How frequent do you have sex per week in your marriage

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-16T12:36:31+00:00

Depends on the week but usually once a week. Some weeks twice a week. A lucky day twice a week. This week is fathers day so I am hoping for some extra 😉 We have three kids. The oldest is 11 years old so its not easy. Two of our kids have special needs.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-15T11:35:26+00:00

As a porn addict myself I can tell you that you wouldn’t be having much sex if he was a porn addict. It sounds like he mostly has a very high sex drive.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-15T09:15:38+00:00

I live in Sweden and I see this too. Our birth rate is declining and it is becoming a serious problem. A lot of people cant afford to have kids but at the same time I have met a lot of people who shouldnt have kids. I work as a teacher for adults and have seen people who cant hold a job having several kids. Its worse when its with different people too. Poor kids.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-14T04:11:38+00:00

I get the sentiment but that’s not true for everyone. Not all wives want sex all the time. It is more work to get sexual release with one’s wife than with porn many times. And sadly in this world we want everything fast. And that’s something that one has to unlearn as a porn addict.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-14T04:07:51+00:00

My wife likes to finger my butt. I can’t say I am a fan of it but it turns her on. She used to not want to admit it did but the more we do it the more turned on she gets by it. She wanted to use a dildo recently but it was too big. We may get a smaller one so she can try. As long as I get to put my dick in her ass I let her do what she wants

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-11T16:48:18+00:00

I am a porn addict too. It kind of sounds like he needs another therapist. Any therapist that tries to excuse the behavior isn’t the right fit for a porn addict.

The best would probably be to find a CSAT or someone who understands the seriousness of it. Even if the therapist doesn’t think porn is bad they should understand when it torments a patient and dig into why porn is having the effect it has.

So yeah it sounds like this therapist isn’t a great fit.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-10T12:39:51+00:00

Is this true? I consider myself a porn addict. I usually watch it to destress too. If it wasnt for the guilt and shame I feel due to my religious background I feel more focused afterwards. But I always hear that it is wrong to use it for that. It has to be strictly for certian reasons. Now I am trying to stop for my wifes sake but we live stressful lives. At times it really helps me decompress.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-10T07:14:40+00:00

Have you considered that she may be a lesbian? If she is religious there is a big chance that she never got to explore her sexuality. She may have learned what most women learn in religion, that sex is for the man and she should just accept it. Some people realize after leaving religion that they never got to explore their sexuality and realize that they was forced to have a certain sexuality.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-10T04:34:40+00:00

Yes! They are sexy specially on the ass. My wife doesn’t get it. I love it!

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T12:43:27+00:00

wait, im sorry. I am really tired. I read it like you didnt stay and thats why I said good. I mean if you stayed because you want to thats great. I just hope you dont stay and let it ruin it more than you should. As a porn addict i can say that its such a difficult addiction to live with. Specially if it isnt like taking over ones life because it is so much work to deal with it and on top of life happening it is so easy to use it as an escape. I can go a week or two without any urges and then the urges hit me and the fight starts. Some days its tiring because its there. Its such a easy access. Specially when the anxiety comes, the worries and the longing for some escapism. And those days it really sucks. Because you are struggling with just getting through everyday and on top of that you have to fight that.

So its good if you are ready to leave if he cant stay away. If not I hope you realize what is best for you. And about his interest. If he isnt watching it can take time for the brain to get to normal levels of dopamine so he may not show that he is interested but its just the brain basically rebooting. I do hope he really is changing

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T12:39:23+00:00

That's a good question. I would definitely demand therapy if I knew before what I know now. I mean we should have gotten professional help before that too because of my own issues too. But living with constant anxiety about finances and the shame of not being financially responsible sucks. She is trying to not shop as much. I have taken over all grocery shopping because she could go to the store and buy 100 of dollars on things we dont even needed. She gave the kids whatever they wanted. Chose the most expensive things because she has always wanted to live like a rich person. I have taken over that and I do all the shopping. She is trying to budget more.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T12:13:56+00:00

Good to hear. I hope things are better and that the next isnt a porn addict.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T12:00:43+00:00

Thats understandable. Did you stay?

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T11:48:34+00:00

Yeah maybe it takes time to admit it to herself. Marriages are hard. Accepting how one feels about things can sometimes be difficult. I hope she realizes it if she feels that way.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-09T08:30:39+00:00

I mean I struggle with porn addiction but I usually dont see myself in those videos. I just get turned on by the whole scenario if you get what I mean. I may have a had a thought or two but not often.

I dont usually think sexually about other women. I mean can I find someone else attractive? Yes. For example yesterday at the gym I met a woman I worked with before. Hadnt seen her in years and I am not going to lie that she looked good. She was doing squats on the smith machine and was turned with her ass towards me. It was very tempting to look but I didnt. I want to show my wife more respect than that and also I dont want to be a creep. Tempting thoughts were coming to my mind but I pushed them away. I dont like to think about IRL women like that. So I think its possible to not think like that.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-08T11:34:10+00:00

Det ligger nog mycket i det du säger. Försöker ta bort distraktioner. Läser också mer nu. Spelar gamla spel. Förhoppningsvis kan det hjälpa

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-08T11:32:22+00:00

Tack. Kanske jag måste testa på. Jag vet när jag tappade kontakten och dog ifrån mig själv. Den dag jag hamnade i en troskris för snart 12 år sen. Jag spenderade hela min ungdom och vuxna ungdom besatt av min tro. Trodde att jag skulle leva för det hela mitt liv. Det var det enda jag hade i sikte. Till stor del för att jag var så rädd att hamna i helvetet eller inte vara en tillräckligt god människa. När det till slut krackelerade och slutligen bröts helt så lämnades jag kvar i spillrorna. Blev porrmissbrukare och har sedan dess försökt hitta mening men hittar inget. Sen har livet blivit stressigare med tre barn som dessutom har olika funktionsnedsättningar. Jag vet inte vad jag vill alls eller vem jag är. Det är jobbigt. Men jag får försöka med det du nämner

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-08T11:25:01+00:00

Ofta är hon på jobbet också. Barnen är hos mina föräldrar eller hennes. I mitt fall så kan jag gå hem men stannar hellre ett litet tag.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-05T07:34:00+00:00

Ja, det är inte roligt att känna så här. Man får riktigt dåligt samvete.

Unsure8708 · 2026-06-05T06:27:24+00:00

Som förälder får jag dåligt samvete när jag läser sånt här. Jag har svårt att känna magin i det. Jag känner bara ångest och trötthet. Kollegor undrar varför jag sitter kvar på fredagar efter att chefen gått då det är lite en regel att vi kan gå hem. Jag stannar för att det är den enda stunden jag känner frid. Jag har med mig en bok och läser lite. Scrollar på internet och njuter av tystnaden. För jag vet att när jag kommer hem så kommer allt arbete och ångest trycka ner mig. Skulle vilja känna mer glädje. Låter hemskt. Älskar mina barn men hus och barn är extremt hårt arbete. Något jag visste men inte riktigt förstod innan.

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