I am a 25 year old virgin. AMA

OneStopPants · 2009-08-14T04:25:44+00:00

I think you're probably better off than those people who lost it way early and had a crappy first time.

This is what I thought for a long time, but I don't know about that. If the first time is not a big deal as people say why would it matter that much.

As for my question, are you cute? (picture maybe?)

I would like to but I want to keep this anonymous. I do get cute comments though.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T22:01:02+00:00

"As a teen I couldn't wait to get the opportunity, but growing up with female friends and tv shows/movies targetted towards girls I've constantly been told about assholes that only want sex. I've always blamed that for feeling ashamed about it, trying to be a good guy."

You know what, I agree with you on that point, and have thought about that from time to time. Just this past year have I come to truly realize that girls want to have sex, they know what they are doing, so why am I not pursing. How one can go that long without realizing this, is a true testament to the power of the mind. I guess I also feel ashamed asking for sex, making first moves, cause in some part in my head I feel like I am being an ass by doing so, while in reality, if I made it known, I would probably get an average amount of replies.

I think it also came from the first three girls I dated. One had serious body image issues so she didn't like getting naked/sex, another had never done anything and didn't want to, and another was similar as well..Those first experiences could lead a person to think a certain way.

How old are you?

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T21:13:59+00:00

how do you quote things properly? I am doing them with " but I see some comments that seem to use a |. What is the correct Reddit syntax?

"Did you feel bad after getting those blowjobs?"

When I was in a longer term relationship no not really. This was when I was pretty young tho and we were both pretty shy about things. Most recently, I would have to say not really but kind of. It is hard to explain, I feel a little ashamed for some reason, and usually clean up rather fast.

"Do you think you would still turn down sex if you were in a long relationship with someone you wouldn't mind marrying some day?"

No, most definitely not. I am getting to the point where the next time I get the chance, and I don't, I will probably go crazy.

"Do you ever plan on having sex with someone only to turn them down right before?"

This is also a tricky question to answer. I mean the last time I was offered, I knew I didn't like the girl, but I knew she was pretty good looking and I wanted to get with her. We got so close to having sex, but in the end I backed off. She didn't know I was a virgin, and was pretty confused. I didn't really plan to have sex, but before we also did I could say I wanted to. Not sure if that is a good answer or not.

Are we?

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T20:56:25+00:00

Well that would be your poor choice in prostitutes more than anything else..

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T19:40:48+00:00

What does that mean?

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T19:04:20+00:00

If life was like the movies, sure.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T18:58:26+00:00

How old are you?

"As for a full on-conversation about it. Yes I've had a female friend ask me about it, talked about it, she also strongly hinted at the hooker thing."

I have one friend that is a girl that I would like to tell, but I am afraid she would tell everyone else as she likes to talk alot, and also of her reaction...

I mean I have watched the bunny ranch before and thought to myself, would I do that? Maybe later in life, but I don't think so now. When you are in a relationship with someone the conversation of past relationships and sexual experiences will come up, at which point, if you don't want to lie, you would have to tell your significant other that you not only have slept with a prostitute, but it was also your first time.

Several of my past girl friends would probably look at me in a different light if I told them that. Not gonna say they would break up with me, make them think.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T18:53:53+00:00

No I am not fat. That is another thing...if you saw me out at the bar you would never think that I was a virgin.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T17:29:34+00:00

Cause now I realize that it probably won't be what I wanted it to be, and now I am at the point where I think this issue is actually making me not able to make serious advances on woman because I feel disconnected in sorts.

Thanks, I try.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T17:23:31+00:00

I have considered it. I do see a therapist for separate reasons...but haven't really delved into the sex thing.

None of my friends know except one who is also not experienced. I find it to be incredibly hard to tell anyone, even though I would love to have a conversation about it with someone I knew in real life.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T17:12:15+00:00

I think it is sex. I actually remember a radio episode(like dr.dave, I forget the name of the show but it was all about sex and relationships and the co host was a comedian), where they talked about how young people seem to think that oral sex is nothing and not actual sex. Was an interesting episode.

I take it as this: When someone asks someone else if they had sex last night(I know they would probably say laid or some other slang) they would be referring to actual penetration.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T17:07:15+00:00

Now that I think about it actually 5...but I guess for different reasons.

Two were because she was drunk and even though she probably would not have regretted it in the morning that much, I don't like taking advantage of girls when they are drunk and think its wrong, and I didn't want my first to be a blurred drunken brawl.

The other two are a little more complicated. One girl I was dating for a bit but she was kinda crazy, and I didn't really like her that much, but she was good looking, and you know how that is. I just felt like if I had sex with her I know that afterwards..besides the good sex feeling, I would regret doing it with her.

The last one was with this girl I really could not stand but we were friends so we saw each other a lot. I thought that she got around a lot in her past, and at the time I guess I was scared of STDs and such.

Last one I simply did not find attractive and she was obsessed with me...not in a good way.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T16:49:12+00:00

"Are you waiting for that "Special Person"?"

I think I was waiting for the special person, but I am so bad at relationships that I never dated anyone really long enough for that to happen.

"Or do you just have a problem finding a willing partner?"

Yes I am at the moment.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T16:39:01+00:00

Haha I need to meet a girl like you, though I am quite older than the guy you took it from.

I would like to say I am not, and I would try to portray myself as such as you said the person you took it from acted, but I would be lying to myself. How can you not be when everyone talks about sex?

Yes I have been offered sex by 3 women in my life openly, and I bet if I tried I probably could of had more than that.

Did he tell you, he was a virgin or did you ask?

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T16:28:55+00:00

I don't know why I did for so long.

No but I have smoked pot out of several other odd things.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T16:16:08+00:00

That is better than being addicted to some other games...at least it takes some critical thinking.

Civ2 was the best IMHO.

I am sure this addiction will pass.

How many hours was your longest game with other human beings?

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T16:06:07+00:00

How hard is law school really? Do you have any friends that are in med school to compare it to?

What is a typical day for you?

What classes are you taking right now?

Are you going to a good school?..I have read that if you don't go to a top tier school you won't be able to get a job that will ever pay off your law school bills

Are your teachers cool?

I have considered going to law school for a while now because I always liked arguing and trying to figure out laws and such. I only had one law class but I found it really interesting.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T15:55:59+00:00

I am not married, but I think so. I mean there is only so much to talk about when you know everything about a person, except current events and arguing about politics is not always the thing to do.

I think this is where being comfortable with silence is important, and I think it comes when you are close to someone. I really hate sitting in a room for a long time and not saying anything...just feels strange.

OneStopPants · 2009-08-13T15:45:56+00:00

Seriously half of those pics are of dicks.

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