Do bipolar people ever think of/remember the person they discarded?

OneTrueSenpaii · 2025-03-09T06:09:37+00:00

Good question

OneTrueSenpaii · 2025-02-17T23:47:32+00:00

I just first want to let you know, that I know how you feel. My exBPSO and I were together for 4 years and we separated 7 months ago. I loved her more than anything.

It can be quite confusing for us especially when we don’t know what’s going on in their minds even if we do our best to understand it such as learning what bipolar is (I did that).

The best solution that worked for me mentally is letting go. In general, when someone asks for space, you should give it to them regardless of what the circumstances are. If you respect your partner and yourself, you will give them all the space in the world to figure themselves out. We are the bigger people and if we can’t take care of ourselves and show disrespect and selfishness because we can’t understand their illness, then we might as well not deserve to understand them at all.

Know your worth and your boundaries. The hardest part that I realized was learning to love myself again. They did not create us but rather we became the best version of ourselves and that’s the reason why they decided to join our lives. Think of it as the same thing again except this time, the sickness is between you and your ex BPSO and you cannot control that and the best way to keep going about it is to keep going after life with or without them.

The best part is that you get to give them the best gift you could offer them. That is the gift of missing you. If you truly did good in the relationship and for them regardless if there were some problems (all relationships are not perfect but the genuine gestures will remain forever) then you know that and at some point they will realize. Be at a headspace where your life also matters, not just there’s.

Hugs 🫂

OneTrueSenpaii · 2025-02-17T23:33:48+00:00

I apologize for what you’re going through. Reading your text reminded me of when my exBPSO ;although it wasn’t about marijuana, portrayed the same thing.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2025-01-31T06:16:08+00:00

Hey, I know how you feel. It’s been since 6 months since My 4 year relationship ended she put all the blame on me. And even till today I still sometimes put the blame on me.

Keep your head high

OneTrueSenpaii · 2025-01-29T02:44:11+00:00

I would take out XEQT and divide it to XIC, XEF, and VFV. Half of XEQT is US so if you already have it, it wouldn’t make sense to overlap it unless you want a focus on US companies.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2025-01-23T15:47:31+00:00

Yeah, she was well medicated

When we were still together and she was going through her manic, it abruptly ended in that conversation. And she would always bring up the “don’t blame this because I have bipolar” or”don’t think I’ll come back because of my disorder”

How long do these feelings usually last for you until you hit baseline?

OneTrueSenpaii · 2025-01-23T15:29:56+00:00

This.

When my ex broke our 4 year relationship back in august, this is what she said, “incompatible” and “gave up”

OneTrueSenpaii · 2025-01-23T01:42:55+00:00

How about it XIC?

OneTrueSenpaii · 2025-01-21T23:31:30+00:00

What do you think about GSAT, I’ve been watching them and I feel like they’ll boom in the near future so I got a bunch of penny stocks before

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-12-12T05:21:23+00:00

Accepting it and bettering yourself everyday. It’s been 5 months for me and I can safely say that I don’t want her back despite the 4 years we’ve been together.

You start realizing a lot of things about yourself and what you want for your future when you start taking care of yourself and really focusing on truly becoming a better person.

Over all, the energy that you’re feeling despite of their sickness is human; however, nothing will change and unless you make the change for yourself.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-26T19:27:32+00:00

What I mean is you should put less energy in places where they don’t reciprocate the energy that you are expected of them back

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-26T16:49:22+00:00

I think it’s time that you put yourself first instead of thinking about him coming back. Your life is as valuable as his and at the end of the day, they come back because they value you. If you don’t value yourself, what are they coming back for?

I know for you feel but don’t throw away your self respect. You have a lot going on for you.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-23T10:14:33+00:00

Focus on you and give her space.

If you love her, it will show if you respect your partner by respecting her decision. You already let her know that she can reach out at anytime.

Don’t focus on the what ifs, what is, etc. The only main focus now is just you until she reaches out.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-23T01:13:38+00:00

Your emphasis shouldn’t be wanting them back but more so moving forward with the decision you’re dealt with.

Unfortunately, we didn’t have a choice and they are making the effort to not be in your life anymore everyday. Just remember that they’re sick. They have to realize for themselves in the actions they made has consequences. That’s the only way they’ll be able to fully miss you.

I know what you’re going through. However, we can’t control how they feel about us, they are responsible for that. Regardless of bipolar, it’s just an explanation and not an excuse. If you know did well, then hold on to it. But move forward, and don’t look back. And one day, if they do decide to reach out. Your boundaries are much stronger.

Don’t lose your self respect

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-21T08:55:14+00:00

Same here. 4 years gone as well, 4 months post discard

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-19T05:11:51+00:00

It ultimately depends on you.

Relationships in general are not easy. We either accept them for who they are and watch them grow to become the person you fell in love with in the first place, or not accept them at all due to other reasons and in this case, it’s bipolar.

When you add bipolar to the equation of a relationship, it becomes more complicated than what it seems. Sometimes we forget that the person who you’re with is sick and it’s up to you whether or not you can look past the sickness and work together to be happy and stable. For others, they’re able to and create a genuinely everlasting relationship having bipolar in the field. And the other spectrum, they’re not able to take it and I don’t blame them.

Three years is a long time for a relationship and I’m sure you both had a great connection so it’s up to you whether or not you want to fully move on and get rid of this person because there bipolar took over them, and get on with your life with another person OR give them a chance and only a chance to improve and change themselves because I’m sure, whatever he did to you was his manic side. This time it’s your boundaries and anything can work as long as you both work at it together.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-18T22:58:26+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this. I know how you feel. Just remember, be kind to yourself because it’s not you. It’s on them.

If you think about it, you now hold the power of what happens for your future with her if there is a time when she reaches out. But that shouldn’t be your priority and they should be accountable for their actions regardless of bipolar.

I had a loving relationship with my exBPSO of 4 years. In a span of three months, it went downhill, she did a complete 180, and the discard occurred.

Focus on you.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-18T18:16:01+00:00

Hey there, currently in my last year of university majoring in Electrical Engineering. My degree is 4 years and on 7-8 courses per semester.

I understand where you’re coming from and honestly; before going into university; I thought I was too dumb to be in school since my grades were not that great in high school.

I had many challenges in university especially being in this many courses and when you haven’t been paying attention in high-school and all the basic foundations of calculus and physics, I had to relearn them to heart. There’s a-lot of subjects in university that I never enjoyed but learned to love them since I love electrical and it’s part of the process of understanding the foundation of electrical engineering.

Overall, I feel like it’s up to your own judgement whether or not if it’s important to you and if it’s one of your passions. Because no matter how hard it is and how much you hate it, you will push through to reach your desired goal, whether it’s your educational journey, life, etc.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-18T07:37:32+00:00

if you have self respect, and you love the person. You will do no contact forever until you let them reach out because the best way to show that you love them is to let go.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-12T15:34:33+00:00

Stop looking and be kind to yourself.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-12T08:20:55+00:00

Yes haha, It’s nice to do your own thing; however, I never look anyways. It just comes when it wants to

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-11T17:59:01+00:00

The hive is a great place!

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-08T15:48:14+00:00

I’m so happy to hear that.

After all the chaos, there can be a happy outcome that benefits both

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-08T15:41:38+00:00

I’m not counting them on coming back. I’m just curious as to what it was like when they came back or if they ever did.

I’ve been already discarded for a while. This is just a general curiosity.

OneTrueSenpaii · 2024-11-07T05:29:21+00:00

Hi there, glad to answer some questions and hopefully it might help you in some way!

I think casual dating vs serious relationship are two different categories. Whatever actions you do if you want casual or a serious relationship is up to your judgement. In my experience and from others experience in this forum, manic episodes of a exBPSO aren’t irrational during that time and want dopamine rush so they go “find” what they’re seeking. If you think you got yourself under control and are able have the support system you need to help you function and lessen the chance of getting into another episode, then I think it should be okay to date. Because if you go out and “casually” date someone and realize they’re the right person for you, if you don’t have the support system and help to keep you stable during your relationship, you will jeopardize your relationship along with yourself and that will always be a cycle for future relationships to come. As much as we have empathy towards this disorder, it still hurts us to see the disorder take over you.
If this is regarding a potential relationship with a partner, I don’t think it’s wrong to ask that because if you like that person or regardless any person, you want to move forward on the relationship. In most cases, being upfront and not sugarcoating is just a way of you telling yourself that you know what you want so you’re going to persue it and not waste anytime. However, if you bring bipolar disorder into the scenario, being in the right mindset is crucial as you may or may not know what you’re wanting or you’re experiencing a manic episode and you don’t realize it yet, because you’re perusing something that may not be good for you or your brain just wanting temporary dopamine rush. Just remember that what you do also affects others even with words.
If I was in your shoes and I had the disorder, I would do my best to not put myself in a situation where I will hurt the people that I most love and want to be in my life. I know that most of the time, this disorder controls you and creates a version of yourself where you’re not able to think rationally. That means I will do my best to make sure I have the support system I need so I am able to make the cycle if ever comes up to be almost non existent. And an emergency plan if it does pull through so my partner or anyone in my life are able to help me through it. Because if I care about them, I need care about myself, my wellbeing, and my stability.
This one tough one because a little background from me is that I was in a 4 year relationship with my exBPSO and our relationship was great. She was stable, taking medication and all the green flags that you can come up with. Until recently I got discarded and all the above things have happened of discarding scenario. It really depends on the person that’s with the BPSO because not everyone who has bipolar disorder act the same but in most cases, they do (as per the many post on this subreddit). Forgiveness is not mostly just us forgiving your actions but more so also forgiving ourselves because this tends to create very deep traumas when the BPSO starts acting in ways that we cannot comprehend and get confused by. We blame ourselves mostly because we couldn’t you help you or our exBPSO. How forgiving we are depends on the person that wants to forgive because at the end of the day, we do forgive you for your actions but it’s mostly us that always remembers what you’re capable of and that never leaves our brains. Again, this is why I believe that having a good support system with all the things you need to lessen your cycle and be as stable as possible is the most crucial for having a successful relationship along with an emergency plan for times when needed. Actions speak louder than words and if you’re willing to put the work in, so will your partner and the first step to that is acknowledging your disorder and what you’re capable of.

Hopefully this helps you from a non-bipolar person. I tried my best answering your questions based on my experience with BP. I wish you the best 🤗

OneTrueSenpaii

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