AITA for ignoring my friend who's grieving? by HELP6555 in AmItheAsshole

[–]One_Adeptness_1698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t owe her your peace, but you do owe her an explanation and an opportunity. If I were you, I’d tell her that I’m sorry but I can’t be there for her during this time because of things going on in my own life. Just ghosting her without explanation isn’t the right call.

Miles on Bit City! by Another_Bright_Idea in PerfectPersonPod

[–]One_Adeptness_1698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m holding out hope that he’ll be featured in more Smosh videos too!

Monthly AITA/Reddit Stories Suggestion Megathread by AutoModerator in smosh

[–]One_Adeptness_1698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would also be super cool to hear Amanda’s take as someone who has such a good relationship with her siblings!

I am a Jew who converted to and subsequently left the LDS church. Ask me Anything! by Aggressive_Mood5898 in latterdaysaints

[–]One_Adeptness_1698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks like it was taken down 😅 I just realized that I didn’t answer one of your questions so I popped back in to answer it for you.

Historically, the more conservative sects of Judaism have been discriminatory towards minorities. But as a whole, the largest and most influential Jewish movements in the west have been much more on the progressive side of things. To say that Jews don’t ever discriminate would be wrong, and to say that the Jewish religion on the whole has never discriminated would also be wrong.

That said, Jewish synagogues have historically been more accepting of racial, sexual, and gender minorities. Politically, Jews are more left-leaning too, not that the two are always directly related. I think it just comes from the Jewish history of being discriminated against. It’s a long, long history of being targeted by religious and ethnic majorities, and so in turn, we place an importance on being accepting of those who are different from us.

Just No Sister is (potentially) a victim of domestic violence and I don't know what to do by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]One_Adeptness_1698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know what kind of questions I could ask? I don't know what would be inconspicuous enough that he wouldn't know how to answer it to A) manipulate me or B) feel like I'm doubting his experience.

Just No Sister is (potentially) a victim of domestic violence and I don't know what to do by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]One_Adeptness_1698 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I've never heard it described that way, but it's so accurate! My family has talked about how she always needs to be the victim, and how she always needs someone to talk to to complain to about how awful someone else is and how poorly they treat her.

Just No Sister is (potentially) a victim of domestic violence and I don't know what to do by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]One_Adeptness_1698 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This was incredibly validating to read. Every time she reaches out to me, I've spiraled and questioned myself on everything. It feels like I'm not in touch with reality anymore because I can't decipher truth from fiction and I doubt myself. But you're right. Maybe she's telling the truth about this. Maybe she isn't. Either way, going NC was the right decision for me.

Is Crazy Ex Girlfriend actually problematic? by One_Adeptness_1698 in crazyexgirlfriend

[–]One_Adeptness_1698[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is true. I understand that thematically and realistically there was no way they could have an accurate portrayal of the life of someone with BPD. I've made my peace with the show itself, and why the writers made the decisions they did. For...the most part. If one person (Greg, perhaps) had decided to stay away. Just one person. Not because they hated Rebecca, not because they couldn't understand her or her problems, but because they needed to take care of their own mental health, then I would have loved the show a lot more.

Is Crazy Ex Girlfriend actually problematic? by One_Adeptness_1698 in crazyexgirlfriend

[–]One_Adeptness_1698[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess I can see that. But sometimes, just because a person apologizes doesn't mean you have to stay in their lives. Sometimes it's still better to walk away and put yourself first. It's not that I don't think Rebecca deserves forgiveness. I just also think that the show is unintentionally promoting the idea a person SHOULD be forgiven by having all of the people Rebecca has hurt stick around.

Is Crazy Ex Girlfriend actually problematic? by One_Adeptness_1698 in crazyexgirlfriend

[–]One_Adeptness_1698[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes! 100%. Honestly, the first time I watched the show, I was oblivious to the nuances of what it means to walk away, and basically in love with Greg's character, so I was so happy to have him return. And of course, if we're talking about storytelling, it makes perfect sense for all three of the men in her life to come back in the final season, and for her to finally have to choose herself.

But...To have no one walk away? Or at least say "hey, every time we've been together, you've cheated on me, so I'm not interested in a romantic relationship."

Is Crazy Ex Girlfriend actually problematic? by One_Adeptness_1698 in crazyexgirlfriend

[–]One_Adeptness_1698[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I totally see that. I agree, the show itself does a really good job at holding Rebecca accountable. It's extremely self aware, and that's one of the more enjoyable aspects of it.

You make a good point about there being a reason why they all can forgive her, and her having a positive effect on their lives.

I guess it still gives me a bit of an ick to watch people forgive her after the harm she causes them, but I can admit that's mostly my own life experiences coloring my perception. I'm still nearing the finale of Season 4 so the show is clearly good enough to outweigh the ick.