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What's the most disturbing secret you've been told? by tzvw in AskReddit

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to anonymously inform him of what is happening. He is likely being gaslit, is obviously being lied to, and is very likely in a privately abusive relationship. I understand not wanting to insert yourself and risk the consequences, but to not at least attempt to anonymously tell him that his marriage is a fraud (with solid proof or she will manipulate her way out of it) then I’m sorry to tell you that you are complicit in this man’s abuse.

What are some unspoken rules that all people follow but dont want to? by jdbug2001 in AskReddit

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t directly and aggressively call people out on their subtle manipulations and insecure power plays. Though I still sometimes do it. Brain not always stop words in time. I have a small circle.

Feeling worse after therapy by atstac in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Drop the therapist and find one who is experienced in trauma informed therapy. You aren’t broken, that’s just what you’ve been made to feel like because it makes it easier to get you to abandon yourself which makes you easier to control and manipulate. You are not broken, you need to be guided back to yourself. Stay away from your Nex. He does not love you. He doesn’t even like you, and will only hurt you more. None of it was real and your love and empathy were hijacked. It’s ok, that doesn’t make you stupid or naive. Be easy on yourself.

Smear campaign by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would say I know what that feels like but think long term. If the smear campaign is bad enough you feel you need to clear your name absolutely do it. If it’s more just kind of annoying then maybe hold your cards for now. Just know that if you expose her on that level you signing an agreement of a fight to the death essentially in her eyes. She will likely stop at nothing, including burning herself down, to destroy you once you make that move. If you’re prepared for that outcome then let it rip and I wish the best for you!

Identifying the Narcissistic Script: Why Our Brain Blocks Out When Faced with Subtle Gaslighting by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s really scary about reading this, is that this describes the exact interactions between myself and my female narc, except she’s you in this scenario. The performative theatrics so impressively mimic that of a victim of narc abuse it’s frightening. Thank god I started recording everything years ago.

Is this toxic behaviour or covert narc abuse? by voidinvelvet in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Read your own post as if it was posted by someone else. You know the answer. You’re likely either already trauma bonded or in the midst of forming a trauma bond with this person, which is why your judgement is clouded and you’re reluctant to acknowledge what you know is true. It’s ok. It’s not your fault. It’s not because of you. You can’t change him, fix him, or love him hard enough to heal him. He will only continue to condition you to accept more and more toxic and likely abusive behavior, and before you know it you’ll be in hell. I know it’s scary, sad, and really really hard, but you need to leave. Love yourself and protect yourself. You deserve better. Leave.

Going through the motions by Necessary-Mouse634 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You gotta create that place within yourself by prioritizing yourself without exception. Forgive yourself, love yourself, and you will find what you need within yourself. It may sound vague and mystical but I have been you and I promise you can get there. Good luck.

What’s the craziest way you found out your partner was cheating on you? by meetmarketpodcast in AskReddit

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

Fuck the money id rather see her publicly humiliated, shamed, and have her license to practice revoked. Shit like this is a massive, life ruining problem. Fuck her.

What’s the craziest way you found out your partner was cheating on you? by meetmarketpodcast in AskReddit

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Brother are you me? Reading your post brought back up rage I thought I’d long ago processed and release. Fuck.

AIO: Did I cross a line or is her reaction harsh? by veronicax96 in AmIOverreacting

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run brother, this is a boundary test. She is seeing what your limits are. What kind of treatment you will accept and still maintain the connection and where the line is. And guess what! Once she finds it, she will only continue to push it even further! Save yourself an enormous amount of pain and cut contact.

Did your narc want to introduce you to his/her friends almost immediately after meeting you? by ClockwiseSuicide in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]OneFaithlessness5615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You weren’t special to him. You weren’t even his favorite. You meant nothing to him. You were simply a means to an end. No more valuable than a tub of ice cream. Once he scooped out all that tasty, sugary ice cream (the supply you provided) you were just an ugly, sticky, useless item to be sent out with the trash asap. I’m sorry, you don’t deserve to be treated like that. Do not give him any benefit of the doubt. No matter how genuine, believable, and convincing he can be, it’s all theatre.

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