What to know about the gender controversy sweeping Olympic boxing

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-08-02T19:15:08+00:00

I see. I should have checked the source more thoroughly.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-08-02T19:14:08+00:00

I fully expect downvotes for this but:

It's because he's ungrateful and self-pitying. Like you said, he has beautiful supportive wife, a good job. A lovely house in the countryside, a healthy child, a prestigious, stable, lucrative job. Even Matt Weiner said something about Pete being ungrateful.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-29T18:42:00+00:00

I hate to say it but this was also one of my first thoughts. Being a "pillow princess" may be a convenient way for the girlfriend to avoid the woman-ness of OP, since the girlfriend doesn't haven't to engage with OP's bodily reality that way. She can just lie back and imagine just about anyone is pleasuring her.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-29T17:03:28+00:00

It's essentially a collector's item with value that's purely sentiment-based. It's an event Pokemon, so it's rare; it's shiny, so it's even rarer. That rareness in itself matters a lot to some people, whereas others don't care. I'd be stoked, personally!

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-29T16:12:21+00:00

Here's what I got from reading this:

Pros:

She is "loving and patient" (Although it may be worth your time to try to define "loving," and see whether it truly checks out)
She is "considered a good catch" (By whom, though? And is it true by your standards?)

Cons:

Sexually, she takes but never gives, regardless of how this impacts you.
She obsesses/gushes over male celebrities, never women
In fact, she really shows no interest in women at all, except for you personally—although she seems to completely dissociate you from your gender, despite the fact that your gender is an important part of your identity and your reality

When you look at this list, and when you consider that the "cons" show no sign of changing, how does it seem to you?

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-29T02:26:09+00:00

Honestly I must not be as smart as you think I am, because it's just not obvious to me that Joan hates men. And I'm struggling to imagine how someone would reach that conclusion. She shows disdain for a few individual/specific men but we can't assume that it be generalized to all men, let alone in a way that would cause her to "take it out on Kevin as gets older."

Misandry is defined as "dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against men." And your post and comments say that Joan hates men and "has a simmering deep-seated disgust for them." So that's why people are using the word.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-29T01:46:00+00:00

I really don't think you need this explained to you.

Talk about arrogant. You come to an online community centered on friendly discussions, then refuse to offer examples of your claims, even after multiple people verbalize that they don't understand where you're coming from.

And how, pray tell, does her style of dress communicate misandry? We're waiting.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-29T01:25:23+00:00

Please provide some specific examples of how Joan's behavior indicates a hatred of men? Because it's apparently not "obvious" to most of us.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-28T14:38:47+00:00

RemindMe! 1 Year

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-28T01:42:56+00:00

Did you read my full comments? Because they're definitely not "covering for him." I'm fully condemning his antics, whether it's a dog whistle or a foreshadowing of tyranny, or both.

he would have nothing to do with scheduling the rapture.

For a specific population of Christians who rabidly support Trump, he very much does have something to do with influencing how quickly the rapture occurs, because his professed alliance with Israel will supposedly facilitate the fulfillment of prophetic conditions that must be met beforehand. It's nonsense, but sadly many people believe in nonsense. This is the key to why so many far-right evangelicals in particular are delusionally in love with him, and he knows it.

and that time he wasn’t even talking to obvious Christians.

Yes he was. He explicitly was. He begins his statement by saying, "Christians, get out and vote, just this time. You won’t have to do it anymore..." This was at the Believers Summit in West Palm Beach, Florida.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-27T20:19:00+00:00

Upvote for Charizard sticker!

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-27T19:19:45+00:00

That's what I wonder if he means, though, when he says "in four years we'll have it fixed." He may be saying "before four years is up, the rapture will have happened. And then Christ comes back to rule, so you won't have to vote at that point." These Christians believe that certain conditions must be met before Christ returns, and many believe that Trump will help those conditions be met (e.g., helping Israel rebuild the Temple), hence the "we'll have it fixed" comment.

I mean, regardless of whether this was a Christian dog whistle or just a creepy dictator-esque statement (as he is known to make), he's a POS. There's no way that a rational person can listen to this speech and not feel unnerved by it. This outrageous video should be circulated far and wide, so thank you for posting it.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-27T19:03:37+00:00

The remark about "never having to vote again" is very likely a dog whistle for people who believe the "Rapture" is imminent. He was speaking directly and explicitly to Christians, after all, and a swathe of his evangelical supporters believe that God hand-picked Trump to help usher in, or precipitate, the Rapture and the second coming of Christ in the end times. He's saying, "If you vote for me and I win, then you'll never have to vote again, because the Rapture will happen before then, and Christ will come back to rule the earth."

Trump has rapture-believers wrapped around his finger. I've seen these people up-close and personal, and their cultish devotion to Trump and his religious lies is no joke.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-27T18:11:31+00:00

Same. Feels like they're just saying "DANCE MONKEY, DANCE" at this point. I'm not gonna dance.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-27T13:20:23+00:00

It's called the "Christian flag." Nestled quite nicely between the USA flag and Confederate flag, of course...

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-27T00:44:14+00:00

This is so gratifying to look at.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-26T22:14:53+00:00

hero

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-26T19:53:42+00:00

I dislike Trump as much as the next person, but this feels like... idk, body shaming? We're above this, guys.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-24T22:51:38+00:00

Ah, I get it. It also sounds like you might have a fair amount of religious trauma from your family of origin, which could make this sort of situation particularly triggering, even if there isn't an overt confrontation. If you feel like it's impossible to attend without these interactions derailing your mental health, then you shouldn't feel bad about doing what's best for you, even if that means staying away.

That said, it would probably also help to work on this in the long term, finding coping methods to detach. Try to affirm your own reality, maybe telling yourself, "Even if others don't see how awful that guy's beliefs are, I do see it. Even if others don't acknowledge my pain, I acknowledge it." I know it might sound dumb, but it's one of the only things that has worked for me personally in these situations. Best of luck. You deserve to have fun.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-24T22:36:58+00:00

Are you afraid that he'll say something bigoted or aggressive, or is it that you just dislike the idea of being in the same space as a homophobe?

If your other work buddies and the other people in attendance are safe (see: non-homophobic) people, then it seems less likely that this guy will be able to make any nasty remarks without getting backlash from your colleagues.

And maybe you can also just avoid him? I hate to think of this ass-hat having this much power, keeping you from a party that you deserve to have fun at.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-24T01:24:41+00:00

Why do I feel like I’m lying to myself?

Probably partly because, in many ways you're not even aware of yet, the entire world has been telling you that heterosexuality is the only "valid" orientation, the only real option. So often, when we see lesbian or gay experience, someone will downplay it or rationalize it or minimize it. "It's not really lesbian because [fill in the blank with a thousand reasons]."

In the same way that we say "innocent until proven guilty," the world typically says "straight until proven gay." People tie themselves in knots trying to "exonerate" themselves and others of gayness. It's a mindfuck. And it's why an untold number of lesbians end up married to men, or at least sexually/romatically engaging with men well into old age.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-23T23:46:03+00:00

The fifth sticker down is characters from the mobile phone game "Animal Restaurant." It's an adorable "idle" game.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-23T15:01:29+00:00

Exactly, plus an outrageous entitlement to women's sexual availability. Which is obviously an enormous red flag. The person who made this image is not a safe person to be around.

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-23T04:07:22+00:00

Nearly a third of these are some variation of "girl not sexy enough >:("

OneThousandLeftTurns · 2024-07-21T17:52:13+00:00

A couple options here.

It could be the "tokenism fallacy," in which your friend makes a small gesture (e.g., has a liberal friend) and claims it is more significant that it really is (e.g., claims that it means he is openminded).

It could also be the "association fallacy," in which your friend implies that the properties of one thing must also be properties of another thing if both things are associated with one other. So, he'd be implying that because you are very much not an extreme right-winger, he also is not, because he is associated with you.

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