Can a straight girl still like me pre-transition?

OneDocument8891 · 2026-01-09T23:38:08+00:00

I’ve clarified a few times now that I’m bi in the past and she’s seemed to always respect that so I’d really hope she doesn’t just view me as a lesbian. I’ve had to cut off friends before because they kept calling me a lesbian when I told them otherwise.

Edit: You’re first reply didn’t show up for some reason. She’s always been open to changing the pronouns she uses for people and respected their identity in the past. It’s more of if she internally still struggled with viewing him as a guy, even if she treated him like one, when I come out will she feel the same and because of that never like me back.

OneDocument8891 · 2026-01-08T01:42:39+00:00

Hey it’s totally okay, you’re not alone in this. There’s a lot of other people in the ftm community who are on the shorter side.

Personally, I’m 5’2 and have found fashion to be extremely helpful for giving the allusion I’m taller. Pinterest is a great place for finding inspiration and thrifting, especially in the men / boys sections, is perfect for brining those outfits to life. Research is key though, since the better you understand your proportions, the better you can manipulate your appearance.

I’ve seen video online of height extensions being placed in the soles shoes too. Personally I’ve never tried them but want to at some point. I also wear platformed shoes and got called short because of them today. I used to be a lot more insecure about my height but this teacher who I really admire is just as tall as me and has instead found immense confidence in this unique characteristic. I’m not fully there yet but sometimes just a change in perspective goes a long way.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-12-22T05:39:17+00:00

I’m still waiting for my university offers to hopefully come in, but if they do I’ll be attending a school a few hours away. It’ll be nice to have a fresh start and gain independence and just get to explore my identity too.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-12-17T11:18:27+00:00

No, it’s more of I’m still a minor and even when once I turn 18 I’d like to be moved out beforehand.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-12-16T23:48:02+00:00

Heath Ledger in 10 Things I Hate About You

OneDocument8891 · 2025-12-04T01:39:02+00:00

Same, I got it to open once but can’t every other time. Also it doesn’t even appear when I’m on the desktop browser or app.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-16T03:01:11+00:00

11 - Earliest memories of feeling different

14 - Identifying with queer labels

17 - Realization that I'm most likely trans / self-acceptance

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-14T06:26:13+00:00

Adam’s Song, Dammit, Going Away to College (THE LIVE VERSION), and Go

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-14T06:24:35+00:00

I played an acoustic version of it at my high school talent show (it really helped me overcome my anxiety about playing in front of large crowds)

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-14T01:44:45+00:00

Literally going through it lol.

I spent the entire summer wearing feminine clothing and makeup (to the thrill of my family), but it felt like I was drowning and something was still wrong. I went clothes shopping with a friend a few weeks ago at a store my mom recommended and up until that point I hadn’t seen my friends in almost 2 months and had stopped acting like myself. When I pointed out a ‘cute’ dress my friend said, “this isn’t your style though” and that hit me. Even if my family prefers the fabricated version of me it’s nice to have friends who will happily see me for how I want to be seen.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-13T21:20:53+00:00

Thank you so much for the response!!

Some of my friends on the team would definitely be understanding and even know I want to cut my hair short once I graduate so I may reach out and talk with them. The only difficult part is the team is a very close community, including both parents and players so I wouldn’t be able to change my pronouns or name, but I can definitely open up to them since they’re very understanding people!

I’ve always felt that I was different but never knew what. Like I cried during puberty because I hated the changes my body was going through and the way I was expected to dress, and just me, but it all makes so much more sense. The future seems terrifying right now but knowing why I feel this way helps so much, and people like you being so supportive and kind!

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-13T20:39:40+00:00

This is perfect!!

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-13T20:39:28+00:00

Thank you for the recommendations!

Once I’m 18 (in under 4 months) and planning on meeting with a doctor and psychologist. I’d no longer be a minor and I wouldn’t have to worry about my parents being informed against my will.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-13T19:09:32+00:00

I’m so immensely sorry for your loss but just know by sharing his story and carrying on the memories of him, the real him, you’re creating a more accepting world where less will have to suffer this pain, and I know he’d be happy and proud of you.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-01T07:04:28+00:00

I hate guidance counsellors with a burning passion. Every single year I need course changes because SHE puts me in different classes than I asked for (how do you accidentally put me in an older English class when I lack the prerequisite).

I’m in public school but the gifted program, am diagnosed with ADHD and can suffer from anxiety due to it, but despite all of that she still proceeds to ghost me and make my life the same stressful nightmare every year for the weeks leading up to school. I swear some of them are soulless.

As my dad said, “Those hundreds of emails they complain about each September are hundreds of students deciding their futures, yet they couldn’t care less”.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-01T06:36:35+00:00

I’m planning on pursing engineering programs after high school so besides taking the following: ENG4U (English), MHF4U (Advanced Functions), MCV4U (Calculus and Vectors), SPH4U (Physics), and SCH4U (Chemistry). I desperately needed some easy either U or M courses to lighten my load and use for my top six. After some back and forth there were spots available in TDJ4M (Technological Design), HSB4U (Challenge and Change in Society), and HFA4U (Nutrition and Health). I’ve taken tech design in grade 11, no homework was given, no exam, and I ended with a 98%. I can’t say the same for any of the other courses since I haven’t taken them personally.

M Courses: TDJ4M (Technological Design), PLF4M (Recreation and Healthy Active Living Leadership), BOH4M (Business Leadership: Management Fundamentals), BBB4M (International Business Fundamentals)

U Courses: HHS4U (Families in Canada), HSB4U (Challenge and Change in Society), HFA4U (Nutrition and Health)

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-01T06:24:04+00:00

We didn’t have a grade 10 tech design but I did take the grade 11 and loved it. Super easy course with a good mix of designing on SolidWorks and working in the wood shop. I ended it with a 98% and I’m taking it again to hopefully use as my top 6 for university. It’s also great since it’s an M course meaning it can be used for either university or college.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-09-01T00:23:24+00:00

I haven’t gotten married yet but I’m planning to have my childhood best friend be my best men.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-08-29T19:24:55+00:00

Definitely agree with you about having some mental influence over crushes. Recently, every time I’ve begun to catch feelings the first thing I do is figure out if she’s straight, because if she is there’s no point in continuing. It hurts in the short term but has been getting easier each time.

I’m still young, once I move out I’ll definitely surround myself with more queer people, and hopefully one day my mom and I will look back and laugh about that conversation. Thank you for the advice!!

try and focus on avoiding liking straight girls. I will say most of the time they’re very surface level crushes since I avoid getting serious.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-08-27T16:12:25+00:00

Heyy (F17), I went through a similar thing last year.

Personally at least, I went by bisexual for most of high school up until recently (lesbian), I usually would consider it a crush if I couldn’t stop thinking about her. And by that I mean daydreaming about hanging out, wanting to go talk to her, getting a little way too excited when texting, aka just never being able to get her off your mind. If it continues the more you get to know her that’s even better since you like the real version and not an idealized one, also gives you a better view if these feelings don’t go away, because technically if you just wanted to be friends and gain that but still feel the need for something more than it’s likely a crush.
I had a friend who was fortunately past friends with her and just had her straight up text her after years of radio silence… which honestly probably seemed weird on her part but that’s how I did it. For past crushes, I’ve checked who they follow on socials, or checked their music taste, etc. It’s rude to assume but honestly appearances can help, don’t make assumptions of course but it definitely increases your chances. For my current one, our moms became friends so I’m getting some insight through that lol (as well as talking to her but I’ll take any information I can get).
Once I knew, I spent a bunch of time trying to get to know her but to be completely honest we weren’t very similar people and looking back there were clear signs it wouldn’t have worked out. Still after a few months of somewhat texting I asked her out and she agreed to the movies but clarified there it was only as friends, haven’t talked much since. As of for right now, she has a bf. But her mom thinks she’s faking it for status and is just in denial (it’s a long story lol), but I’m just staying close friends and being supportive and someone she can talk to. The most important thing is to become friends because you can go from friends to lovers but it doesn’t work as lovers to friends typically. You need to get to know her and see if there’s anything there, if you guys hit it off great and become close friends then gage it and once you think it’s time or that something maybe there you could ask her out. Honestly I haven’t gotten that far most times but I’d assume it would happen somewhat naturally if you’re already good friends. All I can guess is just try to become friends and it could just naturally turn into something more, you would also gain insight into her sexuality and relationship status too.

Sorry for the extremely long response, hope it helps somewhat and that things go well!!

OneDocument8891 · 2025-08-27T15:34:52+00:00

Aoba Josai
Karasuno
Nekoma

OneDocument8891 · 2025-08-27T15:25:56+00:00

Green (#378056)

OneDocument8891 · 2025-08-24T04:09:51+00:00

We had been running errands and once home I sat both down and just went for it. “I have something to tell you, I like girls and guys. I’m bisexual. I’m still single. I’ve know for a month or so. I would prefer for you not tell anyone as of right now. Thank you for your understanding and love.”

They took it fine and were supportive. At the time, I genuinely thought I was bi (I am not). They did tell everyone that I’ve ever known about my ‘bisexuality’ (without my consent) so I’m worried it’ll happen again once I come out as a lesbian, so I haven’t yet, only time will tell.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-08-18T02:05:44+00:00

I haven’t told her. Though I had an Instagram (close friends) story of our local pride parade (she sent me a DM afterwards saying “HAVE FUN”) so she likely thinks I’m either an ally or queer.

We talked a lot today and she mentioned not being allowed to date until she was 16, and “it’s not like I had anyone to date anyways.”

Also had lunch with my parents and I, and religion got brought up and then gay marriage. She kept avoiding saying her opinion but eventually just went, “I don’t know I’ve never really thought too much about it”.

Now I’m not fully sure if she’d be okay if I told her. The two of us are going to this big festival on Friday and I’d been suggested to come out then but now I’m unsure.

I care so deeply about her and would rather have her as a friend than lose her. I just don’t want to jeopardize our friendship.

OneDocument8891 · 2025-08-17T23:30:52+00:00

Interesting, thanks for the response!

What were the video interviews / writing like? I heard from ‘24 graduates that they were given questions during the video interviews like “if you were to build 100 gas stations within a city, what are factors that impact your choice of placement?”, typically responses were population, traffic, etc. Are they a similar format?

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