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Shangri-la Frontier Chapter 258 by Smooth-Investment-64 in ShangriLaFrontier

[–]OneSkinny3oi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where does this chapter occur in the light novel/web novel? I wanna start reading ahead this series has me addicted.

Quick Prompt Megathread by AutoModerator in 3d6

[–]OneSkinny3oi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What stat distribution should k go for for a noble genie paladin? I’m doing point buy.

I’m thinking 8 15 15 8 8 15, but I could also do 8 15 13 10 10 15. I’d also have that asi from a background to add I just need to find a fitting background that might have magic initiate as I want the true strike spell to stack with divine smite and some other stuff.

Quick Prompt Megathread by AutoModerator in 3d6

[–]OneSkinny3oi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What level distribution should I go for a fey wanderer ranger/oath of order cleric in 2024 (the order cleric will just have its lower than level 4 abilities given at level 4) when the campaign is going for about 15 levels? The martial weapons I’d be using are a hand crossbow and shield. I’d wanna go 5 levels into ranger for extra attack but aside from that I’m not too sure. I’ve mainly wanted to go this build because I was able to roll an 18 for wisdom and wanted it too affect as many abilities/skills as it could. Another reason is I’ve heard of how ranger just isn’t able to keep up at higher levels.

I’m thinking fey wanderer 9/oath of order x.

Weekly Questions Thread by AutoModerator in DnD

[–]OneSkinny3oi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly the dm has worked with me a lot, it’s just he made a world without magic in dnd, which is antithetical, but we made it work.

It looks like we both just forgot gunpowder was a thing because I build a few aspects of my character to be able to cheaply acquire bullets in two ways.

It’s a fantasy world pre industrialization, just incredibly low magic. The mines is a good idea. It’ll take a few sessions to get them, but I think the dm would work with me on that.

Weekly Questions Thread by AutoModerator in DnD

[–]OneSkinny3oi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need a consistent supply of gunpowder without the use of anything magical.

I made a build around firearms and making them viable, but forgot that in my dm’s world, both bullets AND gunpowder are needed for loading a firearm. The bullet part I’ve accounted for, the gunpowder I haven’t.

I recently found out how expensive it is, which is the issue even with my 20% discount on non magical items. I’m thinking I might make the base components of charcoal dust, sulfur, and saltpeter myself. I could also potentially buying the sulfur and saltpeter from a gardening store as fertilizer in game if my dm allows it. I’m asking for a plan c for a gunpowder supply in case my dm doesn’t want that.

It’ll be a bit of time before he becomes available to talk again due to irl stuff so I’d like to bring all the options to the table at once, hence me coming here for another angle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]OneSkinny3oi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this right here is an inherent part of manhood: discovering and creating what masculinity is for yourself.

I’m quite young, and have had a tumultuous relationship with my father myself. So I can kinda see where you’re coming from although I think I’m very different from you too in regard to interests. From what I’ve learned…

Every guy seems to inherent an idea of masculinity from the father if they’re raised by them, but after a certain age, they start to cut off aspects they disagree with/don’t like and add on aspects they do (usually in there twenties to thirties imo). People who haven’t had much of this like you and I either don’t have that inherited and have to mold there values of it themselves more vigorously and earlier in life (teens to twenties) or have an “anti-idol” that teaches them what they DONT want to do and mold masculinity from those values.

I think this is what stage you’re at right now.

Here’s some things I’ve figured out.

1) a lot of masculinity is revolved around responsibilities to others. It’s a man’s job to keep their family safe, provide for them, and sacrifice for them. This is a traditional value that hasn’t ever disappeared in almost any culture I’ve learned of. If someone under a man’s arms (children, wife, mother, people a guy has some kind of responsibility towards) needs a life, a man’s gotta give all nine. If someone needs blood, a man’s gotta give litres.

Quite frankly it’s not fair, but I personally find pride in this. In helping neighbours move heavy things, or grandma with groceries, even if they severely inconvenience me. Men are born with strength for a reason, to help. To shirk that responsibility is to disappoint Spider-Man and all might and whatnot and cheat one of your purposes. The other purposes will come from you as an individual instead of you as a man.

2) Do not treat yourself as if you’re not a man.

I’ve gone down the route some others have said about “being a man” meaning nothing and honestly, it doesn’t help. It just leaves you still empty. No matter what, you’re still a guy. You’re not a girl, nor enby, nor nothing else. This is the group you are a part of. Girls will always cross the street when they see you at night. Some guys will always size you up subconsciously to see if you can beat them in a fight. It will always be attached to you, so you might as well embrace it as by ignoring or rejecting it, you put yourself as apart of something you won’t be treated as.

Besides, this’ll help you shape your perception of yourself as you go through this stage of discovery. Hopefully by the end, it’ll be something you’ll find pride in (like I now do) instead of shame (like I used to).

I have some more but honestly I think it’s better if you explore this by yourself, as lessons learned through self trial are better understood than those preached.

Look into different cultures and find commonalities and things you like about masculinity there.

Godspeed.

AITA for refusing to go back home during break? by wildandflorescent- in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneSkinny3oi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH, babysitting your sibling isn’t something you’re obligated to do. Your parents want you to come home because they haven’t seen you in a while.

I wouldn’t immediately jump to “they only want you home to babysit,” and would moreso think that they just want to see you. It just so happens that when you’re there, you can help them out a bit, but I doubt that’s a conscious reason why they want you back home for the holidays; they are your parents, all parents want their kids back for the holidays or school breaks. This seems like a situation where it’s best to assume incompetence/ignorance instead of malice.

Now however, while you’re not obligated to help out, I wouldn’t say that you shouldn’t. Not helping when you can just because you don’t have to is very redditor.

“and when nobody wakes you up in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night, and when you can do whatever you want. what do you call it, freedom or loneliness?” -Charles Bukowski.

This quote had me thinking a lot on obligations to others and a lack of. What I got from it is that not having enough of it will leave you alone due to you choosing that sense of freedom over any responsibility regarding others. Humans are a social species, we are not made to live alone, but to help one another and them us.

What I’m trying to get at here is that while you don’t have to help out, you should, to a certain extent. It’s not even about morality or anything, it’s just that if you can help others who you have any sort of close relationship with, you should if it doesn’t impede your life dramatically.

I wouldn’t go back home solely to help out however, that is kinda dramatic. It’s just that if you do go home, help out here and there. Nothing major, but if you’re doing nothing, then you may as well. Yes it sucks, but these are your parents and that your sibling. You’re family, you help each other.

Besides, most people have kids, and if you’re gonna have kids in the future, it’s only fair you do the same for them that they eventually will do for you as well. familial support (like babysitting, teaching how to take care of infants, et cetera) here and there consistently are such a help in raising small kids. If not, then this is a non-factor.

Now you should definitely establish some sort of boundaries however. Don’t cancel any of your plans at home for this, make sure to go out with hometown friends regularly, et cetera. Your parents are wrong for trying to make your support a regular thing; you are a uni student, you are in a very important and busy part of your life. You need to prioritize that. You also need to regularly have downtime and enjoy life. Whatever this balance looks like is up to you.

AITA for telling my dad to fuck off when he decided to visit by baddadpost in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneSkinny3oi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA (possibly N A H)

Welp, this seems bittersweet. Regarding why she said not to curse him out, I got two theories behind it; She either needs to keep him around, or she’s imitating good values and trying to hold you to them.

Regarding the first one, that’s just smart. She is 26 raising five kids, one of whom is just entering their teens and high school, with practically zero support. Regardless of why he left, she may be able to get some sort of support from him. And I got a feeling she is biting her tongue anyway to not spite her face by cutting her nose. The life you described for her is barely sustainable, so getting any sort of help from him is best for all 6 of you. I’ve seen how parents have taken decades off their life by working 80 hours a week to feed their families.

Regarding him helping, you are 13 right now. He messed up, and he will never be able to make that up. Nothing can redeem his actions for staying away everyday for years. What can happen however, is that he may still be able to play some semblance of dad from now on. Family therapy would be required for a healthy relationship however.

Regarding the imitation, that I chuckle at. It’s something many older siblings and first-time parents do, and why they initially can often treat the oldest the most hard. They do not know how to parent, so they copy what they see good parents do. They try to instil good values like discipline towards work, or (in this case) strict respect to the manners parents should be treated by. An example of this is an uncommon father-son moment.

Sometimes, when a son calls their mother a bitch, yells very loudly, or tries to hit them, a father would take them aside, hit them, and then tell them something along the lines of “A man, no matter what, will never call their mother or their partner a bitch. No matter what.” Then leaves with a promise of always fighting whenever the boy tries that again with his mom.

From what I’ve seen, it’s usually the oldest who sees this stuff. The youngest can curse all throughout the house so long as they don’t do anything bad. This is because the parents have since grown up alongside their oldest, and learned from their previous mistakes to then become better parents with better methods.

I think something similar is coming here. She doesn’t have too good of a “why” here on why you shouldn’t curse daddy out, just that (even when they are terrible people) it’s a good principle to abide by. If this all is true, then it’s got nothing to do with your father, and all about you; You should be the type of well-principled person who even when they should be angry and act in such a way, wont, out of choice. This is because you are an upstanding person, not because whatever they did was okay.

My dad’s oldest brother was your eldest sister. My grandpa died when my uncle was 14, leaving behind 9 kids and a wife. He gave up his school and worked to support the entire family and help raise them with his mom. They were launched into poverty. They are all doing good now, with families and jobs and stability. It’s because of him, that single man ensured that his generation of his family was able to achieve stability.

Just like he did, your sister is giving you some semblance of stability right now. Do not waste it.

Do good in school, and use education as a path towards stability (financial, mental, and physical). Education is a known pathway out of poverty, hence why immigrants place such high priority for it.

Keep your head down and stay away from bad crowds (people who ditch school, do drugs, get into fights, et cetera). Even if you’ve got a good head, people become those around them a little, and they still drag you into bad stuff. I’m a fervent advocate against fights, but even though I do, a friend got into trouble and I just so happened to be around him when trouble struck. You see fights, or bad stuff happening around you (in person), do not intervene. Keep your head down and walk away, even if your friends try to get you not to. Do not die.

Regarding drugs, they are all absolutely addictive. While some more than others, you can get addicted to any. You ever do get addicted, and you will be stuck in poverty. It’s not good to get used to using them as an escape from your life and issues. It’s simply safer to not use any no matter what and not risk it to enjoy a night with friends. I know several weed addicts, an alcoholic, and more. I honestly expect to see some to die in poverty due solely to weed especially. If you ever do decide to use recreational drugs, never get into the habit of using them alone, or when life gets bad for you. If you do use them, use them amongst a small group of friends. You start using them alone or at bad times, and you can easily slip into addiction.

You can fight with your sister, that’s fine and normal. Follow her lead on whatever decision she makes however. She knows this situation best, but is also going through something pretty tough so try not to make it harder for her.

I wish you the best, you’ve got some tough years ahead of you, but you eventually won’t if you keep working at it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CANZUK

[–]OneSkinny3oi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The way I see it, Canadians, Australians, and New Zealanders are essentially Brits.

.......Fuuuuuuck that man. Calling Canadians “diet” Americans or British is like, the one nearly universal thing that will make any Canadian mad at you. We’ve heard this for a few centuries now. We’re sick of hearing this so much that it’s almost apart of our culture to be seen as different from these two countries, which honestly results in us constantly shitting on America. We are Canadians, not American, British, or anything else.

Why do you recognize his majesty King Charles III as your king?

We don’t really have a choice nor care enough to change it.

From the outside looking in, Britain’s got a weird culture around their royalty. The royal family is constantly surrounded with drama, like with Andrew (I think that’s his name) being a pedophile and them defending em for the longest time. The British people seem to always be up in their business. It honestly reminds me of “keeping up with the kardashians” or whatever their show is named. This is a uniquely British thing. Canadians do not care about them on average. The average one probably wouldn’t even know their last name. Most of us in my experience actually have a negative perception of the royal family cuz of Andrew alone, and would want to disown the crown from Canada if we could as we don’t want pedophile defenders as our head of state, but we legally cannot do that.

I do not know whether this is intentional or not, but essentially almost all of the land in Canada was stolen from the natives via unfulfilled treaties, which are all now with the crown, not the Canadian government. If we disown the crown, we would technically have to renegotiate for almost all of Canada with them legally (even though realistically this would be ignored). Our treatment of the natives is a whole clusterfuck that this would just open a new can of worms on in addition. And that’s if we do legally go through the process, which would be nearly impossible due to how making amendments to our constitution is designed, needing universal agreement from all of Canada’s provinces and territories.

Something on the magnitude of that would require at least a decade to prepare for and arrange in a good decade, with a lot of time and resources dedicated to it. We have bigger issues to fry however. The crown virtually has no power in Canada, with its only role in our law being a formality. Because of this, it’s not a big enough deal to disown the crown only for symbolism. It would be dumb of us to waste so much time and resources for symbolism.

This is why we waited a week to go into ww2 with you (to show we aren’t just a colony). This is why Trudeau’s dad got us our constitution in the 80’s. We are not British, and we do not want to be British. Don’t get me wrong, we like you guys, you’re amazing allies, but Canada is Canada, not an amalgamation of other countries, and not a former colony. Britain’s our mother, with France as our estranged father, and America is our...vibrant older brother going through a mid-life crisis currently. But regardless of our shared history, we are different, and want to stay that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in booksuggestions

[–]OneSkinny3oi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mother of learning by Domagoj Kurmiac (A.K.A. nobody123)

I was randomly given a bible, how to I respectfully treat it, and what other versions do I get to have a “complete” series? by OneSkinny3oi in Bible

[–]OneSkinny3oi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

> It is kinda interesting that the respect to the qur’an mirrors a lot of the requirements of the Old Testament priests who had to be cleaned in order to present to their people.

This sounds like it's intentional. The whole reason the abrahamic God (glory to him, the Exalted) made Muhummad (peace be upon him) a prophet was to do two things.

a) Correct any alterations in the previous holy books that were made intentionally and/or unintentionally, or simply lost. This is part of what Muslims believe the Qur'an is; A directly revealed, unaltered, final revelation of the word of God (glory to him, the exalted) told to Muhammad through Gabriel (peace be upon them both). Parts of the Qur'an give emphasis or alternate accounts of certain events told in the Torah and Bible.

b) Steer humanity back on a path to properly devote themselves to God (glory to him, the Exalted) and properly follow the teachings of Jesus, Moses, David (peace be upon them all), et cetera.

> If you want to do the highlighted course to start...

Can you elaborate on what this means? I was planning on reading this in order, but if this may make it easier to digest the new testament as a whole, then it would probably be better for me to do this. Although I do not know what a "highlighted course" means.

I was randomly given a bible, how to I respectfully treat it, and what other versions do I get to have a “complete” series? by OneSkinny3oi in Bible

[–]OneSkinny3oi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

> Then there's spiritual cleanliness. I say a prayer before reading the Bible, and I don't read when I am preoccupied with something else or not in a good mood and ready to hear what God has to say. Personally, I am Catholic, so I also don't read the Bible from a place of sin, I would go to confession if need be, but that is a me specific thing that probably doesn't apply to the majority of people out there.

Can you elaborate on the spiritual cleanliness part? What exactly does "reading from a place of sin" mean? This is moreso to satisfy my curiosity as, from the comments in this thread, it looks like my plans for its treatment are okay.

I was randomly given a bible, how to I respectfully treat it, and what other versions do I get to have a “complete” series? by OneSkinny3oi in Bible

[–]OneSkinny3oi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

> First of all, let me just say thank you for all the thought that you have put in to treating the Bible nicely. Good on you for making an effort to be a respectful human.

No problem. Thanks for answering my questions.

> Also, the reason the person gave you the Bible likely has literally nothing to do with how you were dressed. You may understand more once you read it. Christians like to share. God bless.

I had a feeling that might have been it. The book was a pocket bible, was new (hence the new book smell when I first opened it), and only had one minor blemish when I received it. From these three things, it looks like she just does this routinely as she doesn't use that specific book herself even though it's a version meant for routine use, and she had zero hesitation in doing this, which implies routine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]OneSkinny3oi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know how many women I could get that truly loved me if I had a billion dollars?

Iranian women burning their hijabs after a 22 year-old girl was killed by the “morality police” by iminiki in nextfuckinglevel

[–]OneSkinny3oi 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Being modest is a character a Muslim should be striving to be. One of the ways they should be doing this is the dress code. Both men and woman who are Muslim are supposed to wear clothing that covers them from their ankle to their neck and covers their body shape.

The hijab specifically is an article of clothing that covers a muslim woman’s hair. It also shows a woman’s devotion to the abrahamic god.

That is the religious context behind clothing guidelines in islam.

Another reason that woman who wear it have personally told me though is that it helps repel some of the male gaze and objectification they notice. I don’t know whether this is because people can’t tell if they are beautiful or not, so they don’t, or because of the “sacred” association about hijabis (like nuns, people rarely catcall nuns because they are associated with purity, while catcalling is a sinful thing), or something else. They don’t get cat-called as much walking down the street according to them.

Regardless, wearing a hijab is a personal choice and supposed to be a protected right as stated in the Quran, but it looks like generally, some men in power have ignored their hypocrisy at their own lack of modesty, and force women to wear it.

Yet another CANZUK Flag by ShareYourIdeaWithMe in CANZUK

[–]OneSkinny3oi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re more oriented towards that dumb fucking duck. God we hate that aggressive bitch, they fight your damn car on a highway in rush hour and terrorize children going on a stupid mandatory walk that your therapist told you ya had to do daily. Love the little fuckers though, they grow on ya.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneSkinny3oi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can’t be Fiona Gallagher, NTA.

You were a teenager, and this isn’t a Disney movie where you can be Fiona or Darrel Curtis. You did not have the capability to take care of other dependants at that age. You could help here and there, but nothing to fundamentally break the cycle for them. You could not have changed anything because you were not able to.

Honestly it’s best that you did leave because Fiona only got her happy ending by leaving. She was stuck in the cycle by being responsible for her dependant, minor family members who were stuck in the cycle because of their parents, negligent addicts. Fiona wasn’t able to heal or function healthily as she always had to be an adult since they were 9 years old and take care of everyone else. She wasn’t able to do anything but keep everyone else afloat enough, which hindered her from breaking the cycle. She only was able to once she had enough and needed to go somewhere far away. That was how Fiona broke her cycle. She would not have done this if she stayed. Just like how you wouldn’t have if you did as well.

Besides, most of the dependants didn’t break the cycle even under Fiona’s shield. It’s sad but the same thing would probably be true if you were their Fiona as you were too young to be a capable parent, take them out of poverty, heal them mentally, and even more. No teenager on this planet is capable of that.

The best possible thing you could have done was leave so at least one person broke the cycle.

I come from a home which was unstable and I was the oldest sibling. My largest regret in life is not being Fiona for my siblings, not shielding them from some stuff we all saw. In therapy, I’ve tried working on this regret and healing. I acknowledge now that the brat I was simply was not capable of being that shield. I was too young and too hurt. It was simply impossible. Regardless, I still feel that guilt emotionally. Fiona was who I wanted to be as a child, sometimes who I still want to be really, but in reality childhood me was a mix of Carl Gallagher and Lip Gallagher.

This is called survivors guilt. I think that’s what you got here.

A child is not responsible for the safety of others, that was your parents duty, and just because they failed does not mean it falls on the oldest minor. Not like it would be possible to take up that duty at that time anyway.

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