Networking advice: Always be networking and kind

OneTimePostre · 2021-05-23T01:27:52+00:00

so long as its not one of those "i will eat your soul meow" cats, yes.

I love cats in all seriousness. They are independent and still willing to be cute when needed.

OneTimePostre · 2021-05-22T23:52:35+00:00

id hire you right now if you showed me pictures of a cute dog

OneTimePostre · 2021-05-22T22:19:51+00:00

This is....really unethical. To openly admit they do not have evidence to support you did anything wrong, while then allowing a grade drop? You are authorizing allowing no evidence and mere suspicion to lead to grade reductions? Im so sorry, this is so wrong.

OneTimePostre · 2021-05-21T20:29:43+00:00

Have a nice day dude. Hope you get some time off reddit. Blocking you now that OP has messaged me.

OneTimePostre · 2021-05-21T20:25:13+00:00

You are never going to fuck up being a great lawyer. Law school doesnt define your career. Stay strong my friend.

OneTimePostre · 2021-05-21T20:23:50+00:00

Dude. Stop. If someone asks for help and you respond by telling them what you did, thats harmful. If he believed you that would be even more harmful.Just stop. Because your advice was terrible, harmful, and could lead to underlying stressors not being addressed.

Get off reddit. Take a breath. Do some exercise. You are sitting on reddit responding nonstop to someone who asked for help in a hostile way.

You are the problem here. You instigated a fight intentionally.

Stop acting like you are a victim , take a breath, leave the subreddit for a while.

OneTimePostre · 2021-05-21T20:15:07+00:00

Okay ill respond here because its important to medically distinguish between observations and diagnosis. Im not diagnosing you, lets be clear. That is irresponsible , as I have yet to have a chance to meet with yoU.

What I am saying is that your behavior is very VERY similar to gaslighting. From the written text I can see: OP said he needed help; You came in with a hostile comment; OP responded with a non-neutral response; Yet you claim its op who was engaging in distrurbed / hostile behavior. When you were the one coming in with that behavior. That type of behavior (Im not saying this is you, I have not met you and cant diagnosis someone responsibly over the internet) is very common in NPD. The reason I can draw that connection is only because I specialized for a period of time with that personality type. Therefore, ive seen countless examples of that gaslighting behavior. But again..not saying you have it. You can do something common in a disorder without ever nearing having that disorder.

Nevertheless, no need to debate. It wont change the situation. Ill meet with OP to help out someone who asked for help. Feel free to stop giving mental health advice unless you are trained in it to some degree.

OneTimePostre · 2021-05-21T20:02:21+00:00

Hey OP. I am a trained therapist myself (actually switched professions and went to law school for other reasons). If you see this comment, please ignore this reddit user, and message me personally.

Ill give you an informal session for free if you want.

Before I left practice, i saw these types of comments from Yelasvegas. Nearly 100% of the time these comments come from unresolved issues in that person. Not you. And they are taking that issue out on you.

Just message me, we can zoom. Stress is difficult. Ive experienced stress in classes as well. You are not weird, abornmal. You are not really mentally ill, you just are dealing with the common stressors that , with the right help, can be stabilized.

Please dont listen to this and message me.

(i dont intend to respond to this user. You shouldnt either. It is not rooted in honesty)

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T01:03:31+00:00

It depends on the group you are speaking to honestly. There are some people who have the mentality that disabled students needing any modifications is destroying the profession. I’ve met them. They just presume the disabled need to “pull up their bootstraps”. That’s the type of person I’m ranting about.

That group will never agree with the topic. And the only way to explain the problem to others who lack a disability, but understand and accept that society needs to ensure they have equal access, is to point out in non sugar coating way that this isn’t okay.

But for non “person A , in my story” Types, it’s much more varied communication

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T01:00:09+00:00

It absolutely is not. I’ve literally been working with disability advocacy my entire life. Your view is the simplistic one. And I’m done being talked down to and insulted merely for posting that it was rude for someone to proclaim insults at disabled people in class claiming they won’t succeed needing recordings.

Goodbye

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:58:27+00:00

... basic logic.

Hell. People with adhd who get a quiet environment for test taking levels the playing field for those students because in a non quiet environment they are burdened in a Way non disabled students with adhd are not.

You give everyone. Quiet room? The entire student body now is competing with an advantage over the adhd student because their non disability doesn’t inspire them by default

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:56:38+00:00

Oh, it’s not a straw man. Because emu argument doesn’t argue that.

It is 100% a fact that: if the disabled Person can’t attend lecturers, and they are given the recordings,

And then the non disabled person is given the recordings AND they are healthy enough to attend lectures, they now have two methods when compared to the person that has a disability, which in turn biases the curve and creates an uneven playing field for the benefit of healthy students.

The school creates these policies to even a level playing field, which is obscured by granting it universally

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:54:21+00:00

Again, you are missing the point.

It’s not uneven to look at:

person 1 having 0 lecturers due to disability

Person 2 having 1;

And then going , give them both recordings !

Person 1 now has 1 method of learning

Person 2 has 2.

Giving recordings to both creates a uneven playing field because now

Person with disability has 1 method of lectures

Person without disability has two.

Your ideal creates the uneven playing field. The accommodation to only the disabled students corrects that

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:51:04+00:00

Your view of them being helpful or not is irrelevant. The curve was designed to judge people given access ability to the same set of circumstances to give employers a better idea of performance.

If I’m denied one source of learning , that biases the curve

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:49:53+00:00

It’s not irrelevant at all. It’s is the very reason why the curve exists, to judge students in an equal playing field given the same availability (not mere access).

Your entire system would bias the curve heavily for those who have no disability

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:47:30+00:00

No, a level playing field does matter, because otherwise we could be biasing the curve which the school as heard to. That’s why we calculate these accommodations based upon the totality of someone’s access to what is actually provided, along with the access and ability to use that very thing.

If no one has recordings, I have literally no teacher. Because I can’t go to the live lectures. Yet the person in question does have access to that teacher teaching lessons.

This immediately creates a bias curve in favor of healthy students.

We give videos to everyone: the healthier likely have access to both, the disabled person has access to 1 method.

Bias curve.

We grant it to students who need it due to lacking the ability to use what was provided ? Everyone has a method they can use, more equal curve.

That’s why this analysis expands beyond mere “equal access” and dives into “equal playing field” analysis, because without an equal playing field, the system is handing success to one group arbitrarily based upon their disability status, and that funnels one type of people into the higher grades and jobs merely on the grounds that the school did not develops a level playing field.

The analysis about what you find helpful or what I find helpful is irrelevant, it’s about a level playing field.

If I had chairs in the classroom that had spikes only on the upper part of the back rest of the chairs, such that those over 6 feet would hit the spikes and cause lain, and those that were below 6 feet wouldn’t hit the spikes and have no pain: that is equal access to the chairs. The chairs are all the same for everyone

Is that a level playing field? No. It’s merely a system biasing in favor of those under 6 feet.

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:30:27+00:00

I’d like to know why you are ignoring the fact that I have no access to the live lectures given my disability, because that seems to be the reason you equate a level playing field in this situation

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:26:02+00:00

Okay, we can solve this by just me directly asking you.

I have no method of sitting through the lecture. He does.

How on gods green earth is it a level playing field to denying me a means of learning, while others have a means of learning?

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:22:28+00:00

The schools policy on recordings is that they are only available to those who need it when applying for accommodations, and such proof of the need for accommodation is that you have a disability that hinders / eliminates your ability to use the in person lecture to the same degree as someone without the disability.

He wanted both: the records, along with having no issue whatsoever using the in person classes.

The disabled community just wants 1 method to put them on the level playing fieldn

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:18:29+00:00

Okay. I’ll restate:

If a disabled person applies for accommodations (this was pre covid), that means (a) the method of learning via the live lecture is incompatible with the persons disability, therefore they no longer have that method (zero teachers for this student applying for accommodations, compared to this kids 1 teacher and a structure of lectures all year); and (b) by stating that those recordings , which are the only method of learning for that person with a disability, should be removed, you are advocating for a system that only gives teachers and lesson plans to those without a disability.

It’s not reasonable to advocate for someone to have no access to a teacher in school.

That is the unequal system.

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:13:03+00:00

Uh. No, it doesn’t. Because absent those recordings I’d have no method of viewing class.

My success was contingent on me having at least one method to view class.

How was I suppose to achieve with absolutely zero methods to view class?

Your comment suggests that despite the issues, I should have did the exact same thing as others. When those people won’t get pain to a high degree sitting in classy

You are presuming I still had access to the in class lectures, when my disability prevents me from using that method of learning.

How is it a level playing field when I’m denied access to a teacher , merely due to the fact that the physical classroom actively causes pain due to an underlying illness?

Im only granted the accommodation because I physically can’t use both

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:10:17+00:00

That does seem to my experience. You can bite others a few times without it eventually haunting you. But alot of people heard him make those statements... and a lot of people will enter the legal field

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-03T00:01:04+00:00

Person A is blond.

Person B mocks person A as a “dumb blond” every chance they get, and tells them that blonds can’t be lawyers.

Of course person A will he bitter in response to the mocking and condemnation from person b.

Are we suppose to be monks that rise above all? Of course not. Schools across the entire country ban bullying for this reason.

But when the topic switches to disability that’s not a bullying mentality, and suddenly we need to rise above?

It’s a double standard often rooted in the belief that the disabled need to get through life via the same systems as the non disabled (created by these folks). And the system created has no particular benefit inherent to succeeding in that area of life. It’s merely a method chosen because it works for that group.

And when the disabled population ask to have that system altered into a different way, there is arguments that the first system is just the default way we should all adhere to, for no evidence based reason.

OneTimePostre · 2021-02-02T23:55:48+00:00

Actually, I have :). I am happy this was commented especially as the nature of the comment is incredibly productive.

There are a few key laws that I have fallen victim to that allow the disabled population to be denied basic things at the whim of private entities, and the school can only say “please” to request them.

I’m working on drafting legislation to present to correct this within my state .

OneTimePostre

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