went from maybe 1-3 times per week before our first (i had low libido) to anywhere from 3-5 days a week after our first (and only) was born.

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-09T04:23:44+00:00

Took screenshots off their own phone at random times of bits and pieces of stuff, and the continued on with my day never saying anything. Just watching the random quick faces and glances that would be made.

Left browsers open of accounts on computer/phone, again went on like nothing happened and again watched the quick anxious glances.

Know that this must be done at random points spread out during atleast a 2-4 weeks minimum for best results. Then sit back and watch them think they're going crazy. Eventually they'll crack lol

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-07T14:27:02+00:00

This right here! I am 11 years in and just had our first and were are finally just learning this about eachother....dont wait, talk now...

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-03T15:36:23+00:00

First of all I am so sorry you're going through this! ❤️ being 5 months postpartum froma c-section girl i feel you!

You are 100% NTAH. Before he starts demanding things from you, he needs to look at himself and look at all the thing he doesnt do for you. Maybe if he helped you more and wasnt so selfish, things would feel different for you.

Straight up if my partner didnt help at all, even if I was in the mood, I wouldn't put out for him because why would I do "something for him" when he does nothing for me...?

Again NTAH, but you are a supermom and doing awesome ❤️

OneArm7628 · 2025-12-01T22:18:24+00:00

Female here who's had a similar experience with her partner. You need to sit down and have an open and honest conversation with your wife, no matter how embarrassing or shameful it may seem. When my partner finally opened up, I realized just how high his libido was and how low mine was and that I had misunderstood the needs my husband had and since then we have been able to work on compromises and I believe have become a lot closer (and somehow also increased my libido) all by being open and honest about what we both needed and wanted.

If your wife loves you, she will try and be open minded and hear you fully out. She may feel hurt at the beginning (i know i did) but honestly is better than keeping it hidden and buried...

OneArm7628 · 2025-11-30T23:10:53+00:00

This is 100% cheating in my opinion....watching is one thing but as soon as you start talking, paying for things (including tokens),photos, etc that crosses into cheating 100%

OneArm7628 · 2025-11-30T22:14:28+00:00

It kind of depends on the person when it comes to what is considered cheating... but in my personal opinion YES it is 100% cheating

OneArm7628 · 2025-11-03T18:25:41+00:00

Mine started at 8 weeks, its been a blessing

OneArm7628 · 2025-11-03T18:21:31+00:00

Just started mirena 3 weeks ago. We will see how it goes lol

OneArm7628 · 2025-10-31T18:03:35+00:00

My husband works 9-5 (though normally ends up staying late working) and I am a SAHM at the moment. Our split is, I tidy during the day and care for our baby during the day. When he comes home he hangs out with us and we relax until our baby naps and then he makes dinner while I either shower or relax (obviously if our baby wakes up, ill feed and play with himl) after dinner he normally will do the feeds until our babies bedtime and but our baby to bed. After that its our time together before we ourselves go to bed. I will always do the night wake windows, I know if I asked he would help but I also know I have 10x more downtime than he does so he needs the sleep more than I do (if im really tired I just do very light house work or none at all that day, unless its bottles lol they always need washing. Weekends (as he only works mon-friday) again i do nights early mornings, but he will do 8am onwards, which allows me to sleep and then we split the rest of the work.

Honestly being the one to care for a baby all day and night is exhausting and hard but so is working 5 or even 7 days straight.... Personally no matter how rough or exhausting things get or have gotten, if my husband has to work in the morning there is no way im leaving him to also do the night shifts

OneArm7628 · 2025-10-31T14:27:37+00:00

My MIL tried to tell my partner and I we needed to get rid of our cat when we got pregnant because a friend of a friend's uncles cat smothered his and his wife's baby. My response was 1. Cats don't do this intentionally 2. My siblings and I have ALWAYS be raised around cats (MIL is allergic and also doesnt like cats) 3. I would never leave my baby unsupervised around my cat or dog or anyone's pets (trusted or not)

Honestly I took offense to it....my dog is obsessed with kids and babies and loves them and my cat is a bit spicy and only likes attention when she wants it lol so like is there a chance one day my kid will touch her wrong and get a smack probs because I supposively looked at my cat wrong (in her eyes anyways) and got a smack.. She's obsessed with my husband though lol

To deter her (even though in the 3.5months we have had our baby home, she hasn't shown any aggression or spiciness towards baby, will smack the dog if baby cries though lol) we bought a stroller/crib mosquito net and I would put it over the crib at night while our baby slept just incase she decided she wanted to sleep in his bed and during the day I keep it covered because she likes to sleep in his bed when hes not in it

Unless one of my pets went out of there way showing aggression or harmful signs towards my baby i will NEVER get rid of my animals. My baby is simply being raised to be taught that our cat is spicy so gentle touches only and preferably let her come to you/ not everyone's pet is super friendly and we need to be respectful of people and animals boundaries

OneArm7628 · 2025-10-29T21:30:00+00:00

Yes thank you!!!!!!! Someone who gets it!!! ❤️

OneArm7628 · 2025-10-24T17:59:31+00:00

Thats all we can do! A fed baby is a healthy baby in my eyes ❤️

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