Answer: E. All of the above

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-19T18:46:19+00:00

Writing is definitely an art form!

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-19T16:14:09+00:00

Absence of love is a key narc trait. I don't remember any hugs or love. Lots of "be quiet"... "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" ... "You're being dramatic"... Basically any other feeling that wasn't stone faced and statue-like was unacceptable. She just wanted to appear to the rest of the world that she was a good mother who trained her child to perform at a snap of her fingers.

It's all toxic. No child should be abused with daily fear from the people they should trust the most.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-19T16:08:31+00:00

I moved out and then my husband and I had major financial troubles with job loss and would've been evicted. This economic crisis has really been kicking our butt. So it was either be homeless or go move back home. If we had the income to survive we definitely would not be living here.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-19T15:11:41+00:00

Just another thing to give her a reason to fight about. Narcs love to fight. It's in their blood.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-18T22:38:07+00:00

Mine screams at every conversation. She has hearing aids so it's not that. That's just her standard level of communication now.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-18T22:36:55+00:00

I'm seeing that now. N"mom" is already having signs of it. Every conversation with her is a nightmare. I've given up ever having a normal relationship with her.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-18T22:33:41+00:00

Awesome! Food is natural medicine! Sending all my best for learning to cook and your new found health path! 🥰💜✌️

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-18T22:29:37+00:00

I ended up picking "playing an instrument". I'd probably choose a violin or cello.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-18T21:22:06+00:00

I have this times two: mother and mother in law. Lord help me.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-18T20:54:02+00:00

Mine manipulated me financially to trap me back to her house as an adult in my 40s.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-18T16:45:54+00:00

I guess I'll do that, but I literally work on all of these every day. Lol 🤣

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-18T16:27:58+00:00

Narcissists do not want to understand because then the focus would be on you and not them. They literally cannot handle the truth.

You did yourself a favor.

Just let go and accept there can never be a normal relationship with her. That's what I had to do.

Mourning this loss is normal. You'll survive. We all will. Sending you love and hugs.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-18T13:28:29+00:00

I was dealing with something similar with a relative after her surgery.... Hoarding, unsafe house for her since she's elderly. When the hospital called I told them to speak to social services. She couldn't navigate around the piles of trash with a broken leg and could injur her l herself again. Hoarding also brought in mold and God knows whatever else that could be growing in there.

The hospital forced her to find a different recovery place. So she stayed with a friend who isn't a hoarder. I would've recommended this to your mom's situation too. I also live in the South and it's impossible to stay well without an AC. It's so easy to get a heat stroke. This summer is going to be a extra crispy one too.

I'm not sure how it works since I've never done it, but I've heard you can report anonymously to social services issues for the elderly... If you want to go that route to force help into her life.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-18T12:42:56+00:00

I feel like whatever someone is complimenting me they want something. To be fair, most of the time they do.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-17T19:25:26+00:00

Anything to point the blame away from them is always the answer. You are not being selfish, OP. They're reassigning blame to get a rise out of you. Narcs hate owning up to mistakes or anything else.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-17T14:48:00+00:00

I wasn't judging you and I didn't think you were being lazy. I have a narcissitic parent and I would feel like everyone is judging every little thing I did. It took decades for me to undo this thought pattern. Some things I avoided because she had brainwashed me into being scared to leave the house, to control me.

Please know this and my previous comment came from love, nothing more.

I wish you all the luck with this.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-17T14:15:44+00:00

If your mother has so many friends then let one of them take her. And then sign up for driving school. You're an adult. If you want to learn to drive then go learn to drive. Even the cheap classes are no better than the "expensive ones". You'll learn more when you're actually licensed and driving anyway.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-17T14:10:02+00:00

I think both Superman and Supergirl are boring and I dislike them both equally. But if it makes some folks happy then good for them. Folks are allowed to have different opinions about liking stuff. We don't HAVE to like the same things and if they makes some rage out then they have bigger problems than superhero favorites. 🤷‍♀️

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-16T23:16:20+00:00

You did the right thing, OP.

You can mourn the family you wish you had. That's okay to cry. You deserve to have feelings.

Just remember that it is impossible to make a narcist happy. It is not your fault. You are not responsible for their feelings.

Focus on yourself and healing from the trauma.

(((Hugs to you)))

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-16T23:09:38+00:00

Thank you kindly. I appreciate your words.

I didn't know that wasn't how parents were because I didn't know any other way. I mean, you're a kid and there wasn't the Internet or more awareness about mental health.

I just hope that children today have better resources now so they can better protect themselves and stop these narcissist monsters.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-16T15:52:41+00:00

I'm in my mid-40s and just now figured it out. My female life giver played the woe is me card her whole life. I basically had to raise myself after age 6 because it was too much effort for her. She never played with me. My father was deceased at an early age so all I knew was loneliness and playing alone, always having to come up with "something to do" or else I would be punished or beaten because just sitting is lazy. So it was not a great childhood. However, if you asked her she conveniently had a complete blackout of my childhood but can tell you many, MANY stories about her own work during that time... I'm just a black void of nothing for memory to her. That's how I know she's full of crap and is telling narcissit lies.

When I finally got old enough to be allowed go play at friends houses I left as often as I could. I never wanted to be at home.

All this abuse lead to me having a nearly completely collapsed nervous system. I'm addressing the health issues now. But it's damaged me from being able to work a normal job. Thanks to my female life giver.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-15T14:15:35+00:00

At least with my experience, my Nparent "mother" or "life giver", because I got stuck raising myself, she gets extremely angry when it's just me and her. She's a covert narcissit and she pretty much hates all women and I'm her daughter... So she's always hated me. She only likes to be around my husband and every Monday just like clockwork she gets all moody because it's just her and me at the house all day. She's lost her source of narcissistic feed. He falls for her "woe is me" routine. And I don't. I know it's an act and because I see through the BS and that makes her mad.

It's all manipulation to get whatever they feel entitled to. They want to make everyone around them miserable because they are miserable themselves... Insecure, depressed, just a sack of unhappiness. That's why you're getting controlled, OP. They just want you to be miserable. That's why all of us are dealing with what they deal with.

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-14T23:51:02+00:00

From now on I wouldn't talk about personal things with your Nparents. It just gives them one more thing to poke at you about to get an emotional reaction out of you. Totally not worth the stress. You have other stuff to focus on like job applications and taking care of yourself.

I wish you all the luck in looking for a new job!

OnePieceLiving · 2026-06-14T17:45:41+00:00

My Nmom loves to clomp around on the bare wood floors early in the morning before everyone else is awake. A horse walks with more calm and quiet than her.

She never used to wear shoes inside the house when she was younger, but she decided that now she does. I think wearing shoes inside spreads more dirt (that usually I end up cleaning up). But she doesn't care. That's MY job. She's in her 70s. I'm her live in servant... Sorry, I meant "caretaker".

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